I've posted here a few times about my two kittens, Pia (resident) and Oliver (new). Pia is now about 6.5 months and Oliver is 4 months. Both were adopted at 10 weeks. We had Pia for about two and a half months on her own and we've now had both kittens for two months. I'm a bit worried about their interactions and am wondering if a re-introduction is necessary. Looking back, the initial introduction may have happened too fast, which I think has affected their relationship now.
I'll start with what seem to be the positives:
- Both kittens are extremely affectionate with us and are confident and social
- They eat all their meals within inches of each other with no problems and will often switch back and forth between their bowls
- They share two litter boxes with no problems
- They are totally comfortable sleeping and grooming in the same room and are getting better at playing in the same room (i.e. when we play with them with two wand toys
- They are almost always in the same room (whatever room we happen to be in) and when we come homme after having been away, they are usually both in the cat tower or will run to the door from the same direction so we assume they've been in the same room
- Every now and then Pia will groom Oliver, usually when he's sleeping. He never grooms her back and the grooming usually ends in a fight
- They'll often explore new things together and there are times when I'm definitely sure they are playing (chasing each other through the house taking turns in the role of the chaser and the chasee, batting at each other from this book case they like to play in, play wrestling)
- They both sleep in our bed with us at night but not side by side and this is often the site of their fights unless both are tired or nearly asleep
- I never hear any hissing or growling, even when their play "fights" escalate
- Play, pouncing, chasing, etc. all seems mutual - they seem to initiate almost equally.
Unfortunately, there are a few negatives that make me wonder whether they need to be reintroduced:
- Their play "figthing" (or perhaps it's real fighting?) gets very aggressive on a daily basis. Whenever Oliver initiates, which is often, it nearly always ends in Pia yelping and getting frustrated and running away from him (never for long, they usually end up back in the same room ). I don't think he's hurting her since sometimes she'll yelp even when he just bats her once - I think it's more of a leave me alone type thing. On the other hand, whenever she initiates play, she is always silent.
- Their body language doesn't look positive - usually one or both have their ears back, tails wagging, etc.
- Sometimes his actions seem like he may be bullying her - there have been a couple of times when he's pounced on her in order to get a toy that she's playing with or to take a spot that she's in
- They never really cuddle (it's happened maybe a couple of times and only when they both want to be in the same spot)
This is it in a nutshell. I don't know if we should re-introduce to stop the daily fights and if so at what stage. When we do close one or another in a separate room the other one is always at the door batting underneath so I definitely think we are beyond that stage.
We have a feliway plug in, both are fixed, and we play with each individually about 30 mins a day at least.
Any advice on how to reduce the aggressive fighting would be appreciated.
I'll start with what seem to be the positives:
- Both kittens are extremely affectionate with us and are confident and social
- They eat all their meals within inches of each other with no problems and will often switch back and forth between their bowls
- They share two litter boxes with no problems
- They are totally comfortable sleeping and grooming in the same room and are getting better at playing in the same room (i.e. when we play with them with two wand toys
- They are almost always in the same room (whatever room we happen to be in) and when we come homme after having been away, they are usually both in the cat tower or will run to the door from the same direction so we assume they've been in the same room
- Every now and then Pia will groom Oliver, usually when he's sleeping. He never grooms her back and the grooming usually ends in a fight
- They'll often explore new things together and there are times when I'm definitely sure they are playing (chasing each other through the house taking turns in the role of the chaser and the chasee, batting at each other from this book case they like to play in, play wrestling)
- They both sleep in our bed with us at night but not side by side and this is often the site of their fights unless both are tired or nearly asleep
- I never hear any hissing or growling, even when their play "fights" escalate
- Play, pouncing, chasing, etc. all seems mutual - they seem to initiate almost equally.
Unfortunately, there are a few negatives that make me wonder whether they need to be reintroduced:
- Their play "figthing" (or perhaps it's real fighting?) gets very aggressive on a daily basis. Whenever Oliver initiates, which is often, it nearly always ends in Pia yelping and getting frustrated and running away from him (never for long, they usually end up back in the same room ). I don't think he's hurting her since sometimes she'll yelp even when he just bats her once - I think it's more of a leave me alone type thing. On the other hand, whenever she initiates play, she is always silent.
- Their body language doesn't look positive - usually one or both have their ears back, tails wagging, etc.
- Sometimes his actions seem like he may be bullying her - there have been a couple of times when he's pounced on her in order to get a toy that she's playing with or to take a spot that she's in
- They never really cuddle (it's happened maybe a couple of times and only when they both want to be in the same spot)
This is it in a nutshell. I don't know if we should re-introduce to stop the daily fights and if so at what stage. When we do close one or another in a separate room the other one is always at the door batting underneath so I definitely think we are beyond that stage.
We have a feliway plug in, both are fixed, and we play with each individually about 30 mins a day at least.
Any advice on how to reduce the aggressive fighting would be appreciated.