Oh, I definitely agree. Just trying to see things from a different viewpoint.
Hmmm. Maybe the breeder really was being honest with you about her reasons, although I certainly think it was over the top to call you heartless because you don't want your cat to sleep with you. Furthermore you came up with reasonable solutions for helping the kitten get used to your place and deal with how much she would miss siblings and mama.
The breeder said she sleeps with all her cats in her bed (she has 12 adult cats and 8 kittens from two litters at the moment).
She did explain her reasons: that the kitten will miss her siblings and mother and will cry all night. And that I am heartless to let her cry in the next room alone.
I tried to explain that in the beginning we'd either let her in the bedroom or sleep on the couch with her to make the transition less stressful. And that we're thinking about getting a second kitten for him. But that in the long run we have reasons to not let her in the bedroom, most importantly that we want to have a baby in the near future and I don't think I'd feel comfortable letting the kitty roam around a newborn at night.
I have learned that doing business with unreasonable people is usually not worth it. Lets address foolish. She is raising her kittens with the expectation that everyone will want them to behave this way. It's almost the same as saying I don't mind they using the sofa as a scratching post or they always sit on the kitchen table with us at breakfast. Sometimes it's best to count the blessing that doesn't look like one because something more suited for you is waiting at either a breeder, rescue or shelter. My philosophy is the right pet in the right home the first time. I don't care if shop or adopt. But choosing the right pet the first time is the best way to end pets being dumped for incompatibility which often manifests as behavior issues. You have a decent long term plan for your pets. Someone is going to get lucky.
The breeder said she sleeps with all her cats in her bed (she has 12 adult cats and 8 kittens from two litters at the moment).
She did explain her reasons: that the kitten will miss her siblings and mother and will cry all night. And that I am heartless to let her cry in the next room alone.
I tried to explain that in the beginning we'd either let her in the bedroom or sleep on the couch with her to make the transition less stressful. And that we're thinking about getting a second kitten for him. But that in the long run we have reasons to not let her in the bedroom, most importantly that we want to have a baby in the near future and I don't think I'd feel comfortable letting the kitty roam around a newborn at night.
Why shouldn't cats who've lost their tails be given to people living in high-rise apartments? I'm completely stumped on this one!Originally Posted by Gilmargl
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In my organization we do have some unwritten rules: for instance, no young cat will be rehomed to elderly people unless a younger person agrees to sign the contract and take responsibility should anything happen to the new owners; cats who've lost their tail should not be given to people living in high-rise apartments.
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But back to the main point of your post - I wouldn't take this to heart. The breeder sounds like she is having a hard time letting go of these kittens, which must be an occupational hazard. I'm sure you will find a wonderful cat at a rescue or shelter.
OH I KNOW! I KNOW! I actually do know this one! It's because of the role that the tail plays in balance, and how much easier it would be for a tail-less or short-tailed cat to lose balance on a balcony or window ledge as compared to a long tailed cat!
Why shouldn't cats who've lost their tails be given to people living in high-rise apartments? I'm completely stumped on this one!
I wonder why a breeder who got good reviews would accept anyone as a potential "kitty mama" without meeting them first. I wouldn't do that. I'd want to see the whites of their eyes first before allowing anyone to take one of my little kittens. That plus a whole lot more. I wouldn't even know where to start. Is asking for SS# too much?
The breeder said she sleeps with all her cats in her bed (she has 12 adult cats and 8 kittens from two litters at the moment).
She did explain her reasons: that the kitten will miss her siblings and mother and will cry all night. And that I am heartless to let her cry in the next room alone.
I tried to explain that in the beginning we'd either let her in the bedroom or sleep on the couch with her to make the transition less stressful. And that we're thinking about getting a second kitten for him. But that in the long run we have reasons to not let her in the bedroom, most importantly that we want to have a baby in the near future and I don't think I'd feel comfortable letting the kitty roam around a newborn at night.
You're doing amazing work. I'm so grateful there is a place for unwanted animals to be loved and wanted again!
People are idiots! Sorry, but that type stuff makes me angry.
