I always thought of grief as a deep ocean. The huge tidal waves at the beginning get better and softer, then the tsunami comes and you are overwhelmed again. You drown in your grief with your tears and at times it literally takes your breathe away. It does calm again, and one day it will settle to the gentle lapping that we can enjoy once again. The tsunami can come again though, often without warning, but over time we can better prepare our hearts and learn to overcome the rising ocean that is our grief. We are all joined together in our pain, we can all comfort each other with our understanding of what this does to each of us, and to reach out with compassion to others in their time of sorrow. Sharing our grief helps to heal the heart.