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so nearly 2 months ago now, me and my girlfriend got 2 new female kittens at 8 weeks old, we've had them nearly 2 months now and did a very slow introduction process.
intially we had them shut away in a spare room with a litter tray, food and water and gradually let them explore the house. lay scents and let our other cat discover them without confrontation (we did sock rubbing too). then moved onto gated access, supervised mingling and finally unsupervised mingling.
it seemed to have been going fairly well, no fights, a bit of hissing and grumbling from our older cat, a couple of swipes, but nothing excessive or more than a behavioural correction if the kittens were getting too close for comfort. but now he just runs away (from willow specifically, she's the more boistrous of the 2)
Ron, our older cat (who lost his brother at christmas) has spent an increasing amount of time outside, this was to be expected with new animals in the house. whilst during the summer months i wouldn't take issue with this, especially as he has continued coming in for food, of recent he has been venturing into our neighbors houses looking for more places to sleep, or i fear, a new home.
we thought it was going well, they've been in close proximity and slept near each other a few times now, but Ron is constantly harassed by our more exuberant kitten, willow - she just loves and adores him, but he doesn't want to know. the other night whilst he was sleeping on his back quite happily, she crept up on him and since then, he's just had enough, he can't have a good nap without her interferance - as such, he goes outside and stays outside as long as he can bear it, only really coming in when it's pissing it down with rain.
i'm considering putting up some cat shelves, but he's much more of a bush cat than a tree cat, he'd rather be in a box on the floor than on a shelf high up - i think he's also a little arthritic in his old age, as he seems to struggle a little when crawling out from under a bush after a long nap.
he's also started venturing a bit farther away from hom than he usually would, whilst i can understand the changes in his territory and the stress he's feeling at home to drive him towards this, i'm really looking for a way to re-assure him that he's the one in charge and that the kittens, although boistrous, aren't a threat to him, his world or how much i love him
he's never really been an affectionate cat though, he's not a lap cat, the closest he gets is sitting on the sofa next to you and since the kittens have taken over the living room, he barely ventures in there any more. it's like he feels these kittens have stolen his human, even though i still make attempts to play with him every day and get him to come and sit with me - but as long as the kittens are close by, he backs away.
for example, he came running up the stairs to see me yesterday and then stopped dead in his tracks as willow poked her head around the top of the stairs. he then refused to budge, leaving me to go down the stairs towards him. whereas as fred then appeared (the other kitten, winifred officially) went down the stairs towards him and they had nose rubs.
we've got a feliway diffuser to try and reduce the stress, but trying to re-integrate him into the house is being majorly set back by the kittens. i'm not sure whether to impose kitty restrictions and put the gates back up to give him more time to acclimatise to their presence, or just let him get on with it in the hope he'll come around.
the kittens have had free run of the house for about 2 weeks now and whilst it looked like progress was being made, in the past few days, what progress had been made has regressed. he seems to be spending more time int he garden than ever before.
funnily enough, he's ok with fred as she's a lot calmer, she approaches slowly and they rub noses. whereas willow is full of energy and will run straight up to him, he's hissed at her a few times, she's even been swiped at, but she's so wrapped up in kitten frenzy she doesn't heed the warnings, he's now at the point where he's had enough of her and would rather balk at the sight of her than to keep correcting her behaviour.
i'm at a bit of a loss at what to do, other than hope he starts putting her in her place a bit more often and that she gets the idea he's not fond of her idolation (as she really does idolise him, since the moment she met him he was like her hero, it's like a little girl who's older big boy cousin is her idol and she wont leave him alone).
suggestions please, my ron needs help dealing with the whomping willow.
jackson galaxy - the cat from hell guy, suggests spirit essences - would something like this be of help? something to help ron chill out and something to help calm willow down. fred seems to be fine and gets on well with both, but the willow/ron relationship really needs some help before he permanently relocates.
thanks in advance
intially we had them shut away in a spare room with a litter tray, food and water and gradually let them explore the house. lay scents and let our other cat discover them without confrontation (we did sock rubbing too). then moved onto gated access, supervised mingling and finally unsupervised mingling.
it seemed to have been going fairly well, no fights, a bit of hissing and grumbling from our older cat, a couple of swipes, but nothing excessive or more than a behavioural correction if the kittens were getting too close for comfort. but now he just runs away (from willow specifically, she's the more boistrous of the 2)
Ron, our older cat (who lost his brother at christmas) has spent an increasing amount of time outside, this was to be expected with new animals in the house. whilst during the summer months i wouldn't take issue with this, especially as he has continued coming in for food, of recent he has been venturing into our neighbors houses looking for more places to sleep, or i fear, a new home.
we thought it was going well, they've been in close proximity and slept near each other a few times now, but Ron is constantly harassed by our more exuberant kitten, willow - she just loves and adores him, but he doesn't want to know. the other night whilst he was sleeping on his back quite happily, she crept up on him and since then, he's just had enough, he can't have a good nap without her interferance - as such, he goes outside and stays outside as long as he can bear it, only really coming in when it's pissing it down with rain.
i'm considering putting up some cat shelves, but he's much more of a bush cat than a tree cat, he'd rather be in a box on the floor than on a shelf high up - i think he's also a little arthritic in his old age, as he seems to struggle a little when crawling out from under a bush after a long nap.
he's also started venturing a bit farther away from hom than he usually would, whilst i can understand the changes in his territory and the stress he's feeling at home to drive him towards this, i'm really looking for a way to re-assure him that he's the one in charge and that the kittens, although boistrous, aren't a threat to him, his world or how much i love him
he's never really been an affectionate cat though, he's not a lap cat, the closest he gets is sitting on the sofa next to you and since the kittens have taken over the living room, he barely ventures in there any more. it's like he feels these kittens have stolen his human, even though i still make attempts to play with him every day and get him to come and sit with me - but as long as the kittens are close by, he backs away.
for example, he came running up the stairs to see me yesterday and then stopped dead in his tracks as willow poked her head around the top of the stairs. he then refused to budge, leaving me to go down the stairs towards him. whereas as fred then appeared (the other kitten, winifred officially) went down the stairs towards him and they had nose rubs.
we've got a feliway diffuser to try and reduce the stress, but trying to re-integrate him into the house is being majorly set back by the kittens. i'm not sure whether to impose kitty restrictions and put the gates back up to give him more time to acclimatise to their presence, or just let him get on with it in the hope he'll come around.
the kittens have had free run of the house for about 2 weeks now and whilst it looked like progress was being made, in the past few days, what progress had been made has regressed. he seems to be spending more time int he garden than ever before.
funnily enough, he's ok with fred as she's a lot calmer, she approaches slowly and they rub noses. whereas willow is full of energy and will run straight up to him, he's hissed at her a few times, she's even been swiped at, but she's so wrapped up in kitten frenzy she doesn't heed the warnings, he's now at the point where he's had enough of her and would rather balk at the sight of her than to keep correcting her behaviour.
i'm at a bit of a loss at what to do, other than hope he starts putting her in her place a bit more often and that she gets the idea he's not fond of her idolation (as she really does idolise him, since the moment she met him he was like her hero, it's like a little girl who's older big boy cousin is her idol and she wont leave him alone).
suggestions please, my ron needs help dealing with the whomping willow.
jackson galaxy - the cat from hell guy, suggests spirit essences - would something like this be of help? something to help ron chill out and something to help calm willow down. fred seems to be fine and gets on well with both, but the willow/ron relationship really needs some help before he permanently relocates.
thanks in advance