A friend of mine is having some problems and I thought what better place to get advice than here.
She is in a really bad marriage...he hardly ever talks to her and doesn't even care what is going on in her life outside of what she is fixing for supper. They don't even talk to each other or sleep in the same bed anymore. and when they do talk, it usually ends up in sarcasim or yelling.
Yes...divorce would seem like a simple answer....not so simple..... she cannot afford to pay the bills by herself, and also is afraid of being alone, since she never has been.
Marriage counceling is out...she told me he won't do that...he says it is stupid.
She says people tell her to just be strong and leave him and that things will work out, but that they don't understand how hard that would be at this point in her life (she is jobless and has a child)
So should she just live with it and deal with it until she is financially able to stand on her own two feet...or should she risk losing everything....(her state law says the hubby would get half of everything whether it was actually his or not)
She talks to me on a regular basis, and I try to help her as much as I can...but thought I would get your input...she would really appreciate it. She feels very sad, very hurt...and tired of trying to make the marriage work...but she is just terrified of being alone, or that noone else would want her, and that she couldn't pay the bills alone.
I know she doen't deserve this heartache. I guess there really isn't any advice you can give her that I haven't already given her. It isn't that she doesn't WANT to take the advice...it is more that she is scared to.
She is in a really bad marriage...he hardly ever talks to her and doesn't even care what is going on in her life outside of what she is fixing for supper. They don't even talk to each other or sleep in the same bed anymore. and when they do talk, it usually ends up in sarcasim or yelling.
Yes...divorce would seem like a simple answer....not so simple..... she cannot afford to pay the bills by herself, and also is afraid of being alone, since she never has been.
Marriage counceling is out...she told me he won't do that...he says it is stupid.
She says people tell her to just be strong and leave him and that things will work out, but that they don't understand how hard that would be at this point in her life (she is jobless and has a child)
So should she just live with it and deal with it until she is financially able to stand on her own two feet...or should she risk losing everything....(her state law says the hubby would get half of everything whether it was actually his or not)
She talks to me on a regular basis, and I try to help her as much as I can...but thought I would get your input...she would really appreciate it. She feels very sad, very hurt...and tired of trying to make the marriage work...but she is just terrified of being alone, or that noone else would want her, and that she couldn't pay the bills alone.
I know she doen't deserve this heartache. I guess there really isn't any advice you can give her that I haven't already given her. It isn't that she doesn't WANT to take the advice...it is more that she is scared to.