Missing my Tony

It's been 2 weeks today since Tony went to Rainbow Bridge. Still miss that little guy so much that it hurts. i've loved every cat we have ever lived with, but I have to say that my Tony was super super special. He had such a sweet, gentle, loving disposition, and not a mean bone in his body. Don't think there will ever be another one like him. I know all of you can understand what I (and Paul) am feeling. We love our Angel and Tippy, and someday may find that special other kitty, but I can't even think of it at this point.

At two weeks, it's still pretty raw.  And when one of those truly special ones gets into your heart, it takes a long time to recover. I've been there, as have most of us here.  I wish there was some way to ease the pain but it seems we just have to push our way through it.  I am so sorry for what you and Paul are going through right now.  These anniversaries always make it harder.  May you some day get comfort from memories of happier times. 

RIP Tony

to you, Lana.

kookycats said:

It's been 2 weeks today since Tony went to Rainbow Bridge. Still miss that little guy so much that it hurts. i've loved every cat we have ever lived with, but I have to say that my Tony was super super special. He had such a sweet, gentle, loving disposition, and not a mean bone in his body. Don't think there will ever be another one like him. I know all of you can understand what I (and Paul) am feeling. We love our Angel and Tippy, and someday may find that special other kitty, but I can't even think of it at this point.

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Hugs to you! It has been almost 3 years since Freedom Belle went to the Bridge and she was my special kitty, not a mean bone

in her body, so mellow and loving, and she was my shadow and we adored each other. I lay in bed at night and I will think of

her and I swear, sometimes when I do this I see with my eyes shut her materialize in my sight, just like she is with me. 

I am so sorry for your loss, they just do not get to be here long enough.

2 weeks can sometimes feel like 2 hours when you are grieving. 

He misses you too. I'm sure that he left instructions with Angel and Tippy to take care of you and Paul for him until he can take over again someday. 

You gave him a wonderful life full of love and friendship and this will stay with all of you forever. 

RIP sweet Tony. You will always be missed and never be forgotten. 

If it is meant for you to have another kitty, it will happen naturally. Tony may even guide one to you if he feels that it's the best thing for everyone. 

Many many hugs to you, my dear! 

With Lucky, who was my special kitty (I called him my feline soul mate), the first week just dragged by. It felt like months and months. I still remember it being at the four day point. And it felt like forever since he was here. The next few weeks went by a little faster, though not much.

The second month though went by so quickly. I couldn't believe it was already two months at that point. Of course, between the first and second month "anniversaries" if you will, we had the holidays, which probably aided it the time rushing by.

We're nearing the 3-month mark. 1/4 of a year! I remember always wondering how I could even survive without his physical presence. And yet, somehow, here I am. I'm crying as I'm typing this.

All I can say is that it does get easier. Just don't ever try to compare today to yesterday, because then it won't seem better at all. If you compared to last week, or the day of in your case since it's so recent, it's better. I know for me, if I compare myself to how I was a month, two months ago... it's definitely better. I'm finally getting to the point where I'm starting to see the kitties (the younger ones that is) as themselves, instead of comparing them to Lucky, and how he was, and how he did things. Especially the boys. They look SO much like him.

So sorry for your loss, It's been nearly 25 years since Midnight went to the Bridge, and it hasn't faded yet. But the pain has, and eventually yours will too. At two weeks, your emotions are still pretty raw, and rightfully so. Tony was a huge part of your life, as you were in his. For now, just grieve in the way that benefits you the most. If that means tears, go ahead and cry. If that means holding a favorate toy or blanket of his to your heart just so you can still have his essence near you, that's okay too. When Midnight died, I did those things, and more. Grieve, and know by doing so, you do your Tony no disservice by doing so. We are people, fragile as any times as we are strong, and right now you are in a fragile state. But the days will go on, and you will as well, and you will grow stronger, and you will remember more of the good times than you will the bad.

A big hug from me to you, kookycats. Just grieve for now, and gently press on. Tony eternal.

kookycats said:

It's been 2 weeks today since Tony went to Rainbow Bridge. Still miss that little guy so much that it hurts. i've loved every cat we have ever lived with, but I have to say that my Tony was super super special. He had such a sweet, gentle, loving disposition, and not a mean bone in his body. Don't think there will ever be another one like him. I know all of you can understand what I (and Paul) am feeling. We love our Angel and Tippy, and someday may find that special other kitty, but I can't even think of it at this point.

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I'm sorry about Tony

I've loved all of my pets with all my heart, but once, maybe twice in a lifetime you meet one that is your soulmate.  My Rainbow kitty Chynna was that for me.  It's been 5 1/2 years and I miss that girl as much today as the first day she left me.  She and I had a special bond that I've never had with another pet.