i want to give my bengal kitten out for sale

since i lost my wife my Bengal kitten constantly reminds me of her this has made life so hard for i and my daughter so i need some advice am going crazy

Albert,

I am sorry for the loss of your wife.   I don't know where you live, or even in which country you live.   There are many people from the UK here.   But maybe you could make an appointment to talk with your primary care doctor about the way you feel.   If your doctor can't help, he or she might know of someone who could help.  

I have the opposite problem:   my cat is a companion to me and if I lost my cat I would feel very sad.  So I won't be asking people to adopt my cat anytime soon.  My cat's recurring problems with his kidneys sometimes jar me into thinking about what would happen if the cat died.  Of course cats (and dogs) don't love in the same sense that humans love.    I am not saying that they do.

Albert, please write again.   I will check for new posts here later today.   Perhaps others will have advice, too.

Tom

I am so sorry for your loss Albert. Only you know how you feel and what you can and can't cope with at this sad time. The only advice I can give you is to not act in haste. Give yourself a little time before you re home your cat. Sometimes we regret later what we decided to do when our heart is in turmoil. You may have regrets later. But if you do decide to rehome, here in the UK most good breeders will take a kitten or cat back and rehome them for you.Take care. x

I too am so sorry for the loss you and your daughter have experienced. I second what has been said here about talking with your primary care dr and about giving yourself sometime to grieve before considering giving the kitten up.

Should you find it too difficult to have the kitten around after sometime, do please contact the breeder first and let them know the situation. Any good reputable breeder will want the option to have the cat come back to them first.

albertoruize said:

 
since i lost my wife my Bengal kitten constantly reminds me of her this has made life so hard for i and my daughter so i need some advice am going crazy

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I know all too well how you feel. I lost my husband 3 years ago. I still have the dog we adopted together. She grieved just as hard as I did and we still are. She was his dog more than she is mine. She worshipped him and waited for him by the front door for over 2 years after his passing. She used to wait by the door for him to come home from work. It was so hard as I couldn't explain to her where he was and I had to endure the "accusing" stares for a very long time. She and I are still together because this is what he would want. 3 cats have joined us (and our daughter) since he passed.

Try to look at it this way. The three of you lived with your wife and all loved her very much. Your kitten is likely missing her too but she/he likely has no idea what happened. The bond you, your daughter and your kitten share now is a special one. You are all moving forward together. When you look at that kitten, remember being with your wife and picking out the kitten. Remember all the times that the kitten did something cute or silly and made you all laugh. Focus on the good memories that you all created together. Selling the kitten won't make you think of your wife any less than you do now. Cats are a wonderful source of comfort and companionship both in good times and in difficult times. The kitten needs you right now as much as you need him/her. Please be kind to yourself right now. The 3 of you can lean on each other during this tough time. You're still a family even if one member happens to have four legs and fur.