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post #1 of 19
Thread Starter 
Everything seems to be piling up on top of us, all this stuff...too many to count here....it is really getting us down, it feels as if if one thing is solved, something else comes along. *sigh* It feels like we will never have a good life...it really feels doomed. I am so stressed about everything.

post #2 of 19
What's going on Kellye?
post #3 of 19
Thread Starter 
It seems as if one thing after another happens, we are always broke, nothing ever seems to go right...ever since we got married, something always happened...it all started with my mother in law...and it feels like we are cursed....we feel like we will never get to NZ....jakes work only pays so much....sometimes his boss forgets to pay him and we have to wait a couple of weeks before she finally pays him...the last paycheck she still hasnt paid. Sometimes I feel like we are not meant to be, one thing after another happens and there is only so much I can handle...I cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel and whenever we try and talk about things, we end up arguing and nothing gets resolved. We love each other and all, and I know that is all that matters but should a marriage be this trying? The things a normal couple goes through, seems so easy compared to what we have been thru.
Oh yeah, I am hypoglycemic too. Whats next?

That is it in a nutshell.
post #4 of 19
Kellye, I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now. Sending lots of (((((HUGS))))) and good thoughts.
post #5 of 19

Just want to let you know....there are NO normal couples. Your situation is unique and apparently very difficult, but hang in there. I know it is really hard at times, but slow down, take a deep breath and relax.

Hug your hubby and be glad that you have him, some people have no-one, no home, no food, etc. Not to make light of your problems, but you'll get through it. Just keep posting here, it's great to talk to ANYONE!!

Keep your head up....I'm sending good vibes your way.

post #6 of 19
Thread Starter 
We just had a talk....my parents can help out with airfares. But that means not taking the cats with us. I really dont have the money to move them to NZ... we have decided that we do need to go to NZ because that is where our son is. We are utterly miserable here and what can we do? We have no familial support, no real good friends here (besides you guys) and everything else is in NZ, I have a great family who would move heaven and earth to help us, (which they already have done a lot), I can easily apply for jobs in NZ.

If we can get it all figured out, we will be in NZ in August as previously planned.

Which means, I have to start looking to rehome Peedoodle and Kahu.

Thanks for listening.
post #7 of 19

I've been in the "always broke" cycle, and it does suck. Even if you can't see the light at the end, it is there. Sometimes it sneaks up and baps you on the head when you finally come out of it.

Like Nora said, there are no "normal" marriages. No one really lives like Ward and June Cleaver. Yes, marriage really is that hard, but when you love someone it makes you work that much harder to stay together and fight it together.
post #8 of 19
(((((((((((Kellye))))))))))) I don't know what to say that others haven't already said. But I am here for you, and I'm sending you a big hug!
post #9 of 19
Kellye I'm so sorry you feel this way right now. {{{{{{{{{{Kellye}}}}}}}}}}}

I'll definitely send some good vibes your way and I really hope you start to see some light soon. I know how hard it can seem at times, like you've got the worst luck in the world, but it really will change for the better if you can just try and wait for it!
post #10 of 19

Since you are feeling overwhelmed, it might be helpful to see a counselor. You and your husband could both go, or you could go alone. The university where your husband attends school probably has a counseling center where you could be seen free or at very low cost. We have a center at my university where we charge on a sliding scale fee based on income and family size. Most clients pay only $1.00 - $2.00 per session! Also, most universities will treat students for free and will see a student and spouse together for free.

There are quite a few folks on board here who have been in counseling and can tell you how helpful it can be.

In the meantime, you are in my thoughts. Hang in there!

post #11 of 19
I'm so sorry you're going through a hard time. I hope everything works out.

~~*~*~*~*~*~*good vibes*~*~*~*~*~*~~
post #12 of 19
Kellye, I'm sorry things are rough for you at the moment. I'm keeping you and Jake in my thoughts.
post #13 of 19
Kellye, I'm sending lots of positive vibes toward you and Jake. I hope everything gets resolved.
post #14 of 19
Sending prayers your way
post #15 of 19

I'm so sorry. The early years of my marriage had some similar components, it didn't seem like we'd ever get caught up, let along ahead, something always went wrong. All I can say is we have never wavered in our love, hold to the love you have for each other, it is worth more than gold, bless your family for their love and support and go for it. It sounds like being back in NZ is where you need to be!

I'm sorry about your having to rehome peedoodle and kahu, I will hope an answer comes your way to make it possible to take them,
post #16 of 19
Kellye - it must be hell being away from your little boy and all your family. You have to follow your heart; always.

Is it really too expensive to move the kitties? Would they have to go into quarentine? Is it just the airfare for them that would be too steep? I know it would just kill me to have to leave my kits anywhere. I'm thinking of you m'dear because you need to make sure that your hapiness and your sanity come first.
post #17 of 19
Thread Starter 
Thanks guys.

I have about a month to get everything together if I was to get the cats to NZ - the airfare alone costs $2800, approx. Then there is the quarantine, vet fees, and the import fees etc. There is so much.

Thanks, once again.
post #18 of 19
Oh Kellye I cant even believe you could part with your babies I'm so sorry. (((((((((((((((( hugs ))))))))))))))))
post #19 of 19
Kellye, sending tons of *good vibes* your way. ((Hug)).
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