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I"m so sorry about your kitty Oscar, and I totally understand your feelings. I"m so glad he's had you to help him during his last days
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Would You Adopt Again?
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This is heartbreaking. I think everyday about how fragile my Onyx is. Yes, I would adopt again from the nearest shelter. He'll want me to have love when he's gone, I'm sure.
What you are doing is above and beyond. The gifts he has and will give you will far outlive the short time he is with you. The greatest shame would be that you didn't welcome a sweet little beating heart into you home and life.
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That is a beautiful sentiment. <3
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I was over a decade between cats, mostly due to where I was living (no pets), and frankly I never expected to get another cat even after I had moved on.
It's such a bittersweet moment, the second you become a fur parent/owner, because along with all the love is the knowledge, at the far back of the mind, that *that day* will come.
I'm wondering if what that man said was he didn't expect them to suddenly die? If that is what happened.
As much as I love cats, and maybe because I do, I can't see having a cat who might outlive me. That's why Robin might be my last. I'm not married, no kids, so any pets I have I make arrangements for just in case. Even for Robin, because you never do know. But I fully expect to outlive him, which will break my heart as did all the other pets I've loved and lost.
It's such a bittersweet moment, the second you become a fur parent/owner, because along with all the love is the knowledge, at the far back of the mind, that *that day* will come.
I'm wondering if what that man said was he didn't expect them to suddenly die? If that is what happened.
As much as I love cats, and maybe because I do, I can't see having a cat who might outlive me. That's why Robin might be my last. I'm not married, no kids, so any pets I have I make arrangements for just in case. Even for Robin, because you never do know. But I fully expect to outlive him, which will break my heart as did all the other pets I've loved and lost.
It is hard thinking about when that day will come but it will. Every second that we have with them is a priceless gift. Remember- every one that you let into your home, heart and life will just be another one who will be there waiting to greet you when the time comes for you to go. It will be a wonderful reunion indeed.
You did a beautiful thing by taking him in. Bless you.
Those strays sure implant their claws in our hearts, don't they? A stray adopted me and I love him with all my heart. (kitty pictured in my avatar)
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Yes, that was exactly my thought. LOL! If he's that much of an animal lover and has an open spot in his home, he will likely fall in love with and keep one or more of his fosters.
It's not just sentiment. For most of us the benefit and joy outweighs what we know will eventually dig a trench in our heart.
I would love to adopt again, always. My husband wants to take a break from cats though after the two we have now. It was really emotionally hard for him when we almost lost Mia. I'm hoping he will change his mind. I really don't want to be without any cats, even for a little while.
I really like this poem: http://web-dvm.net/a-dogs-cats-last-will-and-testament/
It's like a memorial to the deceased pet, to help another pet in need.
It's like a memorial to the deceased pet, to help another pet in need.
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Yep. But I don't think he would be so easily fooled though, and probably wouldn't agree to such a thing
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I know, it is heartbreaking. But in his current state, i wouldn't recommend getting a pet, not right now.
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I understand, I don't want to be without a pet either. It's not because I am not devastated with each loss. I am.
I've noticed that each preceding pet is tied to the newest pet in some way, so in a small way, they are extensions of each other. After Garfy died, I still had his brother Sammy. And it wasn't 3 days after Garfy died that I saw Gracie running around in the neighborhood. She became my next kitty, as fate would have it. Then I brought all of them in to live with me and Sammy (who didn't care for them one little bit!) so he was tied to them also. I didn't plan these things, but I think it's kind of neat way to continue the connection from my pets who have passed to the ones I have now. When Sammy died, I had the ones I've got now. With Gracie's loss, of course I still have her "children".
Also I don't want the ones I have to be lonely when one of them passes. That helps them too and I worried that Nat would really miss his mommy, but he seemed to do ok. But eventually I will have to ask my self how long I plan to live because I would worry what would happen to them if they outlived me. Hopefully I'm not there just yet.
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WOW!!! This is probably the best answer I have ever read! Thank you for sharing it!
I can't even imagine life without cats. I've never had less than three, and I've always adopted while others were still around because I don't want to get to the point I don't have one. I completely understand the grief (goodness, do I ever) but I also know how much worse it would be if I didn't have my other babies around.
Even when I'm older, and at an age where my pets could potentially outlive me, I'll be likely adopting senior pets more.
I feel so bad for him. It's so hard to move on sometimes. I hope he's able to find peace, whatever way that may be.
Even when I'm older, and at an age where my pets could potentially outlive me, I'll be likely adopting senior pets more.
I feel so bad for him. It's so hard to move on sometimes. I hope he's able to find peace, whatever way that may be.
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Although he hasn't said this per se, maybe he has reached that age where he thinks it's time to stop.
I can only go by what he has said and he doesn't give information very often. I sort of wonder what he's not saying though. Anyway I did PM the mod for that group plus the link to the dog/cat last will and testament.
I can only go by what he has said and he doesn't give information very often. I sort of wonder what he's not saying though. Anyway I did PM the mod for that group plus the link to the dog/cat last will and testament.
I have a 15 year old cat. When it's his time to go, I will mourn his passing, but I'll also be thankful that it was with me and in my loving arms, and not on the side of the road abandoned. I adopted him last year at age 14, from a family member who was considering dumping him on the side of the road, due to his issues. We knew, that due to his age, life threatening issues can potentially happen anytime, but we made a commitment to be his forever home and give him love until the end of his days, whether forever was 5 months or 5 years. He seems to be in good health, so maybe he'll be with us another 5 or more years.
After he passes away, I will likely adopt another cat if my landlord approves and finances permit. I foster, so I will likely plan to keep one of my fosters, unless another stray runs in my door and decides to adopt me.
After he passes away, I will likely adopt another cat if my landlord approves and finances permit. I foster, so I will likely plan to keep one of my fosters, unless another stray runs in my door and decides to adopt me.
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Hi all, I heard from one of the moderators at the other site. I don't know if he had been in contact with the man directly or if it's just his assumption, but he said flatly that the man's mind is made up and nothing we can say will change it. He advised me to let it go and so that's what I'm going to do. Some folks really don't want help, even though they badly need it. They still choose isolation over healing, for whatever reasons that make sense to them. But clearly he is not ready for that now.
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We had a rather blunt conversation with my SILs husband via phone one day about the issues with their two dogs. He told us he didn't know what to do with them. There are lots of people who don't want or shouldn't have any animal in their care. As much as we want to see every cat have a home talking someone into getting one when they truly are not interested can lead to abuse and neglect for the animal. If I knew the rescue they got them from I would give it a call. I'm pretty sure the objective is a good home. Not one running up and down roads in traffic. Being left out all night to howl and bark and certainly not having a neighbor get so fed up with the aggression they pepper spray them.
In the world of horses I have seen things I cannot unsee. Death is by far not the worst thing that can happen to an animal. I mourn the loss of my Nikkihorse over a decade later. I'm sure I will mourn my Kitten as long and forever. Life even grinds to a halt in the beginning. All of our human emotions can live side by side. One of the hardest things to deal with is that while we are paralyzed with grief the rest of the world keeps living. The hardest thing to do when you are paralyzed with grief is understand you will go on living.
He is stuck. And from your description would stay there new pet or not.
Look how many people on the crossing over thread come here for the first time. The need to seek comfort and the most understanding comfort is from those that have known this sadness. This is mutual support. I don't want to sound cruel. But is he offering support or cannibalizing on everyone else's grief.
