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I will attach some pics, because it's hard to even believe how adorable these sweet babies are. I am worried though, and fear we are all getting too attached to each other. I need help staying sane, and some advice from pros who have done this before.
My coworker's sister caught three kittens from a feral they'd had trouble catching/spaying, this was her second litter. I guess they didn't realize how young they were, or really had no plan for after they caught them. It was between me taking them, or them going o the shelter where God knows what would happen.
So, I took them. We have 2 cats at home, adult females both taken as kittens (though significantly older kittens) from the street. One we took off of a friend, the other walked up to me in the driveway two years ago and never looked back. We spend about $1,500 on them a year for the vet, food and an automatic litter box. So, we cannot afford to keep the three kittens unless we drastically reduced the quality of the food we feed our girls (and one has a urinary issue) and use regular litter boxes, which sounds bratty, but is a huge pain because I get no help and also have a chinchilla cage to clean weekly.
I have every intention of finding suitable homes where they will be indoor cats, and well loved. I have no issue with spending well over $500 to care for their respiratory infection and their future vaccinations. I'm working on getting vouchers to see if we can get a reduction of the price to get them spayed/neutered. Again, no issue with that.
I am quite an emotional person though. After being these babies' soul care-taker, I'm scared they've gotten too attached. I'm scared I'm getting too attached too. They're so loving, funny and sweet and I know they'll make a lovely addition to any family. I was considering keeping one, but now I love all three of them so much, I think I would feel guilty keeping one and giving the others away. I tried not to name them. I won't tell any potential families their names, so they can make their own, but in my head I've begun calling them Smokey, Willow and Rascal.
They all try to suckle my face. My ear lobes, my lips, some pronounced spots that stick out a bit. I try to gently encourage them to simply snuggle, but the boy Smokey cries when I try to make him stop. So I haven't made him stop; what's a few hickies on my ear lobe? I just worry they will think I'm a more like a real mom than a foster mom. I don't want to traumatize them by first splitting them up, as they're all best buddies, then taking them away from me.
Help!!! How do you guys separate foster kittens from furever kittens? How do you stay sane? And am I a terrible person for potentially splitting them all up to different homes? I cried when two of them fell asleep suckling my ear lobe and lip... Their momma probably misses them, and they felt safe enough to act like I'm their mum with me. That combo just breaks my heart. What are your tips for staying sane?
My coworker's sister caught three kittens from a feral they'd had trouble catching/spaying, this was her second litter. I guess they didn't realize how young they were, or really had no plan for after they caught them. It was between me taking them, or them going o the shelter where God knows what would happen.
So, I took them. We have 2 cats at home, adult females both taken as kittens (though significantly older kittens) from the street. One we took off of a friend, the other walked up to me in the driveway two years ago and never looked back. We spend about $1,500 on them a year for the vet, food and an automatic litter box. So, we cannot afford to keep the three kittens unless we drastically reduced the quality of the food we feed our girls (and one has a urinary issue) and use regular litter boxes, which sounds bratty, but is a huge pain because I get no help and also have a chinchilla cage to clean weekly.
I have every intention of finding suitable homes where they will be indoor cats, and well loved. I have no issue with spending well over $500 to care for their respiratory infection and their future vaccinations. I'm working on getting vouchers to see if we can get a reduction of the price to get them spayed/neutered. Again, no issue with that.
I am quite an emotional person though. After being these babies' soul care-taker, I'm scared they've gotten too attached. I'm scared I'm getting too attached too. They're so loving, funny and sweet and I know they'll make a lovely addition to any family. I was considering keeping one, but now I love all three of them so much, I think I would feel guilty keeping one and giving the others away. I tried not to name them. I won't tell any potential families their names, so they can make their own, but in my head I've begun calling them Smokey, Willow and Rascal.
They all try to suckle my face. My ear lobes, my lips, some pronounced spots that stick out a bit. I try to gently encourage them to simply snuggle, but the boy Smokey cries when I try to make him stop. So I haven't made him stop; what's a few hickies on my ear lobe? I just worry they will think I'm a more like a real mom than a foster mom. I don't want to traumatize them by first splitting them up, as they're all best buddies, then taking them away from me.
Help!!! How do you guys separate foster kittens from furever kittens? How do you stay sane? And am I a terrible person for potentially splitting them all up to different homes? I cried when two of them fell asleep suckling my ear lobe and lip... Their momma probably misses them, and they felt safe enough to act like I'm their mum with me. That combo just breaks my heart. What are your tips for staying sane?