She is pushing a few times and then grooming and then goes back to pushing and grooming again. She seems fine and I'm sitting in the room but not hovering, I want to give her her space! Im also playing this soothing cat labor music I found on youtube. I love her so much, and just praying this goes smoothly for her!
She will squat, or lift her leg, and/or her tail, she will concentrate in pain and you will see her whiskers move back and forth. She will be fully dilated, and you can usually see a sac beginning to appear at the opening of the vulva. She may meow or be silent.
It varies from cat to cat. Stage one labor can last up to 24 hours, but I'm guessing your cat has already been in it for awhile. They pant as the contractions grow stronger and the pain is greater. If she'll let you, you can rub her belly. Some cats find it comforting. The harder contractions eventually lead to stage 2, which is pushing.