Miss my cat so much that I haven't slept well

I was fostering a cat for 4 months that I could no longer keep due to conditions under my control. He found a home, but it doesn't make it easier for me to go through. I miss the cat so much that I haven't slept well in 2 days (5 total hours of sleep) and threw up out of being so depressed. I know this is normal - and even contemplated contacting the new owner and seeing if they would be open to returning the cat to me, but I know this would be wrong to ask, right? I really could use some cheering up, and some good comments. I am finding this a really tough part of transitioning for me. Any thoughts/feedback are very much welcome.

I am so sorry that you are feeling so sad.  Many of us here have been through the loss.  The only advice I can offer is to try and remember the good times.  Also know that you did the best you could and the cat is now in a loving home with a full life to lead.  Maybe you will be able to some day take on the roll of full time cat owner.  Try to engage in outside activities.  I truly understand your pain.  You can most likely email the new owner and ask for updates if that would make you feel better.  I wish I had a magic wand to wave over your heart and take away the pain.

Truly remember the good times with this special kitty and know that you prepared it for a life of love.

eruditecat said:

 
I was fostering a cat for 4 months that I could no longer keep due to conditions under my control. He found a home, but it doesn't make it easier for me to go through. I miss the cat so much that I haven't slept well in 2 days (5 total hours of sleep) and threw up out of being so depressed. I know this is normal - and even contemplated contacting the new owner and seeing if they would be open to returning the cat to me, but I know this would be wrong to ask, right? I really could use some cheering up, and some good comments. I am finding this a really tough part of transitioning for me. Any thoughts/feedback are very much welcome.

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I'm so sorry that you had to give up your cat. You're grieving right now and there's no wrong or right way to do that. you did what you thought was best for your cat and you put his needs before your own wants. That was a very selfless thing to do. 

It's going to be OK. It will take time but knowing your cat is in a good home where he's loved and cared for is reassuring. 

What you can do is go to your local Humane Society or a local shelter or rescue and ask about volunteering. The one by me has volunteers that don't do anything except play with and help to socialize the cats. This makes the cats more adoptable and it's great for the volunteers also. Especially ones who can't have a cat for whatever reason. The HS by me calls them cat cuddlers. DD and I did that for a while before I got the girls. This way, you can spend time with cats but it also gives you time to heal from your loss. Your cat didn't pass away but it's still a loss that needs to be grieved. You might even end up meeting a new kitty to bring into your life if and when the time comes when you are able to. 

Hello ~

I am sorry you are grieving. I do know what it is like to lose a pet...it really doesn't matter the reason - if they are family. 

I am writing because I just posted an urgent request for help in finding good, loving homes for my husband's two cats. I also see that one of the Advisors, also commented that one day you might be a full-time cat owner. 

I do not know where you live, but please read my post. I am sure many on this site feel that I am taking the easy way out, but I am not. I have lived being sick for a long time, and I just cannot afford to any longer. I would like for the cats to find a home together where someone will love them. 

My post is from today in the Cat SOS Forum. 

Thank you - Belleiams