Looking for advise;
We have a 7-year-old domestic short hair that we got when she was 6 mon old. I don't think she was ever socialized cause she doesn't purr and tends to have a personal space bubble. She can be super affectionate but its always kind of on her terms. My wife has been begging for a new kitten for years and I finally caved. We now have a 3 month Siberian from a breeder. We saw him a bit in the environment he grew up in and he was obviously surrounded by other kittens play and loving life in general. So anyway, we've done our best to follow the regiment of introducing the cats slowly through scent through a door and such and have progressed to having them in the same room. I'm sure it comes as no surprise, but our 7-year-old hate the new kitten...growling/hissing, etc etc. If the kitten is in the same room she's only slightly irritated but when he tries to approach she lets him know where the boundaries are. I figured we could work with this over time....just takes patients.
The problem is, with the kitten now familiar with the environment and the other cat, he's super interested and almost entirely fixated on making friends with the 7-year-old. This is very, very stressful for her, she will typically hold her ground...he will stop, then inch closer to her. Eventually she will leave and find another place to be alone and he will follow. We live in a studio and the only rooms to seclude them in are the laundry room for her and the bathroom for him. I know its not workable and not a fair situation for the cats to get to know each other. He really really doesn't like to be alone and really just wants to be by her. Rescue remedy only helps calm her down a little bit. It's a tough situation...I wish there was something for cats like rescue remedy that's just a little more effective.
Any advice would be appreciated. I'm new to the area and called two different local vets....they have both said they will have a Dr call me back but that has not happened yet.
We have a 7-year-old domestic short hair that we got when she was 6 mon old. I don't think she was ever socialized cause she doesn't purr and tends to have a personal space bubble. She can be super affectionate but its always kind of on her terms. My wife has been begging for a new kitten for years and I finally caved. We now have a 3 month Siberian from a breeder. We saw him a bit in the environment he grew up in and he was obviously surrounded by other kittens play and loving life in general. So anyway, we've done our best to follow the regiment of introducing the cats slowly through scent through a door and such and have progressed to having them in the same room. I'm sure it comes as no surprise, but our 7-year-old hate the new kitten...growling/hissing, etc etc. If the kitten is in the same room she's only slightly irritated but when he tries to approach she lets him know where the boundaries are. I figured we could work with this over time....just takes patients.
The problem is, with the kitten now familiar with the environment and the other cat, he's super interested and almost entirely fixated on making friends with the 7-year-old. This is very, very stressful for her, she will typically hold her ground...he will stop, then inch closer to her. Eventually she will leave and find another place to be alone and he will follow. We live in a studio and the only rooms to seclude them in are the laundry room for her and the bathroom for him. I know its not workable and not a fair situation for the cats to get to know each other. He really really doesn't like to be alone and really just wants to be by her. Rescue remedy only helps calm her down a little bit. It's a tough situation...I wish there was something for cats like rescue remedy that's just a little more effective.
Any advice would be appreciated. I'm new to the area and called two different local vets....they have both said they will have a Dr call me back but that has not happened yet.