As a lot of you know, my friend is having some problems with her pregnancy. As a friend, it has been hard on the couple of us who has been visiting her and try to stand by her. This afternoon, the ultimatium has finally happened... she has finally given birth and due to the problems in the baby's heart, the baby boy has passed away this afternoon. She called me on my mobile this afternoon and wanted me to go visit her in the hospital and to see the baby boy before he gets pushed to the mortuary..Naturally, I was scared. I wanted somebody to be there with me. None of my friends wanted to go and one of them had the cheek to tell me that she didn't want to go and asked why do I need to go to see the dead baby... man, I flared up at that point in time and I told her straight in the face that I need to go cos the baby is important to her and she wants us to see her baby the last time. I told her also that I dun quite understand why when such things happen, I'm always the one there for them and at the end of the day when everyone finds an excuse to move out of the picture, I'm still there. When I try to squirm out of it, you guys would try to say I'm not being responsible.Am I wrong? On my way there, my friend sent me a message on the phone, saying that she didn't wish to go cos she wanted to avoid a sad scene.. I told her off immediately that as friends, we should go through happiness and sadness together and not choose selectively what to go through together and what not to. Was I wrong to think that way? This was how I treat all my friends but yet when I'm in trouble, nobody was there for me. Instead of consolation, all I got was accusations and the 'see i told you' kinda attitude.. do I deserve that???
thanks for listening... I'm not sure whether did I do wrong this time or have I scolded the wrong person this time.. but thanks for listening...
thanks for listening... I'm not sure whether did I do wrong this time or have I scolded the wrong person this time.. but thanks for listening...