Ruby used to be a HUGE cuddler. Always wanted to be in my lap or Nick's. When we got Jasper, they both snuggled with both of us, but Ruby (who's what's been a bit of a daddy's girl) spent more time with Nick, and Jasper with me.
Since we lost Jasper, Ruby's been acting a little odd. I can understand sleeping in Jasper's old spots and next to the mirror; she probably misses him. What I don't understand is why she won't cuddle with me now unless Nick is home. He doesn't even have to be in the same room, but he has to be in the apartment. If he's not home, she's still very vocal and acts like she wants attention, but she won't even sit in my lap unless I'm sitting in the computer chair (formerly Jasper's chair). Does anyone know why she might be acting this way? Does she still see me as Jasper's human?
It's just really hard for me. It was awful enough losing Jasper, but to lose Ruby's love too? I hate it. My parents have had at least three cats for almost my whole life, and being one of the quieter people in the family (and a major couch potato), I almost always had at least one cat cuddled up to me. It just doesn't feel right to sit on the couch and not have a cat sitting with me, and now that Nick's working again, I end up being alone a lot.
Since we lost Jasper, Ruby's been acting a little odd. I can understand sleeping in Jasper's old spots and next to the mirror; she probably misses him. What I don't understand is why she won't cuddle with me now unless Nick is home. He doesn't even have to be in the same room, but he has to be in the apartment. If he's not home, she's still very vocal and acts like she wants attention, but she won't even sit in my lap unless I'm sitting in the computer chair (formerly Jasper's chair). Does anyone know why she might be acting this way? Does she still see me as Jasper's human?
It's just really hard for me. It was awful enough losing Jasper, but to lose Ruby's love too? I hate it. My parents have had at least three cats for almost my whole life, and being one of the quieter people in the family (and a major couch potato), I almost always had at least one cat cuddled up to me. It just doesn't feel right to sit on the couch and not have a cat sitting with me, and now that Nick's working again, I end up being alone a lot.
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