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cataan

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Each of us here has dealt with the loss of a feline friend and, in that sad way, share a bond.  Those who don't understand cats, who joke that they are "evil" or "sneaky", can't appreciate the connection you can develop with a feline.  Obviously, since the death of my friend Back, other cats have died.  Some lived long lives, others short ones, but regardless of how someone's pet died that person has come to grieve at TheCatSite and in a small way let their friend live on in the minds of others.  No one can tell you how to react to the loss or how to deal with it.  I tried to make something good come of Back's death by adopting another cat a few months after Back died.  The new cat isn't intended to replace Back -- and in fact there is no way he ever could.  Despite the tension between the new cat and my other cat (they are not friends even more than a year later), he is very nice and sweet to me; he shares many of Back's traits.  I wouldn't say adopting him helped me with respect to Back -- I still am sad about accidentally killing my best friend and still think about him every single day -- but I am glad that I saved a life I otherwise would not have saved.
 

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I totally agree with everything you said, thank you for sharing with others. I. too, try to make something good out of a senseless death by paying for the adoption of a cat that has been in the shelter the longest, at least three times a year. I do this in my Chrissy's name and know she would approve. There is not a cat alive that could replace my little girl, but the others I love and care for now are precious in their own way and a welcome distraction from a grief that still tears at my heart. There is much to be said about trying to comfort others who come to this site, as you said we are bonded together in our grief. Comforting others has in some way comforted me, I know the feelings and the helplessness that comes out of losing a cherished member of our family. Thank you once again for sharing, and may we all be blessed fro loving so much to hurt so bad. 
 

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I agree with what you said, as well.  And I'm glad that you saved a life, too.  Bless you.  
 
 
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