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Hello, my name is Audrey. I am fairly new to the site but I must say I am impressed with the helpful network of people in this community. I was hoping I could get some advice on the new member of the family...
So, first things first. MyBoo Boo boy just died of lung cancer. He was 14 and absolutely the most perfect cat in the world. He was intelligent, didn't make a mess, was very social, etc. After grieving, I thought it was finally the time to open my heart to a new cat. I rescued 2 year old ChiChi from a local humane society.
At first he was sweet; no biting, scratching, etc. However, as he began adjusting more and more to the house, we began to see less and less of him. Every day he is either under the bed, or trying to run outside. He constantly scratches at my box spring and vintage vanity chair, even though I tell him "no," in a stern voice, he chewed through the IAMS cat bag even though there were two full bowls of food right next to it, he doesn't clean himself and gets POOP on me, and howls constantly. CONSTANTLY. What he will do is after about 5 minutes of visiting, he will walk into the other room and just meow and howl at top volume for up to 20 minutes. Also, if he hears the slightest noise he will bolt and hide under the bed for hours.
I really am trying to give this cat a chance and learn to love him, but it is just so hard. We have had him for about a month or so.
Boo was nothing like him.. He was the perfect, low maintenance and clean cat. It is just so hard. I know it's not fair to compare two different animals, but I can't help but do so.
Is there anything I can do to make this cat a bit more social and confident? Is there any way I can tell him what is right and wrong without coming off as harsh or unloving? (Disclaimer: I do pet him all the time and cuddle him. Do not think he is deprived of love or neglected here. )
So, first things first. MyBoo Boo boy just died of lung cancer. He was 14 and absolutely the most perfect cat in the world. He was intelligent, didn't make a mess, was very social, etc. After grieving, I thought it was finally the time to open my heart to a new cat. I rescued 2 year old ChiChi from a local humane society.
At first he was sweet; no biting, scratching, etc. However, as he began adjusting more and more to the house, we began to see less and less of him. Every day he is either under the bed, or trying to run outside. He constantly scratches at my box spring and vintage vanity chair, even though I tell him "no," in a stern voice, he chewed through the IAMS cat bag even though there were two full bowls of food right next to it, he doesn't clean himself and gets POOP on me, and howls constantly. CONSTANTLY. What he will do is after about 5 minutes of visiting, he will walk into the other room and just meow and howl at top volume for up to 20 minutes. Also, if he hears the slightest noise he will bolt and hide under the bed for hours.
I really am trying to give this cat a chance and learn to love him, but it is just so hard. We have had him for about a month or so.
Boo was nothing like him.. He was the perfect, low maintenance and clean cat. It is just so hard. I know it's not fair to compare two different animals, but I can't help but do so.
Is there anything I can do to make this cat a bit more social and confident? Is there any way I can tell him what is right and wrong without coming off as harsh or unloving? (Disclaimer: I do pet him all the time and cuddle him. Do not think he is deprived of love or neglected here. )