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Thanks in advance for your help. I'm writing for some advice - maybe just some reassurance - on helping our two cats to live peacefully.
We've had our first cat - a two-year-old tortie female named Izumi - for about five months now. She's been a dream - doesn't scratch up the furniture, mild-tempered, playful, never pooped outside the litter box, and a huge blessing for us. Izumi by default is very shy; she will normally go and hide when anyone unfamiliar comes over. However after she gets used to them she's very warm and friendly.
About 2.5 weeks ago we decided to adopt an adorable kitten - Loki, a darling four-month-old male (right now as I type this he's intently following the cursor onscreen while trying to "catch" it with his paws). He's typical kitten - unlimited energy and desire to play. He's fearless with strangers and wants to make friends immediately.
With Feliaway plugged into a nearby electrical socket we started out by sequestering the little guy in our guest bathroom along with some blankets, scratching post, his food and water, a litter box, and some toys. It's a full bath but not a huge space overall; needless to say we feel horrible having such a playful and energetic kitten stuck in there, but we are severely limited due to our small condo. We isolated them for a week while feeding Izumi closer and closer to his door; she initially was highly anxious around his door but gradually became more comfortable with the area. We also made sure to take blankets from little guy's room and leave them around the condo to distribute his smell. We took him out of his room and let Izumi wander around in there as well to get used to his scent. We make sure to let him out to run around our condo as much as we can, several times a day, so he isn't stuck in that bathroom all the time. Believe me, it hurts like nothing else to hear his squeaky little meow from behind that door.
Next step was letting the two see each other through a baby gate, Loki in his bathroom and Izumi on the other side. Loki showed no fear and was happy to waltz right up to the gate. We coaxed Izumi over with treats and she eventually became happy to walk right up to the gate where unfortunately she hissed and growled at Loki, who sometimes sat there and sometimes backed off. At first she did the same but now is more comfortable asserting herself across the gate; Loki was quiet but still happy to walk right up. We felt Izumi's comfort level increase as we also began playing with both cats separately on either side of the baby gate, also making sure to offer treats when they were willing to approach the gate without hissing or growling and also offer treats for playing nearby. We tried a number of times to feed them both their food on opposite sides of the baby gate (in view of each other) but every time Loki was too distracted by Izumi and walked over to the gate or tried to jump over; that got Izumi's attention and she started growling and hissing. Ultimately nobody was doing any eating so we didn't let that go on for long.
After a bit over a week of that with the consultation of some friends and sensing Izumi was getting a bit more comfortable we decided tonight to let them meet face to face; they ended up in our living room. Loki of course waltzed right up to Izumi, a bit quickly of course; she stepped back, hissed and growled, and pawed at the guy to stay away. That pattern repeated several times with Loki doing this kind of hop-movement in front of her, backing away and then stepping forward, sometimes quickly and sometimes not. I don't know enough about cats to understand his posture; he often sat back on his haunches and either looked at her or looked away. With the hopping motion I was unsure if he was being playful (my assumption as he's a kitten) or trying to be aggressive and dominant. He definitely was willing to move quickly toward Izumi, even after she continued to give him signals to watch it. A couple times when she tried walking away quietly he moved quickly towards her, almost to cut her movements off, it seemed. The two didn't fight per se but there was a fair amount of stand-off between the two with Izumi growling, hissing, and pawing at him when he got too close. Loki certainly was the one moving toward Izumi the whole time. There wasn't really any positive behavior by either that we felt we wanted to reward with treats.We tried distracting the two with toys to at least get them to play in the same space but they kept going towards each other and the same standoff kept happening.
So here's my concern: this first meeting obviously didn't go well. What are some ways we can develop a positive association for the two cats when they see each other? We've tried to do so before the two of them meeting with some measure of success. My concern is that Loki is so easily distracted by Izumi that it's going to be hard to keep his attention on anything but her while the two are visible to each other and there's no barrier in between them. On the other hand maybe at this point we should let the two of them continue to meet so Loki can get the message from Izumi that the way he's approaching her is not okay. We want to get things worked out between the two of them so the little guy can spend less time cooped up in his room and more time running around being a kitten - and hopefully being a good pal to Izumi too.
