My Best Friend

bobberandebony · Dec 25, 2015

I lost my best friend Tuesday night. I had to put my sweet Ebony to rest after being in the hospital for days. He died in the hospital - taken in due to pancreatitis. He didn't get a feeding tube for 2 days, and hadn't eaten for a few days prior. The first full day on his feeding tube he was showing improvement, the second day he developed fluid in his abdomen. The dr called and said he was not doing as well as what was reported the previous day. When I got to the hospital he looked like he was dying. I had to put him to rest. The dr said I did all the right things but the fluid appeared to be cancerous. I didn't want to put him through any more tests. I'm heartbroken.
My other best friend - My beautiful cat Bobber died while I was away on holidays in July. My parents were looking after him and thought he was just missing me. But he stopped eating and they called the vet, and set up an appointment for the next day. He passed that night.
I miss them both so much.
They spent their lives together and were very happy cats. My boys. I'm so sad that they are gone. The only thing that comforts me is that they are no longer suffering. :rbheart:

kittens mom · Dec 25, 2015

BobberandEbony said:
I lost my best friend Tuesday night. I had to put my sweet Ebony to rest after being in the hospital for days. He died in the hospital - taken in due to pancreatitis. He didn't get a feeding tube for 2 days, and hadn't eaten for a few days prior. The first full day on his feeding tube he was showing improvement, the second day he developed fluid in his abdomen. The dr called and said he was not doing as well as what was reported the previous day. When I got to the hospital he looked like he was dying. I had to put him to rest. The dr said I did all the right things but the fluid appeared to be cancerous. I didn't want to put him through any more tests. I'm heartbroken.
My other best friend - My beautiful cat Bobber died while I was away on holidays in July. My parents were looking after him and thought he was just missing me. But he stopped eating and they called the vet, and set up an appointment for the next day. He passed that night.
I miss them both so much.
They spent their lives together and were very happy cats. My boys. I'm so sad that they are gone. The only thing that comforts me is that they are no longer suffering.

I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our Kitten to circumstances that were similar to yours. Not exactly but close. Making what you know is the right decision doesn't make this any easier. I can't imagine losing two so close together. It's very hard to know there might be something more you could try but when you balance your pets current condition and the pain with continued treatment we make the choice that is best for them. Not us.

bobberandebony · Dec 25, 2015

Thank you for your kind words. Ebony was in and out of the vet office since Dec 5. The pancreatitis wasn't diagnosed at first, and he was still eating then. He went so fast. Losing both my beautiful boys in the same year is devestating. Thank you for taking the time today to read my story.

ginny · Dec 25, 2015

Omg @BobberandEbony I'm so sorry for both your losses this year! I've said this before, I HATE death and if I could kill it I would. I guess for now, in the kind of world we live, it's necessary but I hate it. I lost my Gracie in July and I'm holding my breath with the others I still have. I'm so sorry!

bobberandebony · Dec 25, 2015

Thank you Ginny. I'm sorry that you lost Gracie. It's very difficult when our loved ones leave us. I struggle with the what ifs. I would have done anything for my boys. :heart4:

ruthm · Dec 25, 2015

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for both of your losses, how horribly unfair. I truly believe your two absolutely knew that you loved them and would do anything to keep them comfortable and loved you for that. It's hard to avoid the guilt feelings, I know, but please I hope you will not beat yourself up. My beloved girl Tiger had an acute attack of pancreatitis that hospitalized her for 4 days;she recovered but it turned chronic and eventually I lost her to pancreatic cancer, which I wondered wasn't caused by the pancreatitis... But in any event, it took her very quickly and her symptoms sound like your best friends, and my heart breaks for you.

ginny · Dec 25, 2015

BobberandEbony said:
Thank you Ginny. I'm sorry that you lost Gracie. It's very difficult when our loved ones leave us. I struggle with the what ifs. I would have done anything for my boys.

Yes, it surely is. I struggle with the what ifs too. Thank you!

kittens mom · Dec 25, 2015

BobberandEbony said:
Thank you Ginny. I'm sorry that you lost Gracie. It's very difficult when our loved ones leave us. I struggle with the what ifs. I would have done anything for my boys.

We know when we make the choice we're doing the right thing. There is a great deal of guilt associated with euthanizing one of our pets. And so we start to ponder the what ifs. If only...You can fill in the blank with just about any crazy thought you've had. And you did do anything for Ebony. You had the heart and courage to know when to make the call. My husband summed these feelings up very well. When the vet left us to say our goodbyes he told me the only thought in his head was to grab Kitten and run for the door. Instead he sat there and felt her life slip away while he calmly talked to her and rubbed her head. And that is a very good definition of doing anything for them. Just like you did with Ebony.

