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So, I need help with an ongoing and growing problem. Katherine is becoming more aggressive and more bold in her aggression. This not a problem that has happened before in my family with cats and thus is becoming a very personal and resenting problem to the humans in the house. Granted, part of the problem is likely that we don’t play with her enough. She is after all just 1ish years old and in the few short months we’ve had her seen her grow from awkward kitten size to full on cat sized. She’s a little ball of energy that loves, loves, loves to mouse things but the humans in the house are all adults if not older adults who just don’t have a ton of energy themselves. And granted, part of the problem is probably because when she began with her “love nips” and her biting/chewing while playing we didn’t knock it off right away. That said, it is an ever growing problem and I’m not here to play the blame game, I’m here to find a solution to correct behavior.
The first problem is between Katherine and my Father. He is if nothing else, very loving to that cat. He’s more than happy to play with the cat and is more likely to be the person who will play with the cat. When she wants attention or affection he’s usually more than happy to give it. The problem is he doesn’t like having aggression towards him that’s undeserved or provoked. Case in point: Katherine has begun hissing at him out of the blue. Like the other day she walked up to home across the couch. Tail up, life was good. She rubbed him with her cheek as if to say “hello” and “pet me” and she began sniffing him politely then suddenly hissed. I’ve seen her so this where she’ll rub hello and he’ll start petting then suddenly hiss. And he’s the ONLY one she does it to. The other day they were sanding in the front doorway inside the house. Dad walked over there to leave the house and Katherine followed him tail up. She rubbed on his shins for a moment acting cute and my dad talking to the cat said something around the lines of, “sorry you can’t come with me. No you can’t come with me” Then he says, “maybe it’s you who’s been in the house plants” and he points at her. All cutesy cat owner stuff. The moment he turns and points he her, she hisses. It’s killing their relationship because the moment she hisses he’s done. Cat gets pushed off the couch or pushed away, maybe even barked at “GO AWAY!” and we have no idea why she’s doing it. If it was play tmie and she hissed we’d know enough was enough, back off, she’s over stimulated or otherwise bothered. But this is her, initiating attention and affection and going from friendly to hiss and zero flat. Many of the times without even being touched.
She’s now begun to lose favor with me as well. I want to point out, my heart bleeds for this cat. When I’m eating string cheese and she taps me politely for it, that’s cute. When she’s tired of waiting and starts trying to take it away from me with her claws, it’s annoying but I might give her a piece. The other day she was doing that thing where she rubs against my shins and it’s hard to walk because she’s always too close to me. I leaned forward to grab a key off the wall and accidently stepped on her foot. She screamed and ran behind the couch, and my heart just dropped. Getting the mail was no longer important. I tried to come to her to make sure she was okay and no serious damage was done but every time I got close she ran away. The fact she ran and hid from me just made my heart sink further. I finally managed to reluctantly coax her out with some yummies. I made sure she was physically okay, and her tail went up and she rubbed against me again. She wasn’t in a foul mood anymore. Anyone who’s own a small cat or dog has probably had a similar experience. I use it as an example to point out I do care about this animal deeply.
There are times though when she’s become overly aggressive towards me. For examples sometimes I’ll pick her up and she’ll growl. More to the point she’s really quick to bite. And not just bite, but chew on me. If she does a bite and hold, I can’t move my hand or arm or it causes her to try and chew to reassert her hold. I’m basically at her mercy when she does this. And I’ll always start fine. I’ll be petting her and she’ll suddenly nip me. If I move, it becomes gnawing. Or she’ll be following me around the house and I’ll reach down to say hello and she suddenly bites me. She’ll be in a window and I’ll pet her a few times and suddenly I’m bitten. When she’s playful I’ll throw the mousie a few times. If I grab a mousie too closer to her, suddenly I’m now prey. Last night I finally couldn’t take it. I barked at her. Shut her out of my room for the night. And this morning during breakfast I wouldn’t let her on my lap and I didn’t give her any treats. I wanted nothing to do with her.
So how do we put a lid on the aggression? when it comes to me, i'm moderately okay with being gnawed on. If she hits my limit like she did last night i'll just ignore her, shut her out, and not interact with her. My MAIN concern is the hissing at dad. Dad has a pretty zero tolerance attitude towards such things and he's far more likely to bark loudly at a cat or throw a hat at it to get it to leave the room he's in. It's his house and he wants to make sure it's own that it's his house. I'd like to put a stop to all aggression but at the very least i need to end the hissing.
