I am going to begin with saying that I have had many animals over the years--both cats and dogs. However I have never specifically a kitten before I become an adult. I has barely been a week and I am feeling in over my head. This is my mistake, but I wish to share my story and hopefully get advice on the situation. This is a long story...bear with me.
At the beginning of the year, I moved into a house that already has a cat. Lula is decently affectionate, if not temperamental, and runs the house as all cats do, but I personally don't think she get's much attention from her owner--my roommate. My roommate told me when I first moved in that his other cat, Jenjen had died the previous year and was far more loving and affectionate. And it's obviously from the stories that Jenjen was his favorite and Lula was second fiddle/ Always.
It's also obvious that Lula, who was somewhat skittish when I first moved in, has grown from the only marginally attentive cat than my roommate previously knew...but that she is also lonely, having always lived with another cat up till last year. So we both believed that it was a good idea for her to have another animal in the house. And after some negotiations and my own interest in a pet, we decided that kittens would be best.
And we ended up getting two.
A lady nearby was trying to find homes for an unexpected litter of light gold maine coon kittens that had been made on her farm--long story. They were 7 weeks and 4 days old when we picked them up this past Saturday and freshly weaned days before. The original owner was making sure the litter had good homes because she would be getting surgery and wouldn't be able to oversee the mother and the kittens. The kittens had their first round of shots. The mother and father were both spayed and neutered this week. Anyways, so we brought the two kittens home--one a boy and one a girl--in the carrier and Lula came down and greeted us...Smelling the carrier and the kittens she simply hissed and fled up the stairs and hid in one of the rooms. So far, this story isn't going so well.
We hold the cats up in a central location, a bathroom for them to tough it out while we were getting them used to the house and the existing cat used to them. We let them explore when either of us were home and they'd be left in the bathroom when we weren't there, if only for their safety. They seem to be litter trained and are eating and drinking so all is going well.
This is where things start going downhill again.
My roommate told me Monday that he'd be taking his kitten--the boy--out of town with him on wednesday. I of course didn't like any of this because the expectation was that they would be together to help socialize them and have comfort while getting used to the house. I tried to show an aversion to this idea and it didn't go over well as he didn't really listen to what I had to say. And when we talked about it later, he didn't seem interested in changing his mind.
I've had animals before. I know you shouldn't move them around homes often, you shouldn't change their food frequently if you can help it, and you shouldn't take a kitten as young as these and separate them as quickly and for as long as what was going to happen. I expected the worse for wednesday.
The boy is pretty active and outgoing but the girl was shy and hid a lot from both of us. It took till Tuesday to get her comfortable with me, playing in my room. So on Wednesday, I played with both of them for a while till my roommate came home and scooped up the boy. NOT ONLY did he leave...he didn't take much else beside a carrier.
No food, no litter (that I know of) and just drove off. Not even toys.
Yes I was pretty angry and scared for the girl who had only ever followed her brother's lead. I was afraid and given that it is now friday, needless to say...I had every reason to worry. She stopped eating almost entirely. For a bit I thought maybe she's just getting used to not having to fight for it--familiar to new dogs that stop eating as often because food is readily available--but she simply wouldn't eat much. She cried most of the day when I wasn't in the immediate vicinity...and if she wasn't tired enough after a long session of playing, she'd cry some more. I'd pick her up and she's want to be put down. She'd cry to be in my lap and we'd fight with that, as she just wants to chew on my shirt and hair or just jumps back down...I'm afraid to let her sleep with me at night in fear that this seeming compulsion with chewing will lead to her swallowing something while I am asleep.
As of today, these are what I have tried to sooth her:
-Warm bottle and watch in bedding: Works great at night.
-playing with her for hours and letting her run around the house (the other cat hides mostly): works because she's very curious...but chews on the corners of pillows and on cords that I haven't rubbed lemon juice on.
-catnip scratcher: she's mostly disinterested
-soft toys and a teddy bear her color to deter chewing on furniture and me: it sometimes works but I still have to remove her from things.
-a can of tuna in water: worked when she was starving last night...she stopped chewing on things and slept soundly. She stopped biting my hands. It didn't work this morning.
She's back to not eating again and I suspect the being hungry is why she chews--that or teething. She's eaten her food every day up till the day her brother left. and even a little after. I plan to try kitten formula mixed in with the food. I want this kitten to be happy and healthy...but I also want her to not think that chewing on everything is ok...even past her brother coming back on sunday. He's doing well if you were curious...
I'm also worried about Lula and although time should help...all she does is hiss at them. Hell, I'm starting to believe we might need to find them new homes, because things are chaotic since I am the only one who seems to understand routine and training and also that we just might be alienating the house cat. Hell...from just talking to my roommate I get the suspicion he doesn't care that the cat gets alienated 'cause he wants a cat that "loves" him. Though...he won't see her to a good home and as much as I try to give her attention, she doesn't really want mine. She wants him. I've seen him bet her and play with her for the most part, she always has food and water--even access to the always dripping kitchen faucet WHICH I DON'T CARE FOR. Lula is still happy to greet us from time to time if the kittens aren't around...but with the increasing scent of them...I don't know how she'll handle them.