Mamanyt1953 · Dec 25, 2015

Oh, Darlin. I am so sorry. Knowing that you did the best thins is such cold comfort when you are longing for the soft, boneless weight of them against you. You are in my thoughts.

nurseangel · Dec 25, 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. You did the kindest, most selfless thing for Ebony. Bless you.

zed xyzed · Dec 25, 2015

You final act for Ebony was kind and merciful, and you made that decision because you loved him. It is so awful that an act of mercy causes us so much anguish. I am sorry for your loss and the pain you are in. RIP Bobber; RIP Ebony.

bobberandebony · Dec 25, 2015

Thank you for kindness. :rbheart:

di and bob · Dec 26, 2015

My heart goes out to you, the pain of a broken heart can seem to be overwhelming at first until time can soften the edges. The only thing I held onto those first dark days was that I knew my little girl would never want me to be so sad, but to go on with life as it should be, to remember the happy times and not dwell on the end. Think how you would want them to live if you were the one to go first. I know it is so hard to get through the agony of an empty house, and an even emptier heart, but it is something that we all struggle with in our own way, and somehow we learn to live with it. It does help to share your pain with others who understand, such as on this site, and thank you for letting us know of these brave little ones who need to be acknowledges and mourned by others who love these beautiful creatures. We mourn the loss of our own and are able to share the grief and hopefully make it a little easier to bear. Please know in your heart that they will both dwell in your heart for as long as you live, it is a bond that even death cannot erase. RIP dear Ebony and Bobber, you will both be dearly missed in this world, and will be forever held in loving hearts by the ones who loved you!

bobberandebony · Dec 26, 2015

Thank you. I will always have them in my heart. I miss them and the joy they brought to this world, especially mine. They were such a big part of our family. Thank you for caring - it helps to share my story and my loss, it's very hard. I wouldn't want them to be so sad, and I know they would feel the same. Such sweet, sweet boys they were. I will try to keep that in my thoughts as I try to work through the grief and loneliness. Your post has helped me this morning, as I woke with intense emotions and sadness. Thank you.

sidneykitty · Dec 26, 2015

I am so sorry to hear your story about Ebony as well as Bobber. I can't imagine the heartbreak of losing two so close together.

Your story sounds similar to mine...I had to say goodbye to my sweet girlie on Monday due to cancer which metastasized to her lungs which I'd just found out about a week before. Monday her tummy filled up with fluid for the second time in a week, and I knew the right decision was to say goodbye...it helps to know I am not the only one going through this and I hope it may help you, too. I know how you feel with the loneliness and grief. Remember the good times and all the love they blessed your life with. It helps me to know it was the right decision for her to end her pain and suffering and that prolonging it would only be for myself... I am glad you posted here about it. I found it really helped me to talk about it and share my favourite memories of her. I spent a morning writing down all my favourite things about her which I will never forget. I am sending you thoughts of love and hope that you will find some healing and comfort in these difficult days. <3 Just remember you did the right thing for little Ebony.

margd · Dec 26, 2015

I'm so sorry about Ebony and Bobber. Losing both of them within such a short period of time truly must be devastating. It leaves such a huge empty hole in the heart to lose our furry family members. It seems we take on their suffering so they can be free of pain - it is a great gift you have given your two babies. I hope with time you will get some comfort from knowing you gave them a wonderful life, one filled with love and happiness.

bobberandebony · Dec 26, 2015

margd

sidneykitty thank you for your messages. I am grateful for the support I have received as it really does help to share my story.
I am truly sorry for your loss sidneykitty, it is so very painful even when you know it's the right thing to do. I am sending you loving thoughts as well, for what I know you must be going through.
We all need to be kind to ourselves, but at times like this it's a hard thing to do.
I wish all of our stories on here had happy endings. I have and will continue to write down all of the great things about my two sweet boys. I miss them so and it helps me cope. There are so many great memories - I was so lucky to have them. I am glad that you are doing the same.
Thank you both for your comforting words, and thanks to everyone who has taken the time to read about my two beautiful boys. This has been the worst year ever for me.

jcat · Dec 27, 2015

I'm very sorry for your losses. It's tough enough to lose one, but two in one year is too cruel. May they rest in peace. :rbheart:

bobberandebony · Dec 27, 2015

It's been my worst year ever. Ebony helped me cope with the loss of my sweet Bobber. Now that he is gone the world is a lonely place. I miss them being with me and all the love and joy they gave. Thank you. :rbheart:

kittens mom · Dec 27, 2015

We are almost at one month after our loss of Kitten. Grief over the loss of someone we love deeply never goes away. But we do learn to cope with and accept what has happened. In the beginning everything is a painful reminder of what we lost. I tend to be a bit more on the practical side here. I put Kittens special toys, cream saucer, baby blankets etc in a tote. Rolled up the play rug that really only she used. Left to my emotions our house would probably be roped off with velvet cords and preserved as a shrine to her memory. Poor mans Taj Mahal. I can go sort things out later. It's not like our other cat is going without. It does get easier little bits and pieces at a time. Right now the good memories are as painful as the events that led up to your loss. Because it reminds you of your loss. It will get better. And then worse and back to better. We have almost whole days before one of us breaks down a bit now. You will feel like moving on is somehow disloyal or wrong. How can you enjoy life. No one can survive in perpetual mourning and grief. It will get better.

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