Hi all, new here and was hoping for opinions. 6 weeks ago, I rescued a kitten from the side of the road covered in flies. I immediately tried to find him a home because I have dogs and 3 other rescued kitties. A friend of mine said her co-worker wanted the kitten for his daughter. I spoke with the guy, he seemed nice enough but his first comment was that he was going on a trip for 9 days and just planned on keeping the kitten in a sunroom where his landlord would check up on him. He later said that was dumb but I'm sure it was because I said " yeah, that's not going to happen". He gets his kids (10 & 11) every other weekend. Which means this kitty sees his main pal 4 days out of the month. But the guy assured me that he liked cats and he had one before and it would be nice company for him also. So for weeks I tried to talk myself in to this being fine and kitty would be fine because I just couldn't take in 4 cats. I told him I would bring the kitty up to him when he got back from his trip making it 6 weeks that this little guy has lived here. He had me send him a few pictures to show his daughter. He made a comment about how he "liked that it was free hah hah" that I didn't like too. On the phone, I told him that in the event that I get attached, there are many many shelters overfilled with kittens.
Well, in these last 2 weeks I have become quite attached and "Roo" is very happy here, plays with the other cat all day long. I just can't go through with uprooting him to a home where he will be alone all day. I have a home office so he's used to someone around. So, I met with my friend that runs a shelter got her opinion, she said keep him. So I am. So I tell the guy and he pleads with me "not to do this to his daughter". I tell him that it is in the best interest of the kitten, that is what I care about. So he sends me a terrible email and makes me feel like a horrible person, like I killed his kid or something. Did I tell him he could have the cat? Yes I did. I made a mistake in thinking that I could keep the kitten for him that long and give him away. I changed my mind about this guy and the environment this kitten was going to. So I didn't sleep all night feeling like a terrible person. I then got mad and decided I was not going to let this guy do this to me when his daughter can have one of a billion kittens on this planet...she's 11 not 4 and I do not believe in kids getting everything they want even if it means that something else has to be unhappy. I rescue animals all the time, volunteer my services to a local shelter and I like that about myself, caring about where this kitty ends up does not make me a bad person. The hardest part is that my closest friend that introduced us sent me a message of "not cool Jaim". So she took his side, which makes it 100 times worse as I have never fought with a friend in all my 45 years.
Did I royally screw up here???
Well, in these last 2 weeks I have become quite attached and "Roo" is very happy here, plays with the other cat all day long. I just can't go through with uprooting him to a home where he will be alone all day. I have a home office so he's used to someone around. So, I met with my friend that runs a shelter got her opinion, she said keep him. So I am. So I tell the guy and he pleads with me "not to do this to his daughter". I tell him that it is in the best interest of the kitten, that is what I care about. So he sends me a terrible email and makes me feel like a horrible person, like I killed his kid or something. Did I tell him he could have the cat? Yes I did. I made a mistake in thinking that I could keep the kitten for him that long and give him away. I changed my mind about this guy and the environment this kitten was going to. So I didn't sleep all night feeling like a terrible person. I then got mad and decided I was not going to let this guy do this to me when his daughter can have one of a billion kittens on this planet...she's 11 not 4 and I do not believe in kids getting everything they want even if it means that something else has to be unhappy. I rescue animals all the time, volunteer my services to a local shelter and I like that about myself, caring about where this kitty ends up does not make me a bad person. The hardest part is that my closest friend that introduced us sent me a message of "not cool Jaim". So she took his side, which makes it 100 times worse as I have never fought with a friend in all my 45 years.
Did I royally screw up here???