My s/o isn't a jerk, usually, but on the rare occasions when we fight, he always manages to make it all my fault. I would just get mad, and things would really blow up. One of the things I am learning in school, mostly pertaining to clients, is learning to be assertive without being aggressive, and I think it is confusing him.
I just wish he would occasionally get up from the computer and DO something. He always tells me to let him know if anything needs to be done, but I am neither his mommy or a nagging bitch, and usually find it easier just to do things myself, which really irritates me. Then he acts all insulted and says "why didn't you say something?" If I do ask him to something, he acts like I am bothering him. I am about ready for target practice on the computer.
We are supposed to be selling the old motorcycle, but it has been sitting without wiring for a year and a half. Every time I mention it, he gets mad, goes to the garage and does just enough to shut me up. I am going to pay someone to fix it this Spring when we have the money, I guess. He says it is not the time of year to sell it, but if it does not get fixed, that time of year will come and go AGAIN.