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You need to sit down with your. Mum and have a quiet serious talk with her that the cat is your cat and if she's not well the sooner she goes to vet the cheaper the bill.
Some cats are just more accident prone than others. I have cats that have only ever been to the vet to be spayed and have their vaccines, I have others that need to be taken in every few months.

Tell your Mum that the vet's bill are usually a lot less if you can take the cat in as soon as possible. Once an injury has been left to get infected or an illness has gone beyond the initial stages the cat needs more medication, sometimes even needs to stay at the vets overnight. It's best to nip these things in the bud.

Hope everything goes well at the vets with Peony.

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Both of you made the same point I've been trying to make with my mom, her counter argument being that it could turn out to not be serious at all.

Her hind legs seem to be very weak, every time she tries to support herself on them she flops on her side. I have to carry her to the litter box now and earlier today she flopped getting in from my arms and then once in couldn't squat right.
I'm starting to question if putting her to sleep would be the humane thing to do. [emoji]128546[/emoji]
 

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Wait and see what the vet says before you start thinking like that. Really. It may be nothing dreadful. Keep the faith..
 

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She's going to the vet today, right? It sounds like she needs to be seen straight away.

Hope she's going to be OK.

 
 
 
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I'm not even sure...
We called an in-home vet yesterday and told her about it and she said we should get an xray, which means we need to get peony to another vet 30 minutes away..
And today we have a lot going so I'm not sure we can. AND my parents are goingbto texas over the weekend so my neighbor will be taking care of a sick cat for the second time.
Soo...
 
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My mom just wants to put her to sleep without a visit to the vet.
She's eating fine, but I don't think she can use the litter very easily. Her stomach is sort of hard, but she doesn't seem in pain, except that when I pick her up she meows somewhat pitifully.

If my mom doesn't insist on putting her down, I'll be taking her with me to where I'm staying while my parents are gone.
 

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My mom just wants to put her to sleep without a visit to the vet.
She's eating fine, but I don't think she can use the litter very easily. Her stomach is sort of hard, but she doesn't seem in pain, except that when I pick her up she meows somewhat pitifully.

If my mom doesn't insist on putting her down, I'll be taking her with me to where I'm staying while my parents are gone.
Peony, I am so extraordinarily sorry that you're stuck in this situation.  This won't be easy to hear, but I think you need to stand up to mom and explain that putting an animal with a treatable condition to sleep is abuse.  She sounds like a real piece of work and if I were you I'd pull out every manipulative tactic possible to save this cat's life.  Cry, beg, tell her that if she doesn't treat your cat with respect she doesn't respect YOU- because your pet is an extension of you.  By proxy, she's actually harming you when she refuses to help your beloved pet.   Loving parents don't pull this BS.  If she cares about you, she will care about your pet, period.  

If you can't rattle her, then you have my utmost sympathy.  (Not that you don't already have my sympathy!  You have metric tons of it!!)  And you may have to take it upon yourself to find a temporary home for your cat until you come of age and can get the heck out of Dodge.  Would any of your friend's families be willing to take care of her for the time being?  Any family members?  A local rescue might be able to find a foster home willing to care for her temporarily (foster furparents are generally glad to know the cat will eventually have a forever home). 

Vet's offices, Petco/Petsmart, the local chapter of the humane society: these places all work with rescues and can get you names and numbers of people who can help you out.  If you explain your situation- your cat needs veterinary help and a home or else she's going to be euthanized, and that decision is out of your hands- someone is going to take pity on you.  

My very best to you.  Please keep us updated.
 
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If she has a condition thay needs prolonged treatment than my parents have told me that they are not willing to pay for it. We originally got Peony to be an outdoor cat but then the christmas after we got her she was allowed in the house.
There is no way I'll be able to sway them, we finally let her in only after I had been begging for months and she had run in the house and hid at every given chance.
I've found a link that practically describes what she's going through.
http://www.cat-world.com.au/hyperadrenocorticism-cushings-syndrome
I haven't seen all of the symptoms but a lot of them are, or at least seem, spot on.
 
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If she has a condition thay needs prolonged treatment than my parents have told me that they are not willing to pay for it. We originally got Peony to be an outdoor cat but then the christmas after we got her she was allowed in the house.
There is no way I'll be able to sway them, we finally let her in only after I had been begging for months and she had run in the house and hid at every given chance.
I've found a link that practically describes what she's going through.
http://www.cat-world.com.au/hyperadrenocorticism-cushings-syndrome
I haven't seen all of the symptoms but a lot of them are, or at least seem, spot on.
Please don't assume your cat has a chronic illness; so many different conditions share symptoms and mimic each other.  Peony needs evaluated by vet, and it's better for her to get into a foster home that can make that happen rather than let her suffer, or worse, let your mother have her euthanized.  Sometimes being a pet parent means making difficult decisions that are in the animal's best interests.  It's not fair to you to be placed in this situation; on the other hand, it's not fair to Peony that she can't get the care she needs.  She needs you to woman up on this one, hon.