So, I need help with an ongoing and growing problem. Katherine is becoming more aggressive and more bold in her aggression. This not a problem that has happened before in my family with cats and thus is becoming a very personal and resenting problem to the humans in the house. Granted, part of the problem is likely that we don’t play with her enough. She is after all just 1ish years old and in the few short months we’ve had her seen her grow from awkward kitten size to full on cat sized. She’s a little ball of energy that loves, loves, loves to mouse things but the humans in the house are all adults if not older adults who just don’t have a ton of energy themselves. And granted, part of the problem is probably because when she began with her “love nips” and her biting/chewing while playing we didn’t knock it off right away. That said, it is an ever growing problem and I’m not here to play the blame game, I’m here to find a solution to correct behavior.
The first problem is between Katherine and my Father. He is if nothing else, very loving to that cat. He’s more than happy to play with the cat and is more likely to be the person who will play with the cat. When she wants attention or affection he’s usually more than happy to give it. The problem is he doesn’t like having aggression towards him that’s undeserved or provoked. Case in point: Katherine has begun hissing at him out of the blue. Like the other day she walked up to home across the couch. Tail up, life was good. She rubbed him with her cheek as if to say “hello” and “pet me” and she began sniffing him politely then suddenly hissed. I’ve seen her so this where she’ll rub hello and he’ll start petting then suddenly hiss. And he’s the ONLY one she does it to. The other day they were sanding in the front doorway inside the house. Dad walked over there to leave the house and Katherine followed him tail up. She rubbed on his shins for a moment acting cute and my dad talking to the cat said something around the lines of, “sorry you can’t come with me. No you can’t come with me” Then he says, “maybe it’s you who’s been in the house plants” and he points at her. All cutesy cat owner stuff. The moment he turns and points he her, she hisses. It’s killing their relationship because the moment she hisses he’s done. Cat gets pushed off the couch or pushed away, maybe even barked at “GO AWAY!” and we have no idea why she’s doing it. If it was play tmie and she hissed we’d know enough was enough, back off, she’s over stimulated or otherwise bothered. But this is her, initiating attention and affection and going from friendly to hiss and zero flat. Many of the times without even being touched.
She’s now begun to lose favor with me as well. I want to point out, my heart bleeds for this cat. When I’m eating string cheese and she taps me politely for it, that’s cute. When she’s tired of waiting and starts trying to take it away from me with her claws, it’s annoying but I might give her a piece. The other day she was doing that thing where she rubs against my shins and it’s hard to walk because she’s always too close to me. I leaned forward to grab a key off the wall and accidently stepped on her foot. She screamed and ran behind the couch, and my heart just dropped. Getting the mail was no longer important. I tried to come to her to make sure she was okay and no serious damage was done but every time I got close she ran away. The fact she ran and hid from me just made my heart sink further. I finally managed to reluctantly coax her out with some yummies. I made sure she was physically okay, and her tail went up and she rubbed against me again. She wasn’t in a foul mood anymore. Anyone who’s own a small cat or dog has probably had a similar experience. I use it as an example to point out I do care about this animal deeply.
There are times though when she’s become overly aggressive towards me. For examples sometimes I’ll pick her up and she’ll growl. More to the point she’s really quick to bite. And not just bite, but chew on me. If she does a bite and hold, I can’t move my hand or arm or it causes her to try and chew to reassert her hold. I’m basically at her mercy when she does this. And I’ll always start fine. I’ll be petting her and she’ll suddenly nip me. If I move, it becomes gnawing. Or she’ll be following me around the house and I’ll reach down to say hello and she suddenly bites me. She’ll be in a window and I’ll pet her a few times and suddenly I’m bitten. When she’s playful I’ll throw the mousie a few times. If I grab a mousie too closer to her, suddenly I’m now prey. Last night I finally couldn’t take it. I barked at her. Shut her out of my room for the night. And this morning during breakfast I wouldn’t let her on my lap and I didn’t give her any treats. I wanted nothing to do with her.
So how do we put a lid on the aggression? when it comes to me, i'm moderately okay with being gnawed on. If she hits my limit like she did last night i'll just ignore her, shut her out, and not interact with her. My MAIN concern is the hissing at dad. Dad has a pretty zero tolerance attitude towards such things and he's far more likely to bark loudly at a cat or throw a hat at it to get it to leave the room he's in. It's his house and he wants to make sure it's own that it's his house. I'd like to put a stop to all aggression but at the very least i need to end the hissing.