Thank you to all that took the time to read this.
She's officially 8 weeks and 2 days...still deciding on a name.
At the beginning of the year, I moved into a house that already has a cat. Lula is decently affectionate, if not temperamental, and runs the house as all cats do, but I personally don't think she get's much attention from her owner--my roommate. My roommate told me when I first moved in that his other cat, Jenjen had died the previous year and was far more loving and affectionate. And it's obviously from the stories that Jenjen was his favorite and Lula was second fiddle/ Always.
It's also obvious that Lula, who was somewhat skittish when I first moved in, has grown from the only marginally attentive cat than my roommate previously knew...but that she is also lonely, having always lived with another cat up till last year. So we both believed that it was a good idea for her to have another animal in the house. And after some negotiations and my own interest in a pet, we decided that kittens would be best.
And we ended up getting two.
A lady nearby was trying to find homes for an unexpected litter of light gold maine coon kittens that had been made on her farm--long story. They were 7 weeks and 4 days old when we picked them up this past Saturday and freshly weaned days before. The original owner was making sure the litter had good homes because she would be getting surgery and wouldn't be able to oversee the mother and the kittens. The kittens had their first round of shots. The mother and father were both spayed and neutered this week. Anyways, so we brought the two kittens home--one a boy and one a girl--in the carrier and Lula came down and greeted us...Smelling the carrier and the kittens she simply hissed and fled up the stairs and hid in one of the rooms. So far, this story isn't going so well.
We hold the cats up in a central location, a bathroom for them to tough it out while we were getting them used to the house and the existing cat used to them. We let them explore when either of us were home and they'd be left in the bathroom when we weren't there, if only for their safety. They seem to be litter trained and are eating and drinking so all is going well.
This is where things start going downhill again.
My roommate told me Monday that he'd be taking his kitten--the boy--out of town with him on wednesday. I of course didn't like any of this because the expectation was that they would be together to help socialize them and have comfort while getting used to the house. I tried to show an aversion to this idea and it didn't go over well as he didn't really listen to what I had to say. And when we talked about it later, he didn't seem interested in changing his mind.
I've had animals before. I know you shouldn't move them around homes often, you shouldn't change their food frequently if you can help it, and you shouldn't take a kitten as young as these and separate them as quickly and for as long as what was going to happen. I expected the worse for wednesday.
The boy is pretty active and outgoing but the girl was shy and hid a lot from both of us. It took till Tuesday to get her comfortable with me, playing in my room. So on Wednesday, I played with both of them for a while till my roommate came home and scooped up the boy. NOT ONLY did he leave...he didn't take much else beside a carrier.
No food, no litter (that I know of) and just drove off. Not even toys.
Yes I was pretty angry and scared for the girl who had only ever followed her brother's lead. I was afraid and given that it is now friday, needless to say...I had every reason to worry. She stopped eating almost entirely. For a bit I thought maybe she's just getting used to not having to fight for it--familiar to new dogs that stop eating as often because food is readily available--but she simply wouldn't eat much. She cried most of the day when I wasn't in the immediate vicinity...and if she wasn't tired enough after a long session of playing, she'd cry some more. I'd pick her up and she's want to be put down. She'd cry to be in my lap and we'd fight with that, as she just wants to chew on my shirt and hair or just jumps back down...I'm afraid to let her sleep with me at night in fear that this seeming compulsion with chewing will lead to her swallowing something while I am asleep.
As of today, these are what I have tried to sooth her:
-Warm bottle and watch in bedding: Works great at night.
-playing with her for hours and letting her run around the house (the other cat hides mostly): works because she's very curious...but chews on the corners of pillows and on cords that I haven't rubbed lemon juice on.
-catnip scratcher: she's mostly disinterested
-soft toys and a teddy bear her color to deter chewing on furniture and me: it sometimes works but I still have to remove her from things.
-a can of tuna in water: worked when she was starving last night...she stopped chewing on things and slept soundly. She stopped biting my hands. It didn't work this morning.
She's back to not eating again and I suspect the being hungry is why she chews--that or teething. She's eaten her food every day up till the day her brother left. and even a little after. I plan to try kitten formula mixed in with the food. I want this kitten to be happy and healthy...but I also want her to not think that chewing on everything is ok...even past her brother coming back on sunday. He's doing well if you were curious...
I'm also worried about Lula and although time should help...all she does is hiss at them. Hell, I'm starting to believe we might need to find them new homes, because things are chaotic since I am the only one who seems to understand routine and training and also that we just might be alienating the house cat. Hell...from just talking to my roommate I get the suspicion he doesn't care that the cat gets alienated 'cause he wants a cat that "loves" him. Though...he won't see her to a good home and as much as I try to give her attention, she doesn't really want mine. She wants him. I've seen him bet her and play with her for the most part, she always has food and water--even access to the always dripping kitchen faucet WHICH I DON'T CARE FOR. Lula is still happy to greet us from time to time if the kittens aren't around...but with the increasing scent of them...I don't know how she'll handle them.
Thank you to all that took the time to read this.
She's officially 8 weeks and 2 days...still deciding on a name.