Leaving a cat whom I adopted 2 months ago with my sister. Please share your opinion!

Hi! 

So... I moved to NYC 3 years ago and until July this year I had no cats. It was horrible sice I've had cats my whole life. 

Two months ago my husband and I decided to foster one. Foster, becuase he's allergic to cats We both love them but his allergy was something we couldn't deal with (his reaction to antihistamines is awful, hes pretty much drugged after).

Anyway, WE BOTH LOVED THE KITTY! I knew right away that I wouldn't be able to give him away. I was fooling myself that it's okay, we rescued him from the death row, this is what matters. 

So, I'm leaving for Europe now, coming in the end of September. My husband joins me shortly after. 

We decided to leave Superman at his sister's house. She has 2 cats. She loves them. 

We decided to leave him for a few months until hi gets more allergy shots and feels better around him. 

His allergy wan't horrible as long as he didn't touch or interact with him at all  

So... We did it. I took him there on Monday and spent 2 days with him to help him get used to. The way he looked at me when I was ;leaving... 

It broke my heart. I'm heartbroken, Cried for 3 days. 

I'm scared he thinks he's got abondoned again. 

I treated him for ear mites, urinary crystals, ear infections everyting. He became my lovebug. Jumping on my shoulder and purring/. 

And now... I left him with strange people. 

I know they will take care of him very well. They still try to get him used to other cats (for now theyre sepparately so thwy can sniff each other). 

But I know he;s scared and confused. 

I know I will get him back in a few months. 

Will he be devastated? It hurts so much ( 

Thanks!

He might be a bit upset and confused for a little while, but I'm sure he'll be okay. As long as your sister treats him well, spends a lot of time loving him, and gives him plenty of fun things to do, he'll be just fine. You've done a great thing by rescuing him and making sure he's with someone who will care for him while your husband gets treated. You haven't mistreated the kitty by leaving him with her and I don't think he's going to be crushed by the separation. Cats leave foster homes for permanent homes all the time without problems. If you can, check in with your sister every once in a while and ask how he's doing! Maybe you can even Skype with her and see him. And try your best to look forward to coming back to him!

I hope the allergy shots work for your husband! I know I couldn't be around most pets at all without having severe asthma attacks as a kid, and several years of allergy shots helped a lot. I have two cats now and as long as I keep the place clean and take medication when I need it I'm usually fine. When you get him back it might help if your husband has a clean safe room the cat isn't allowed in where he can go if his allergies act up. Brushing the kitty every day and vacuuming can help a lot too.

I also married a man who is allergic to cats.  it was REALLY hard to be without them that first year and a half.     

To answer your questions; I think kitty will be ok.  Especially if he gets good loving support like Miriette said.  I would have a really hard time being away from my cats too.  I have a hard time leaving them for a few days of vacation!

My DH isn't as allergic as yours.  He is ok on daily allergy meds.  When our girls were younger we were diligent to keep them out of our bedroom, change clothing before getting into bed and DH was good about washing his hands after he pet them.  I also vacuumed the couch and kept throws on them that could be washed.  We even bathed the girls back then.  As time went on they have bothered him less.  He still reacts the same to my mother's cats; but not ours.  The girls still don't get to sleep on our bed; but they do get to hide under it or in our closet.  DH changes his pillowcase about 2 times a week when he starts finding he wakes up with a slight headache in the morning.  Someday I'd like to remove the carpet from the house to help cut down the dander that way as well.  DH is also really diligent about changing the air filter on our furnace.  We buy one with good allergen removal ratings.  

I hope this time without your kitty passes as quickly as possible for you and that you can be together again soon!  (With less trouble for your DH!) 

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!! 

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You guys made me feel much better! Thank you!!