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post #1 of 25
Thread Starter 
Guys, it was called to my attention on my quilting forum, that I was a very insensitive person when I posted the other day about my Christmas gift to our deacon. I chose the title because at least two of our members told me jokingly that he was going to kill me when he got it.....If I have hurt anyone, I'm sorry, and if you would like for me to get the mods to remove it please let me know.Now I'm going to go back off in my own little hole in the wall and cry, because the worst thing in the world for me is to hurt someone, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Thanks!
post #2 of 25
Where is the thread you are talking about?
post #3 of 25
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally posted by HopeHacker
Where is the thread you are talking about?
Hope, here it is, the complaints on my other board were with the titling of it.
http://thecatsite.com/forums/showthr...threadid=29588
post #4 of 25
Oh, I wouldn't worry about it. It's all in fun. People need to learn to lighten up. I don't think it's offensive at all.
post #5 of 25
Cindy, if your concern is with the title, one of us Mods can certainly change it for you. I didn't find it offensive since you did specify that it was funny!
post #6 of 25
The only thing I can think of that would come across as insensitive is that fact that the deacon is widowed. But you did say it was 12 years, which isn't that recent. Plus no one but you understands what type of sense of humor he possesses. Personally, I wouldn't do it, because a Deacon is supposed to be dignified, and I would be afraid to pushing the envelope. But I didn't find it offensive, maybe just a little odd, but again, you are the only one who knows the players.
post #7 of 25
I didn't find if offensive - I was glad you put the (funny) in the title, and I thought that made it pretty clear that it was in fun.
post #8 of 25
I didn't find it offensive at all... Cindy and I dont think that you are insensitive at all, I think you are a very sensitive caring person who cares about her cats and all living things around her.
post #9 of 25
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally posted by hissy
The only thing I can think of that would come across as insensitive is that fact that the deacon is widowed. But you did say it was 12 years, which isn't that recent. Plus no one but you understands what type of sense of humor he possesses. Personally, I wouldn't do it, because a Deacon is supposed to be dignified, and I would be afraid to pushing the envelope. But I didn't find it offensive, maybe just a little odd, but again, you are the only one who knows the players.
MA, odd shouldbe my middle name! Truthfully, he's going to get a great big kick out of it, he's just that kind of guy. The offence that was taken on the other site was with the titleing of my thread(just like it is here), and I just cannot stand the thought of hurting someone else. My dad is the one of his fellow deacons (yeah, I was raised a deacon's kid, and probably know more about the buisiness end of running the church and the way it should be done than most of the male members because of that), and dad thinks its hilarous.
Mods, if you want to rename it, I won't be offended, and if you think that its ok as it is, that's ok too, I'm actually easy to please (unless you're talking to my husband ).
post #10 of 25
Quote:
Originally posted by Suzy
I didn't find if offensive - I was glad you put the (funny) in the title, and I thought that made it pretty clear that it was in fun.
Ditto!
post #11 of 25
Nothing offensive about it at all -- you did make it clear it wasn't serious. As Hope said, they need to lighten up. Relax. It's OK
post #12 of 25
I found it more amusing than offensive - for me it makes the church seem more human.
post #13 of 25
It wasn't offensive at all, you put "(funny)" so we all knew it was a joke, don't worry about it!
post #14 of 25
Not offensive at all - I think a little humour never did anyone any harm. And you did put 'funny' in the title which meant hopefully those looking would not take it too seriously.
post #15 of 25
Hello Kitten

Nah, that wasn't offensive to me. I thought it was quite an imaginative idea You know the people in your life better than someone here ever could and understand their sense of humor. Don't sweat it.
post #16 of 25
Quote:
Originally posted by HopeHacker
Oh, I wouldn't worry about it. It's all in fun. People need to learn to lighten up. I don't think it's offensive at all.
I agree
post #17 of 25
I wouldn't call it offencive. Creepy, but that is about it. I'm sorry, I've always thought those dolls were creepy. The ones make of dried up apples freaked me out as a kid, and we had to make them in class one year!
post #18 of 25
It cracked me up!!!!.I need surgery to take the grin from my face!.

He's got to see the funny side of it, we all did!

Susan
post #19 of 25
I agree with M.A. - you know the people involved. If you think he will find it funny and not remind him of his loss, I think it is fine. You said you checked with you Dad, who must know him very well, so I think you should do what you think is right.

My Dad was a Deacon for most of my going up life. They are just ordinary people who want to serve the Lord. They usually are warm people with a soft-heart.
post #20 of 25
Like others have said here - I think that your title was ok as you did put "(funny)". Without it I could see a problem, but as it's there - what's offensive there?

I don't get it anyway. Those were people on another forum complaining about your thread here? or did you put up a similar thread there as well?
post #21 of 25
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally posted by Anne
Like others have said here - I think that your title was ok as you did put "(funny)". Without it I could see a problem, but as it's there - what's offensive there?

I don't get it anyway. Those were people on another forum complaining about your thread here? or did you put up a similar thread there as well?
Anne,
I posted this on the quilting forum that I belong to on about.com, and recieved an ugly e-mail telling me how insensitive I was to those who had just lost loved ones to use the title that I did (same as here, no different). I thought I'd get some input from you guys here, a) because I respect everyone's opinion, and b) because I think of you guys as my friends, and couldn't stand the thought of having upset anyone. It's just my nature to hate to cause anyone to be hurt or upset, and like I told Kate Ang last night, when I finished reading the e-mail that the lady sent me, I just sat down and cried. I'd rather take a beating personally than for someone to tell me I hurt them....and I'm in upper management, go figure!
post #22 of 25
I didn't find it offensive at all. You even put (funny) in it! When I saw the title I thought "Uh oh, sounds like someone got another kitty and hubby is not too happy!"

Not for one second did I think anything negative about it.
post #23 of 25
Quote:
Originally posted by Purr
...When I saw the title I thought "Uh oh, sounds like someone got another kitty and hubby is not too happy!"
...
Bingo! My thought precisely!
post #24 of 25
I don't think it's offensive or insensitive either. The only way I could imagine that is if it was a blow-up doll, which it is not. What you made was just a larger version of a craft type doll, which are often made as gifts. I don't see the problem.
post #25 of 25
Quilters have issues.



Well not you.

Okay so that's just my sense of humour.
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