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My son turned 4 two days ago, my wife left for a long trip overseas yesterday... and my cat is - I believe - dying.
She's had two seizures over the past two months that we've witnessed, perhaps many more that we haven't. But other than that she's seemed more or less normal, with a normal appetite and reasonable mobility. She's 14 and hasn't had great mobility for the past year (howls when we pick her up, struggles a little up the stairs).
I don't think she ate anything yesterday. It is hard to tell because we have another cat. This morning she didn't come for food and I had to go find her. She was half way up the stairs on the landing, sleeping. For the first time ever, she didn't purr when I started petting her. I could see she could move her limbs (stretched once) and flick her tail and her head and eyes move... but she wasn't going to get up. I tried picking her up and she made it clear that wasn't welcome. I brought the food down to her, and she seemed interested and sniffed it, then growled and put her head back down. It has been a few hours and she's still just lying there, still won't purr (though she lets me pet her) and still howls if I even attempt to pick her up.
She absolutely hates going in the car. So did our last cat and what I regret most about the end of that one's life is subjecting her to multiple vet visits that were horrifying to her. It is a bit of a conundrum... I need the vet to know if it is something we can fix, but really we are pretty sure she's near the end and we already said we weren't going to put her through what we did the last one. It was thousands of dollars for us, but more importantly it was a miserable end for the cat. We don't want to do that again.
But I'm here looking for advice nonetheless. Should I put her through obvious discomfort and try to stuff her in a box she hates, take her on a car ride she abhors, to subject her to the poking and prodding that will only result in having to come back for tests, and then again for X and again for Y? Or should I get a vet that will come out today (Friday... nobody will do it Saturday or Sunday) to put her down? I already asked and there are no vets here that will do housecalls other than for euthanizing. Or should I just let her be and see how the weekend goes?
And it isn't just about the cat. I'm very concerned with how to deal with a 4 year old. Should he be there? Should I do it when he goes out with his aunt? Do I talk to him about it before? After?
I don't know why I'm seeking help on the Internet. Usually I'd talk this over with my wife, but I won't have contact with her for several days. We did discuss it briefly before she left (I think she had a sense) and she told me not to let the cat suffer.
She's had two seizures over the past two months that we've witnessed, perhaps many more that we haven't. But other than that she's seemed more or less normal, with a normal appetite and reasonable mobility. She's 14 and hasn't had great mobility for the past year (howls when we pick her up, struggles a little up the stairs).
I don't think she ate anything yesterday. It is hard to tell because we have another cat. This morning she didn't come for food and I had to go find her. She was half way up the stairs on the landing, sleeping. For the first time ever, she didn't purr when I started petting her. I could see she could move her limbs (stretched once) and flick her tail and her head and eyes move... but she wasn't going to get up. I tried picking her up and she made it clear that wasn't welcome. I brought the food down to her, and she seemed interested and sniffed it, then growled and put her head back down. It has been a few hours and she's still just lying there, still won't purr (though she lets me pet her) and still howls if I even attempt to pick her up.
She absolutely hates going in the car. So did our last cat and what I regret most about the end of that one's life is subjecting her to multiple vet visits that were horrifying to her. It is a bit of a conundrum... I need the vet to know if it is something we can fix, but really we are pretty sure she's near the end and we already said we weren't going to put her through what we did the last one. It was thousands of dollars for us, but more importantly it was a miserable end for the cat. We don't want to do that again.
But I'm here looking for advice nonetheless. Should I put her through obvious discomfort and try to stuff her in a box she hates, take her on a car ride she abhors, to subject her to the poking and prodding that will only result in having to come back for tests, and then again for X and again for Y? Or should I get a vet that will come out today (Friday... nobody will do it Saturday or Sunday) to put her down? I already asked and there are no vets here that will do housecalls other than for euthanizing. Or should I just let her be and see how the weekend goes?
And it isn't just about the cat. I'm very concerned with how to deal with a 4 year old. Should he be there? Should I do it when he goes out with his aunt? Do I talk to him about it before? After?
I don't know why I'm seeking help on the Internet. Usually I'd talk this over with my wife, but I won't have contact with her for several days. We did discuss it briefly before she left (I think she had a sense) and she told me not to let the cat suffer.