My foster cat is being adopted soon. Feeling worried for her. Does anyone have experience with how l

The woman who will be adopting her really seems nice, I believe she will be a good caregiver. But still, I'm worried for my cat. She's very attached to me. Snuggles with me every night and morning. There's a room she doesn't like to go into, and when I go in that room, she will meow sadly until I come out.

I'm feeling sad because I don't want her to feel abandoned. I know she'll eventually learn to love her new human, but how long does that take? (she's my first foster cat)

I know every cat is different, but what has been your experience?

I'm also feeling sad that even after becoming happy in her new home and with her new human, she will still feel a sadness of abandonment somewhere inside.

Also I'm going to miss her! 

Fostering brings up such conflicting emotions. You are feeling exactly like every foster mother ever. I always ask the adopters to keep me posted and call with any questions. Some do, some don't. If you feel confident that the new home is a good one, send her on with love and good wishes. She's gotten a new home because of you!

And you will miss her, for sure. I still think about all my fosters. Happy they are safe and missing them a little still.

Blessings on you for doing this! She's a lucky little kitty!

We all feel like that - it is the hardest thing about fostering. I am going through it now with two that have been with me for a year and are part of the family. But it is for everyone's good, and yes, try to keep in touch, even go and visit if you can, and above all make sure that if anything goes wrong then the cat comes back to you at once and is never passed on to someone else. For the cat, of course it is strange at first, but most cats quickly settle in their new homes. It depends on the cat, but a week or a fortnight is about average, I find. Make sure the nre owner knows the routine and food and litter that the cat is used to, and if it has to be changed, then it should be done gradually. For example, if the cat is used to sleeping with you and now it has to sleep in a room alone, it will cry, so explain as much as you can and even write it all down so they will understand any odd behaviour.

You're a sweetheart for taking care of this little girl. You will miss her and she will miss you but if you're confident that she's going to a good home, then that's what matters. I think all cats adjust at their own pace. I'm sure she will be just fine with her new mom.

She will never forget you or all the love, kindness and friendship you gave her. She is definitely a lucky kitty. She found not one, but TWO loving homes. My Henry is a foster also but he's a permanent foster.   

Will you foster again?? It sounds like you're really good at it.