introducing male kitty to my beautiful but antisocial 6yr old female..help!

Hmmm??? Still not getting answers to any questions but the interaction? Am I not making myself clear? Feel like I am repeating myself over and over again! Sorry, feel a little frustrated.

You need to be patient with answers.. it's a matter of who is online that can help you.  It isn't an instant thing.

I think there is a chance that you are very anxious about Magoo and she is picking up on it.  The more you worry, the more she'll feel it.

Have you tried a Feliway diffuser or spray to help settle her?  Do you have lots of safe spaces for her including high up spots?

She will be reacting to a new-comer as well, and honestly, that is the thing to address right now.  That's why you're getting responses about it.

Thankyou for reply, I do understand answers not instant, if you actually read my posts, I have been asking same questions for last few weeks, hence I wonder why no response, you are absolutely right, i am very worried about magoo,she a unique cat and my intentions in giving kitty a try were in hopes she will bond and enjoy him and he will gain a loving, slightly grumpy matronly mum figure. If best i can hope for is tolerance from magoo for invasion of her space, i want to know sooner rather than later, he has had a rough start, magoo has her neurotic moments, and my mum would be happy have him back, trying this as she has heaps of strays and untethered dogs roaming in her area. I have safe place, just magoo.

Yes Magoo has loads of safe places, cupboards, drawers, shelves etc...as I said I love my cat, am doing playtimes with both of them, seperately of course, I think I just get a little disheartened when I hear that rumbling growl, I know it is redirected aggression, and yes I have read all the articles, and I know patience is key, but is there ANYTHING else I can do? I need to do big clean up kitty room too, ok for me put him in lounge in his cage whilst I do that?

Sometimes it's a good thing to do.. to put the cat in an enclosed space with hidey holes where they feel safe and secure.

When you say 'redirected aggression', do you mean from the toms that were around?  How long ago was that?

And when you say she's a one woman cat, do you have anyone else around on any kind of regular basis?  If so it can be useful for them to do the 'nice' things like feeding, giving treats etc.

No person on regular basis that can help, although my mum definitely is,an option. the tomcat situation was 6-4yrs ago, carried on for 2-3years, getting progressively worse...I even offered to take cats to vets when they were offering free spaying and neutering, he wouldn't have a bar of it. Magoo ended up as indoor cat, but even that wasn't safe, the toms would climb over roof and in through windows...i so believe if you have a cat,you also have responsibility. So sad for my darling.

Some cats are less social than others for many different reasons. For some, it's in their DNA, for others it's because they weren't socialized well at an early age or they weren't exposed to different people from an early age.

So, if Magoo was mostly only around you while she was growing up, then there may be a trust issue with other people.

As far as her reaction to other cats...
Some cats simply do not like being around other cats. It's a territory thing.
If her only experience with other cats had been negative, then this may be contributing to the problems you are seeing in introducing the kitten.

Has Magoo ever had positive interactions with other cats since you have had her?

No, unfortunately she hasn't, I have quietly tried to encourage but she responds from fear. Not violent so much as posturing. Always rushes in behind my legs should there be any possibility of things going further.

Mani said:

You need to be patient with answers.. it's a matter of who is online that can help you.  It isn't an instant thing.

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It was also Halloween yesterday and many people were occupied with that.


I have a single cat now for the past ten years. She was super skittish and scared when we got her. She stayed like that for years and just recently within the past few years has been braver and will stay out when people visit. She still occasionally will act skittish around us. When she sees another cat she gets scared and runs. Some cats are just like that. :dk:

I have tried pretty much everything, believe me! [emoji]128522[/emoji] when comes to Magoo,I know she skitterish, but she does have lovely nature, most the time, I only thought this may be an option when she responded so well to kitty noises and new kitty blanket, still waiting response? Wrong conclusions? Also I am copping sporadic vicious swipes on a regular basis now, I cant reward her for that behaviour..I am trying to just ignore it with a stern "no". And walk away.

And although I know answers are not an instant thing, cats are a real time concern, like at this moment, I'm sitting with a constant low growling magoo in my bedroom...how can I reassure her without getting savaged and without giving wrong message,this behaviour is not ok.

She is drawing blood and hurting me, what do i do?

I'm so tired and confused. At least kitten is safe in his room. He purrs at slightest attention, little bit hard, when my big darling does the hiss, posture,and constant low growl, along with mean swipes...she honestly scary.. little guy just purrs and rubs and tries to eat me, know I need to be reassuring magoo, how though? I cant tell her being a bully is good.

Please look at post nos, 4,5,6, 8,10.

Are you keeping them apart all the time?  Doing the slow introductions?

Can you get hold of a feliway diffuser or spray as the pheromones could settle your girl.  There is also a mixture called Composure that can be helpful... The main problem I've had with it is that cat's don't find it tasty, but if you can get it into her, it can work really well.

I think you may need some added help.

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Yes, am keeping apart, only time they see each other, magyver in cat cage whilst I refresh his room. They so know each other about tho, and yes I am doing scent swap things, not making fuss of it, just casually drop things. What sort of added help?

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The feliway, for example.

Update..3 weeks now, in this part of the world is heat season so my darling magoo gets stressed. Little guy is growing so fast! Magoo wants his food, he wants hers. Also getting impression he came from feral mum, and fact my mum saved him so early(3wks) is why you almost wouldn't know. She wiped his weeping eyes hourly, snuggled him in his sneezing fits, took him to vet, antibiotics and love equals MacGyver live and wonderful. He does keep attacking my face, I don't like to growl too much as I really believe he is desperately wanting mum rather than aggressive motives, any ideas how to distract and stop this behaviour? If he tries it with magoo, I don't think be good.

Hi Ritz, further along we get more I appreciate your advice [emoji]128522[/emoji] have done things accordingly, use my own instinct too, MacGyver is a really happy boisterous little guy, He absolutely adores Magoo, 4 weeks now and I notice her stress levels dropped, yay. Just wondering, magoo has always BN freefed, very fussy eater, seems to think kitty food much better than hers and is being quite stroppy with it..should I just get all kitty food till they settled properly and then back to normal? She is getting rather fat tho.

Glad things are going well for you. At best, Ritz tolerates Dahalia ): Ritz is somewhat food obsessed but interestingly, makes no move towards Dahalia's food (who gets more than Ritz).
Personally I would go with timed feeding, get the cats use to sooner rather than later. I feed raw, so I would recommend you go over to the Cat Nutrition or Pregnant Cats and Kitten Care forums for advice. Good luck!