Building a bridge at Xmas

yola

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Right - I need some advice concerning my brother. Briefly - we haven't spoken since Sept 2002. He seems to think either myself or hubby have broken a promise and he feel hard done by.

The only thing I can think of is that we didn't help him turn quite a good idea of his into a business proposition - but that was because I got made redundant from my job around that time and we had to concentrate on developing our own business.

We did explain that to him at the time and he seemed cool with it. But all of a sudden he was bitching to my mother about broken promises etc.

He's 34 and still lives at home with my Mum - and doesn't have much of a 'life' outside of work and drinking with his male 'buddies'.

Any ideas on how I can try to build a bridge without getting (a) my head bitten off or (b) ignored? I tried last Christmas and didn't get very far.

I really don't want my little baby growing up not knowing his only uncle.

Any advice would be appreciated.
 

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Originally posted by Yola

I really don't want my little baby growing up not knowing his only uncle.
Yola, I think you said it best right there. Your brother can stay mad at you and hubby, but Dominik shouldn't be punished for a perceived slight before he was even born! I would use Dominik as the way to break into the topic with your brother. Besides, how could anyone be mad looking at, let alone holding him??? He is so precious!
 

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I'm sorry about your brother, Hopefully this Christmas things will turn around for you, I agree with Heidi Dominik will be a great ice breaker.
Good luck Yola.
 
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