Picking a cat up is a big deal. For some ferals, it's just never going to happen. I have one like that. I've had others that demand being picked up once they are tame. Here's some thoughts:
- Time, time, time. Go at their pace. We humans have a nasty habit of trying to work everything on our timeline.
- Have NO expectations but do have hope. If you expect something, you're more easily disappointed. I expect nothing from any feral I've had and because of that, I'm always rewarded when ANYTHING good happens.
- If you can pet the cat, try and spend time moving your hand down their chest and belly but keep it moving. You want them to conclude that your hand position is normal and usual.
- If you can pet the cat while he is eating, try moving him just a little as he's "into" chowing down. This worked on one cat I had to the point that I could move his plate and then pick him up and move him closer to it.
- Avoid trying to pick him up while standing over him. We're quite big and their not.
- When trying to handle him or pick him up, do it on his favorite and most comfortable territory.
- If you can interact with him while playing, work on touching then. I had a kitten who loved plastic straws and while she was "killing" them, I could really touch her without consequence. I know, it was a kitten. Still....
- I've had great success spraying my hands lightly with Feliway spray before a socialization session. Actually, it's a long process but I do like the spray and it might help reduce some tension.
Did I mention to go slow??? Just kidding but I'm a firm believer that we're on their clock. I'm happy if I can just sit beside a cat I'm socializing and read the Sunday paper to it. To me, that's a success. It's all progress and it's always worth it.
- Time, time, time. Go at their pace. We humans have a nasty habit of trying to work everything on our timeline.
- Have NO expectations but do have hope. If you expect something, you're more easily disappointed. I expect nothing from any feral I've had and because of that, I'm always rewarded when ANYTHING good happens.
- If you can pet the cat, try and spend time moving your hand down their chest and belly but keep it moving. You want them to conclude that your hand position is normal and usual.
- If you can pet the cat while he is eating, try moving him just a little as he's "into" chowing down. This worked on one cat I had to the point that I could move his plate and then pick him up and move him closer to it.
- Avoid trying to pick him up while standing over him. We're quite big and their not.
- When trying to handle him or pick him up, do it on his favorite and most comfortable territory.
- If you can interact with him while playing, work on touching then. I had a kitten who loved plastic straws and while she was "killing" them, I could really touch her without consequence. I know, it was a kitten. Still....
- I've had great success spraying my hands lightly with Feliway spray before a socialization session. Actually, it's a long process but I do like the spray and it might help reduce some tension.
Did I mention to go slow??? Just kidding but I'm a firm believer that we're on their clock. I'm happy if I can just sit beside a cat I'm socializing and read the Sunday paper to it. To me, that's a success. It's all progress and it's always worth it.