Fella and Little Girl crossing the bridge

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Time and keeping busy were the only things that helped me, my Chrissy died three years ago and I still tear up when I think of her. Time is the only thing that softens the edges, it takes a good year to really start feeling good again. Those first months are horrible, I truly thought I was losing it. If I didn't have the support of my husband and my other little ones who needed me, I would still be a wreck. Just concentrate on how you would want your lost one to act if it had been you that went away, you would want only the very best for them and for them to be happy again, they would want no different because they love you so much. You know how much of a bond you have with them, that can never be taken from you.  Their physical bodies are no more, but the 'essence' that was truly them will live on forever in your heart and in your precious memories. Even though the pain of losing them matches the love we feel, it is still better to have had them and loved them in our lives, it made us complete. To have never known them and never to have experienced what they brought into our lives would have been so much worse.  So mourn your loss, it is the only thing to do when a big part of our lives is gone, but hold onto the love that still lives on in your heart, and bring in happiness and sunshine once again when you are able, for that is where they dwell now, and they need to know that  you are celebrating the love and happiness you shared once again. My heart goes out to you,  I truly know your pain and I want you to know that many people care and want to help in any way we can. Hang in there and let their love surround you and comfort you in your time of grief.
 

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Time and keeping busy were the only things that helped me, my Chrissy died three years ago and I still tear up when I think of her. Time is the only thing that softens the edges, it takes a good year to really start feeling good again. Those first months are horrible, I truly thought I was losing it. If I didn't have the support of my husband and my other little ones who needed me, I would still be a wreck. Just concentrate on how you would want your lost one to act if it had been you that went away, you would want only the very best for them and for them to be happy again, they would want no different because they love you so much. You know how much of a bond you have with them, that can never be taken from you.  Their physical bodies are no more, but the 'essence' that was truly them will live on forever in your heart and in your precious memories. Even though the pain of losing them matches the love we feel, it is still better to have had them and loved them in our lives, it made us complete. To have never known them and never to have experienced what they brought into our lives would have been so much worse.  So mourn your loss, it is the only thing to do when a big part of our lives is gone, but hold onto the love that still lives on in your heart, and bring in happiness and sunshine once again when you are able, for that is where they dwell now, and they need to know that  you are celebrating the love and happiness you shared once again. My heart goes out to you,  I truly know your pain and I want you to know that many people care and want to help in any way we can. Hang in there and let their love surround you and comfort you in your time of grief.
Such beautiful words of comfort. Ditto to all you have said. [emoji]10084[/emoji]️
 

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I cannot begin to wrap my head around the pain of losing both of these beautiful little catsouls within days of one another.  My heart goes out to you.

Rest you gentle, dream you deep, little ones.
 

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I am so sorry for the loss of your two precious furbabies; how unfair to lose two at the same time especially so young... my heart goes out to you. 

Fly Free little ones and land softly- you were so loved.
 
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I am so upset today. It's been four months since Fella and Lady Girl died, but today driving home from work I was crying like the day they left me. Especially my little girl. I can't believe how much I miss her. It's effecting me so bad that I don't feel it's normal sometimes. I do notice when I speak to my friends that are not cat people they don't seem to understand. I do keep busy, but there are days I feel so depressed that I cry like a baby. I miss them so much! I would love to get another cat but I have a 16 year old cat that I don't want to get upset.
 

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I am so upset today. It's been four months since Fella and Lady Girl died, but today driving home from work I was crying like the day they left me. Especially my little girl. I can't believe how much I miss her. It's effecting me so bad that I don't feel it's normal sometimes. I do notice when I speak to my friends that are not cat people they don't seem to understand. I do keep busy, but there are days I feel so depressed that I cry like a baby. I miss them so much! I would love to get another cat but I have a 16 year old cat that I don't want to get upset.
  I am so sorry,  I think you are being very thoughtful to your other kitty. At 16 years that kind of stress can be very bad for them.  For Fella and Lady Girl 
 
 

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Oh sweetheart I know how you feel :( our boy went to God only 2 months ago and my husband and I still feel like he greets us like he used to each time we come home. Your babies would not want you to be upset. They are up there with your departed loved ones who are looking after them :) You have to be strong for your other fur baby and lavish all your love and attention on her. Give your 16 year old all the love you would've given your other babies. Xxx
 
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Today is 6 months that Fella passed and the 4th will be Little Girl. I can't believe how sad I am.. still! I do feel a little better, but I miss them so much! Every time I see a rainbow I think they are there with me. Rest in peace my angels.
 

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I lost my Midnight almost 25 years ago, and it does still hurt, but not as much anymore. This is not to say that I don't still hurt for her, because I do. But time eventually heals all wounds, and knowing that Midnight is warm, happy, healthy and safe is reassuring. You will see your fur babies again, at the end of your journey. And when you do, they will run to you and love you like they never have before, knowing that there will never be another time of seperation ever again. I'm praying for you, LittleCutie. Lots of love and a great big ol hug coming your way from me.
 

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Today is 6 months that Fella passed and the 4th will be Little Girl. I can't believe how sad I am.. still! I do feel a little better, but I miss them so much! Every time I see a rainbow I think they are there with me. Rest in peace my angels.
Yes, your babies are there watching over you!  My Rizzo comes on to my bed at night.  I don't feel him walk on the bed anymore but I know he still comes.  Of course, you will see them again; in this life or on the other side.
 

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Today is 6 months that Fella passed and the 4th will be Little Girl. I can't believe how sad I am.. still! I do feel a little better, but I miss them so much! Every time I see a rainbow I think they are there with me. Rest in peace my angels.
They are always with you. Today is 4 months since our precious ginger boy Oglum passed. We still miss him and expect to see him greet us when we come home. Sending you love and hugs xxx
 
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I put up my Christmas tree. Im crying[emoji]128557[/emoji]. I put fella and littlgirl pictures in a Christmas ornaments. my first Christmas without them. It's been 11 Months and I am so heart broken.
 

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I'm so sorry.   I remember reading about Fella and Littlegirl before - they really were special.  My heart goes out to you as you grieve for these two little souls.  Holidays can be so difficult when our hearts are still raw with the pain of loss.  I hope you will someday get some comfort from the ornaments.   They really are a great idea; I wish I had one for each of my lost fur guys.    Sending hugs - 
 
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Today is one year my 2 beautiful furry babies passed away. I can't believe its a year. I still think of them everyday. I don't cry everyday anymore, but they will be forever in my heart. I had such a special bond with them. I have my Batman that's here and his 16 years old. His become so loving to me, he missed them very much. Well time does heal, but I will never forget them my Fella and Little Girl my 2 hearts [emoji]128152[/emoji][emoji]128152[/emoji]
 

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I know this thread was started a year ago, but I do feel your pain.

Be strong and remember all the good times you shared together.

One year forward, would like to know how it's going.

 

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Time may very well ease the pain, but it sure takes its sweet time doing it. 25 years have passed since I lost Midnight, and it still hurts. My heart and love to you, my dear friend. But they are not truly gone so long as we keep them alive in our hearts.
 

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We never get over the loss, we learn to live with it. Time helps to soften the sharp edges, but it will always leave a scar to remind us.

Do good things in your little one's name, it helps to immortalize their soul and keeps alive what we felt for those little furry angels that were our world for a while.  They were not our whole world, but they made our world  whole.

May God bless all those precious little souls and those that they left behind to mourn them!
 
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