Hello, and thank you for allowing me to post a question.
I am a new cat person. My family has been a dog family ever since I was born. I have adopted a cat, and trying to be an “animal guy” instead of just a dog guy, and it is a learning experience.
So here is my long story and seek your advice.
Last September, my black lab and beagle cornered what I thought was a raccoon in my enclosed patio, it was actually an emaciated cat. When I called the dogs back in, I fed it some lunch meat, and it began meowing like crazy. My wife and I gave it water and just hung out with it, she came to us and seemed to be a sweet cat.
So, we figured she would be back on her way to her home so we left food and water out for her and figured that she might be back, or might not be.
Well two weeks went by with her coming back every night, and then I found she was living under my shed. So one night I closed the patio door and took her to the vet to adopt her. Only to find she was micro-chipped and the owner lived three miles down the road from me. I was slightly heart broken, but relieved.
Then two weeks later getting medicine for my aging beagle I found that the owner relinquished her to the shelter after three days because they got a new cat when the other one disappeared, and when she came back, she did not get along with the new cat.
So, I went and rescued her again, she was in the shelter for two weeks.
She is exactly 3 years 5 months because she was born at the shelter and adopted from there as a kitten, before being returned.
The good:
* She has been in our home since Sept 26
* Sept 16th she weighed 6.2 pounds today she weighs 10
* She uses both her litter boxes and has not had an accident outside of them
* The vet says she is in good health, and she has been spayed
* She gets along with the dogs, but there is mis-communication because she runs up and bats them, and when they walk away she is visibly kind of sad.
* she has cat furniture in each room, and a cat tree in the kitchen and living room, and she uses them all.
* She plays for about an hour each day, 35 -40 minutes in the morning, and then usually two 15-20 minute sessions at night.
* She is curious and follows my wife and I around, when we have people over she is curious to meet them, but then just and goes to hang out on her furniture
* The dogs could slightly care less she is here
* Cat does not hide, walks through the house with a high amount of confidence, but she does watch the dogs
* She is fine with petting, and seems to like it. When I see her tail swishing back and forth, I can make it stand straight up with the little kink at the top by rubbing where her tail meets her back. Otherwise she likes cheek rubs when she is on her cat trees, or coffee tables.
The part I have questions:
1. She used to meow outside to get my attention, but now she is inside she never meows, she makes these weird grunt noises, and that is it. I really miss hearing her meow, is there a way to vocalize to her to get her to meow to me again?
2. She only purred and kneaded once, when I put her in her sherpa cat bed, since then, nothing. I would really like her to purr.
3. I am having a hard time interpreting what is a love bite, what is an invitation to play, and what is a leave me alone soft-bite. I know in the morning in bed, she will softly bite my hand until I wake up and break out the bird toy (I wish she would meow instead..) ... but sometimes I will give her my finger, and she will softly bite it, and then drop her head down for more rubs with her tail still...
4. My grandparents adopted a 1 year old male from the shelter that is 90% more affectionate. It purrs, rubs against your legs, all sorts of nice stuff. Is my cat still getting past her issues? ( Was what she went through that bad for a cat?)
Thanks everyone, I know this was a long post, but I could use the advice.
I am a new cat person. My family has been a dog family ever since I was born. I have adopted a cat, and trying to be an “animal guy” instead of just a dog guy, and it is a learning experience.
So here is my long story and seek your advice.
Last September, my black lab and beagle cornered what I thought was a raccoon in my enclosed patio, it was actually an emaciated cat. When I called the dogs back in, I fed it some lunch meat, and it began meowing like crazy. My wife and I gave it water and just hung out with it, she came to us and seemed to be a sweet cat.
So, we figured she would be back on her way to her home so we left food and water out for her and figured that she might be back, or might not be.
Well two weeks went by with her coming back every night, and then I found she was living under my shed. So one night I closed the patio door and took her to the vet to adopt her. Only to find she was micro-chipped and the owner lived three miles down the road from me. I was slightly heart broken, but relieved.
Then two weeks later getting medicine for my aging beagle I found that the owner relinquished her to the shelter after three days because they got a new cat when the other one disappeared, and when she came back, she did not get along with the new cat.
So, I went and rescued her again, she was in the shelter for two weeks.
She is exactly 3 years 5 months because she was born at the shelter and adopted from there as a kitten, before being returned.
The good:
* She has been in our home since Sept 26
* Sept 16th she weighed 6.2 pounds today she weighs 10
* She uses both her litter boxes and has not had an accident outside of them
* The vet says she is in good health, and she has been spayed
* She gets along with the dogs, but there is mis-communication because she runs up and bats them, and when they walk away she is visibly kind of sad.
* she has cat furniture in each room, and a cat tree in the kitchen and living room, and she uses them all.
* She plays for about an hour each day, 35 -40 minutes in the morning, and then usually two 15-20 minute sessions at night.
* She is curious and follows my wife and I around, when we have people over she is curious to meet them, but then just and goes to hang out on her furniture
* The dogs could slightly care less she is here
* Cat does not hide, walks through the house with a high amount of confidence, but she does watch the dogs
* She is fine with petting, and seems to like it. When I see her tail swishing back and forth, I can make it stand straight up with the little kink at the top by rubbing where her tail meets her back. Otherwise she likes cheek rubs when she is on her cat trees, or coffee tables.
The part I have questions:
1. She used to meow outside to get my attention, but now she is inside she never meows, she makes these weird grunt noises, and that is it. I really miss hearing her meow, is there a way to vocalize to her to get her to meow to me again?
2. She only purred and kneaded once, when I put her in her sherpa cat bed, since then, nothing. I would really like her to purr.
3. I am having a hard time interpreting what is a love bite, what is an invitation to play, and what is a leave me alone soft-bite. I know in the morning in bed, she will softly bite my hand until I wake up and break out the bird toy (I wish she would meow instead..) ... but sometimes I will give her my finger, and she will softly bite it, and then drop her head down for more rubs with her tail still...
4. My grandparents adopted a 1 year old male from the shelter that is 90% more affectionate. It purrs, rubs against your legs, all sorts of nice stuff. Is my cat still getting past her issues? ( Was what she went through that bad for a cat?)
Thanks everyone, I know this was a long post, but I could use the advice.