Sweet pea running

Ok sobues I know she still is new to my house but I have two small ( one major irritating) problems. One she runs from us and I have been patient and hadled meal times and going to see what's the matter whe n she yowels. How do I get her to trust me and my husband more? The last owner said she has made more leaps and bounds in 3 days that took her months but I'm so used to my other cat it just buggs me that she doesn't want the attention that our other cat does. The other problem is she yowels at night until she has her new sister ( my 3-4 year old cat in her sights and gets her sniffs. Is this cause she is not spayed( which is going to be scheduled after we get our taxes back) or could that be caused by her being in a new place and it will go away over time?

It sounds like she was not socialized to humans as a kitten, perhaps she had a feral beginning.  It can take ferals a very long time to trust.  Their instinct is to run first, ask questions later.   You are a big tall oddly shaped creature to her, as all humans are.  She is cat-oriented and she trusts your other cat.  In fact, that is probably why she has made more progress at your house more quickly.  Your other cat is the one who will teach her to trust you.  You need to embrace the fact you have the chance to give a scaredy cat a home, and see that she needs YOU and her sister cat, and let go of you needing anything from her.  She is a chance for you to give unconditional love to a cat, being glad your other cat can give you something back now, and will give her something too.  She will learn from your other cat that she doesn't have to run, but she may still run away when you are standing up.  

Read Grey Boy's story by my signature below.  He has been with me several years and still scoots away when I walk towards him.  he still will not let me touch him either, but when his buddy Bigfoot was alive, he followed him everywhere, and would join Bigfoot in the bathroom with me in the morning in order to be petted and get his back scratched.  Last September, Bigfoot was killed when a neighbor's 2 dogs dug under their fence and then dug under my 6-foot chain link fence and although I was on them in a minute, it was too late, and they had killed Bigfoot.  Grey Boy mourned for about a month, looking for him, waiting by the door, and eventually gave up looking, but he has never let me touch him again.  He comes to the door of the bathroom and wants to come in for a back scratch, but without Bigfoot to show him it's safe, he just can't do it.  He is better now in that he doesn't run so fast if I move towards him, just scoots enough to keep proper distance, and he will eat chicken out of my hand, and he even touched me with a paw to get my attention recently, a first for him.  He has not yet chosen a new buddy from the other cats here.  Bigfoot wass his age, his size, a boy neutered late in life.  But I don't need anything from Grey Boy.  He needs us, his family, and that's enough.  I have other cats who cuddle, and maybe he'll be buddies with one of them someday, but maybe not.  I don't need him to be anything to me, I just want him to be happy and comfortable. 

You can learn a lot by reading threads in our Ferals & Rescue forum, and I hope you will go there today!  Good luck with your new needy girl.  Don't be angry at her.  She's being the best cat she can be.

I'm sorry about bigfoot my other cat( Tabby's son) was killed by a dog unfortunately I was at a interview and the dog was our dog. We ended up moving and having to get rid of the dogs and Tabby started acting out by pooping in the tub ( litter box cleaned every day or two) so I knew she needed a playmate. But what about the yowling. She woke me up at about 5 this morning. I have to be at work at 10 in the morning so I get up about two hours later but we live in an apartment so we don't want her to disturb the neighbors. What can I do about the yowels

I am ASSUMING the yowling could mean that she is IN HEAT and that problem will go away as soon as she is spayed.  Perhaps you could manage to do it BEFORE getting your taxes back, if at all possible.  Of course if being with the other cat calms her down, perhaps you could shut the two of them in a room together for the night, even a bathroom.  You dont want to get evicted because the neighbors complain.  Is there a low-cost neuter/spay group in your area?  We have one in our area that will contribute $25 for each female you get spayed, they pay it directly to whichever vet you use.  We have a spay van that charges $55 for a female, so with that $25 donation from the animal welfare group, it only costs me $30 to get a female spayed (plus $13 for a rabies shot, required by law.)

Until you can get her spayed, I found I could sleep in the bedroom with my unspayed female who was in heat by wearing Mack's Pillow Soft Silicone Putty EARPLUGS, available at most drug store chains.  You can still hear, but the sounds are muffled and seem far away.

http://www.macksearplugs.com/

The yowling stopped after that night I was afraid that it was going to go on alot longer than just that one night but she has became more comfortable with going to find Tabby and learning that as soon as we wake up she gets fed. It honestly sounded like a yowl not a meow so I'm just going to assume that it was from being in a strange place and taxes are supposed to come back tomorrow so she is getting spayed within the next week

In heat yowling is definitely yowling, so I'm glad she will be spayed soon and you can miss out on that.  The vet may tell you to keep her away from the other cat while she heals, but if she needs your other cat to feel calm, and they don't fight or run and play, it should be fine to keep them in one room together.  It sounds like you re off to a great start with her.