two male cats are best friends?? Is this normal?

stevie87

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Hello,

We have a one year old castrated cat Stevie. He seems to of made best friends with another male slightly older ginger cat. They do not growl or hiss at each other and Stevie is quite happy for the cat to be in the garden. I would of thought if he was unhappy he would hiss and puff his tail like he usually does????

Stevie today was caught showing the ginger cat around his house quite happily leading him around. It is quite amusing but as the male cat does not seem to have been castrated we would rather he didn't come into the house incase he scent marks. He has been sneaking in and eating Stevies food. This morning before work ginger cat and Stevie were Seen sitting outside the cat flap ginger cat trying to put his head through and Stevie was nudging him in almost saying go on go on it's ok!!!! Like I said it's quite funny, I'm just unsure whether Stevie actually likes this cat or the ginger cat is just being dominant over him. We don't know whether to just allow them to hang about together and just try and deter ginger cat coming into the house and eating or to try and find out who he belongs to. He may be a stray as we live in a rural area with farms.
Stevie also looks for him when we bring him in at night. As soon as ginger cat turns up he meows very loudly not aggressively just very loudly almost calling Stevie. Is this friendly or being aggressive??
Has anyone experienced this before with two male cats that are strangers to each other??

Many thanks!
 

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It sounds to me like Stevie has a friend :) I used to have indoor/outdoor cats. One turned up and moved in, we bought a pair of brothers from a breeder, and over the years a further 3 cats moved in. I always got the impression that the resident cats 'vetted' the newcomers before they ever made it to the back door! I'm certain cats that go out unsupervised make friends (and enemies) that we never know anything about.

Regarding Stevie's friend - do you know if he belongs to anyone, or is he a stray/friendly semi-feral? If he doesn't have an owner, you may find yourself with a second cat on your hands. If that's the case, regardless of whether he's going to continue outside or move in, I'd suggest that you trap/catch him and take him to the vet to be neutered. A thorough health check is also a good idea -especially FIV and FeLV testing. You don't want Stevie to catch those dreadful viruses. If the friend is to stay out, ear tipping is a good idea. That way, anyone who cares for ferals in your area won't trap him for TNR only to find he's already been done.

If he does have an owner, I think you need to have a talk with them about neutering him. Quite apart from anything else, it's the best thing one can do for the cats health and safety.
 
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We have no idea where he has appeared from. We had another cat turn up but we worked out where it had come from and it soon disappeared. Ginge seems to be sticking around!!! We are going to ask around and see if any of the neighbours know where he has come from. I did think about trying to catch him but he doesn't seem ovey friendly with humans which makes me think he's ferrel
But he's not aggressive. We are moving soon as we are living with my partners parents at the moment, so don't want to overly encourage him in as they will be left dealing with him. How ever the softy in me feels mean separating them if they're mates and I'll probably end up trying to make friends with him [emoji]128522[/emoji]
 

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Feral cats can be tamed and brought inside. Ginge clearly isn't fully feral - if he was, you'd never see him, and he certainly wouldn't come inside. Catching him would be a great idea - to get him checked and neutered if nothing else. There are several ways to do this - humane traps, drop traps, or even plain old trickery by using food to lure him into a carrier. I've done a little work with semi ferals, but there are others more experienced than me who can advise you here. If it was me, I'd work on taming him so he could move in. You're further ahead than you think as he's bonded to Stevie so well. Seeing Stevie comfortable around you will shown him you're safe and make it easier for him to trust you. Taming takes time, but is so rewarding. It's really just a case of baby steps and infinite patience. I think he's probably asking if he can move in, but isn't quite ready to trust humans.

If you post in the ferals and strays forum, you'll be able to get all the advice and help you need - assuming you can't resist taking him in,of course ;)
 
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