Is there no one  you know personally that can help you out?  
 

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Not even a qualified vet would be able to diagnose what is wrong with your cat just by hearing you describe her symptoms so please stop Googling cat diseases. You're just upsetting yourself and it's not doing any good.

Dealing with uncooperative parents is something many a budding cat-lady or cat-man has to deal with. You have my sympathy too, but you seem like a very level headed and responsible person and I'm sure you are going to learn a lot from this experience and find a way to save your cat.

First of all, is there anyone who will drive you and the cat to the vet? I think it's important that we find out exactly what is wrong with Peony before we worry about expensive treatments or whether she has something terminal. Maybe there is someone, a grand parent, a neighbour, a teacher even, who would lend you the money for her initial examination. You could always find a way to pay that person back, either by helping with chores or by getting a part-time job when you're old enough.

Have you tried calling The Humane Society or any other Animal Shelters in your neighbourhood? 

Once you know exactly what is wrong with her and how much it will cost to treat you can start thinking about how to do so. 
 

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Notschan beat me to it. I was going to say stop googling.
You really do have a problem. Can't your dad do anything? Get your brothers to start nagging about getting her to a vet. Otherwise I don't know what to tell you.
Is she eating and drinking?
 

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@poeny I agree to Norchan and Stewball. You can't really tell one symptom from the other unless you have lots of experience and you are a trained practitioner. so Googling illnesses wont help you at all. What you need to google right now is phone numbers of:

1. local shelters ,
2. pet clinics/local vets
3. animal rescue centres in your city

You can call these places and explain them your situation. There are many good people out there who will be willing to help you by fostering your cat or offering you a discount or maybe helping you find free veterinary care in your area.

And don't lose hope!!! only a vet can decide if a cat needs to be put down. Peony might just need a few days of medical attention to be okay. So don't panic just yet and think the worst. Your "mission" right now is to get your cat to a vet. That's it. Do whatever you can to achieve that !

Good luck and Best wishes.!
 
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The problem being my parents want to just put her down with no further ado. Thankfully, they seem to be stalling.

We called an in-home vet to look at Peony, after we described what was happening the vet said we should get an xray done, which means we have to go to another vet that's 30 minutes away. It seems my mom is unwilling to do that and I don't think there is anyone close enough who is really willing to take Peony to the vet. So far I've probably been told five times that we'll probably put her down "tomorrow" - over the last two days.

Peony is a master of getting sick at the wrong time, last time we were two days to leaving for the beach and Peony's little lime developed into almost immobility.

She's eating and drinking mostly normal, if anything a bit picky. She's using the litter fine, except that she's laying down when she does it and I have to put her in and take her out.

I talked to my mom about foster homes, vet, etc, her response was totally off topic. I take that as a no.
 
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From what you describe . It seems like there is nothing major wrong with Peony. And it's just not right to put down an animal that has a chance to live. You have to have a serious talk with your mom and make her understand that.

Are you not allowed to make phone calls by yourself?  If yes, then make the calls yourself to the vets/shelters/rescue centres. If not, then request your parents to do it. Tell them euthanasia is not an option for an otherwise healthy cat just because she has a minor health problem (hopefully). Insist on it!!

You have my utmost sympathies and you seem like a very responsible person, very much capable of convincing your parents - just keep trying. 

P.S. 

Here are some things that you can check by yourself at home in the mean time. These things are in no way a replacement for professional medical care. but this will only help you keep an eye on your cat till you convince your parents to take her to a vet or a shelter.

1. You tell me she is eating fine, so that's a good sign. make sure she keeps eating.

2. Check her poop color and consistency.  ( I know, it's gross but it can tell you a lot about the health)

     Here's a link to a feline fecal chart : http://web.archive.org/web/20091023085756/http://geocities.com/Heartland/Ranch/2148/pets/monitor.htm

3. Check her pee color: if the pee is dark yellow. it shows dehydration.Give your cat more water to drink. 

4. Do the tent test: pinch some skin from the back of the cat's neck. raise it a little and then release. If the skin snaps back to original position that's a good        sign, if it stays raised that means your cat is dehydrated and needs more fluids. Give her more water to drink or chicken broth if she doesn't drink water.