We've had our first cat - a two-year-old tortie female named Izumi - for about five months now. She's been a dream - doesn't scratch up the furniture, mild-tempered, playful, never pooped outside the litter box, and a huge blessing for us. Izumi by default is very shy; she will normally go and hide when anyone unfamiliar comes over. However after she gets used to them she's very warm and friendly.
About 2.5 weeks ago we decided to adopt an adorable kitten - Loki, a darling four-month-old male (right now as I type this he's intently following the cursor onscreen while trying to "catch" it with his paws). He's typical kitten - unlimited energy and desire to play. He's fearless with strangers and wants to make friends immediately.
With Feliaway plugged into a nearby electrical socket we started out by sequestering the little guy in our guest bathroom along with some blankets, scratching post, his food and water, a litter box, and some toys. It's a full bath but not a huge space overall; needless to say we feel horrible having such a playful and energetic kitten stuck in there, but we are severely limited due to our small condo. We isolated them for a week while feeding Izumi closer and closer to his door; she initially was highly anxious around his door but gradually became more comfortable with the area. We also made sure to take blankets from little guy's room and leave them around the condo to distribute his smell. We took him out of his room and let Izumi wander around in there as well to get used to his scent. We make sure to let him out to run around our condo as much as we can, several times a day, so he isn't stuck in that bathroom all the time. Believe me, it hurts like nothing else to hear his squeaky little meow from behind that door.
Next step was letting the two see each other through a baby gate, Loki in his bathroom and Izumi on the other side. Loki showed no fear and was happy to waltz right up to the gate. We coaxed Izumi over with treats and she eventually became happy to walk right up to the gate where unfortunately she hissed and growled at Loki, who sometimes sat there and sometimes backed off. At first she did the same but now is more comfortable asserting herself across the gate; Loki was quiet but still happy to walk right up. We felt Izumi's comfort level increase as we also began playing with both cats separately on either side of the baby gate, also making sure to offer treats when they were willing to approach the gate without hissing or growling and also offer treats for playing nearby. We tried a number of times to feed them both their food on opposite sides of the baby gate (in view of each other) but every time Loki was too distracted by Izumi and walked over to the gate or tried to jump over; that got Izumi's attention and she started growling and hissing. Ultimately nobody was doing any eating so we didn't let that go on for long.
After a bit over a week of that with the consultation of some friends and sensing Izumi was getting a bit more comfortable we decided tonight to let them meet face to face; they ended up in our living room. Loki of course waltzed right up to Izumi, a bit quickly of course; she stepped back, hissed and growled, and pawed at the guy to stay away. That pattern repeated several times with Loki doing this kind of hop-movement in front of her, backing away and then stepping forward, sometimes quickly and sometimes not. I don't know enough about cats to understand his posture; he often sat back on his haunches and either looked at her or looked away. With the hopping motion I was unsure if he was being playful (my assumption as he's a kitten) or trying to be aggressive and dominant. He definitely was willing to move quickly toward Izumi, even after she continued to give him signals to watch it. A couple times when she tried walking away quietly he moved quickly towards her, almost to cut her movements off, it seemed. The two didn't fight per se but there was a fair amount of stand-off between the two with Izumi growling, hissing, and pawing at him when he got too close. Loki certainly was the one moving toward Izumi the whole time. There wasn't really any positive behavior by either that we felt we wanted to reward with treats.We tried distracting the two with toys to at least get them to play in the same space but they kept going towards each other and the same standoff kept happening.
So here's my concern: this first meeting obviously didn't go well. What are some ways we can develop a positive association for the two cats when they see each other? We've tried to do so before the two of them meeting with some measure of success. My concern is that Loki is so easily distracted by Izumi that it's going to be hard to keep his attention on anything but her while the two are visible to each other and there's no barrier in between them. On the other hand maybe at this point we should let the two of them continue to meet so Loki can get the message from Izumi that the way he's approaching her is not okay. We want to get things worked out between the two of them so the little guy can spend less time cooped up in his room and more time running around being a kitten - and hopefully being a good pal to Izumi too.