We do some animal rescue - actually it's by default since we host a program for at-risk kids on our farm. Since we've been doing this for years, the rescue groups in our area know we are suckers for any animal in need. I cannot tell you how many times people have called in desperation because someone wants their cat/dog/whatever euthanized because of some incredibly selfish and stupid reason. (such as the animal not matching their new decor and yes, this has happened twice!) I often end up with special needs animals living in our house and am always seeking good homes. I have a cat that spent the first three years of her life living in a closet. She was terrified the first few months she lived here and hid constantly. A woman, who came to look at another cat we had ready for adoption, became very angry when she saw we kept the closet kitty in a condo (cage). When I attempted to explain that the cat needed her privacy and the only reason the door was shut was because there were people coming and going all day, the woman told me we should just euthanize the kitty. Making her adjust was cruel! UGH! Flash forward a year and this scared little cat is now my social butterfly cat. She has to greet everyone who comes to the house and is constantly seeking out new things to do. Then there's my 3-legged Pit Bull. He came to us after being badly abused as a puppy. People told me to have him put down because "we all know Pit Bulls that are abused will become dangerous" or "he's suffering." My Pit has been here for four years and is the official cat comforter. He is amazing with the troubled kids and is one of the most gentle dogs I know. I've also had people tell me they won't send an animal here because "you have so many, how can you possibly give them all attention?" People who know us and our programs, often tease me saying that if they come back as cats/dogs/horses, they want to come live here. BTW: One of my cats spends the night in her own room because she has a bad habit of sitting on the bed and screaming in the middle of the night. She runs into the room at night, eats her cookie and that is the end of the day. In the morning she is happy, not at all stressed.
All you can do about stupid people is to leave them behind. It sounds as if this breeder is a bit cracked. Making snap judgments based on nothing but a few e-mails is just wrong. Despite the heartache, I think you are going to find that you are better off not getting a cat from this nut. I encourage you to check with a local shelter/rescue and see if you can find the cat for you there.
I have one point to add. Many cats wants / needs a pal. Especially such a lively breed as siamese. So possibly, plan on two - the easiest is of course to take in a pair when you know from beginning they are good pals. Such is common esp if you take them from a shelter.
We were actually considering getting a rescue/shelter cat. So maybe this is a sign to do that instead.
I'm sure our Siamese kitty will soon find a different home. But somewhere there's a lonely cat in a shelter waiting for us.
The breeder lives quite far away from us. Actually we wanted to go for a visit to see the kittens... And the breeder said it's not how she does it and that we could infect the unvaccinated kittens.
I wonder why a breeder who got good reviews would accept anyone as a potential "kitty mama" without meeting them first. I wouldn't do that. I'd want to see the whites of their eyes first before allowing anyone to take one of my little kittens. That plus a whole lot more. I wouldn't even know where to start. Is asking for SS# too much?
Although it might be a moot point now that you are considering a shelter kitty - a wonderful idea - I'd have to agree with @Margd that it sounds like this breeder is having a hard time letting go of her kittens for some reason. Perhaps she needed a reason and it didn't even have to be a really good one? I think you sound like an ideal candidate. But I still wonder why if she is so particular that she didn't insist on meeting you in person, or anyone in person. I think she's making a mistake there.
That's good news.
I also want to second what another poster said about cats doing well with babies. My cat has always been awesome with my niece, and has been incredibly gentle even at times when she's not. My brother's chihuahua, however, seriously resents my niece and makes it clear he does NOT like her. He won't play with her, he tries to avoid her, and he gets sulky when people give her a lot of attention.
To be fair, everyone doted on him before she was born, so I guess he kinda feels like the forgotten "sibling."
Also, co-signed on the many recommendations to go to a shelter.
Yep, we're definitely considering it. Especially if we find two siblings, we'll take'em both.
I have one point to add. Many cats wants / needs a pal. Especially such a lively breed as siamese. So possibly, plan on two - the easiest is of course to take in a pair when you know from beginning they are good pals. Such is common esp if you take them from a shelter.
That's what we did and it has worked out really well. Our shelter did have some non-sibling bonded pairs, too, but these two fit us best!Yep, we're definitely considering it. Especially if we find two siblings, we'll take'em both.