5.  Take her temperature. If you've never taken a cat's temperature through the anus before then take a  thermometer. While your cat lays on her side, put it           under her front legs (human equivalent to the arm pit).  keep petting the cat and try to keep the thermometer as snugly as possible in her "arm pit".                   remove the thermometer after 2-3 minutes . Note the temperature. This will just give a rough idea of her body temperature.

6. Apply the warm compress that I told you earlier about. If she is suffering from muscle pain this will help soothe down the muscles. It won't do any harm         otherwise.

Good Luck!! 
 

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Have you mentioned to your parents that someday they may be under your care and look what they are teaching you regarding caring for loved ones.  No need for that nursing home . . .

Seriously I hope you find help.  Is there a crazy cat person in your area that you know?  They might be willing to drive your cat 30 miles to a vet.
 
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I see that you haven't posted in several days. I hope that your mom took you and Peonie to the vet and that you now know what is wrong with her and whether it can be fixed.

I understand that your mom would be reluctant to spend the time and money to make Peonie better if she has a chronic condition, but taking the cat to the vet for a quick check-up is a whole lot cheaper than waiting. Penny-wise, pound-foolish is an old saying that seems to apply to your mom.

I hope that you got Peonie to the vet. Please update us on her status and yours.

Good wishes for a happy outcome!

Best regards.
 
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As of now, my parents are in Texas while I'm staying with relatives. handsome kitty handsome kitty , I dont regard my cat on the same level as my family and anyway, I'd never do that to my parents unless I didn't have the money..

Two of my neighbors are crazy dog people, and there was a cat lady here about five years ago. She also had a dog.

My mom did send a signed check with me but she told me it was only if Peony's condition gets too bad and we have to put her down.
By the way, my friend said euthanizing is expensive. How much does it cost?
 
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As of now, my parents are in Texas while I'm staying with relatives. @Handsome Kitty, I dont regard my cat on the same level as my family and anyway, I'd never do that to my parents unless I didn't have the money..

Two of my neighbors are crazy dog people, and there was a cat lady here about five years ago. She also had a dog.

My mom did send a signed check with me but she told me it was only if Peony's condition gets too bad and we have to put her down.
By the way, my friend said euthanizing is expensive. How much does it cost?
Around here, it's $200-300 (including cremation).  I know a couple of country vets that offer a slightly reduced fee, but you'd have to take the body to the crematory yourself, which is an additional expense.

I hope you realize your parents are teaching you to abuse animals.  It's inhumane to allow an animal to suffer, and you seem perfectly happy to go along with their terrible plan.  When are you going to be your own person, hon?  If you love this cat, you'll use that check to get her medical treatment.  What are your parents going to do?  Ground you?  Is there any punishment *not* worth seeing your cat recover and feel better?  

If you don't start rebelling a little and becoming your own individual, you're going to be in for a rough road ahead.  You're going to consistently allow people like your mom into your life, and those people will take advantage of you, try to control you, and hurt you.  You do realize your mom is not a nice person, yes?
 

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As of now, my parents are in Texas while I'm staying with relatives. @Handsome Kitty, I dont regard my cat on the same level as my family and anyway, I'd never do that to my parents unless I didn't have the money..

Two of my neighbors are crazy dog people, and there was a cat lady here about five years ago. She also had a dog.

My mom did send a signed check with me but she told me it was only if Peony's condition gets too bad and we have to put her down.
By the way, my friend said euthanizing is expensive. How much does it cost?
Sorry @Peony, I have an odd sense of humor.  I actually regard my kitties on a level with my kids when they were younger.  If I didn't speak up for them, no one else would.  

With all the traveling your parents seem to do I am thinking this isn't a money issue and your folks just want the cat gone.  May I ask how old you are?
 

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@peony  Is the person you are staying with willing to drive you and your cat to the vet? If so, take her in now, have the vet examine her and decide what is the best course of treatment. If the vet thinks she has something serious and euthanasia is the best option and you don't have enough money to pay for this it would be better to hand her over to a shelter or the Humane Society rather that let her suffer. I'm worried that if your parents don't want to spend the money on having her PTS humanely they may decide to deal with the matter themselves, which would be far far worse.

If the vet thinks she can be treated then use the cheque your parents left to pay for the first part of treatment and then try to raise the funds yourself, a part-time job, a garage sale a Go-Fund Me account, anything you can think of. If you've paid for the first part of her treatment you'll have a better chance of persuading the vet to wait until you have enough money to pay for the rest.

If your parents complain about you taking her to the vet then tell them that she was getting worse and you thought it was her time.

She's your cat. You say that you don't think of her the same way as you think of your family, but she thinks of you as her family. You're all she's got. Please don't let her suffer.

 
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