Wasn't sure which forum....but need a shoulder

[kittychick]

Phoebe...our almost 20 part Main Coone rescue from 6 weeks...has seen me through a very abusive divorce and a subsequent marriage to a "dog guy" (who know can't believe has has 6 cats he loves deeply ("gosh -they all have their own personalities-who knew?)

 

[kittychick]

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• kittychick
• Mar 9, 2015

 

[kittychick]

This is Phoebe-waits on top of all my mail.

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• kittychick
• Mar 9, 2015

 

[kittychick]

Last year -a little livelier

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• kittychick
• Mar 9, 2015

 

[kittychick]

Today.....losing a bit of her energy... but so much "Phoebe " left in her. Won't force feed again...won't put her through that. Have always had more clear cut times. Thought on a no win situation? Trying to get a vet to come here when it happens (oless than a week from her "she should have been put Dow dat-can you believe it? )

I need support from my "board friends" (I do know I have to make ultimate decision). This is pic of Phoebe this am (she always looks grumpy

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• kittychick
• Mar 9, 2015

 

[kittychick]

And it's been a year -any suggestions on finding (gulp) home euthanasia vets helpful-northern ohio)

 

[di and bob]

My heart goes out to you, I'll definitely keep you both in my thoughts and prayers. I guess if it was my baby I would keep going as long as Phoebe is eating and drinking. Offer meat canned baby food, my oldster loves the turkey. At almost twenty you know she is at the end of her time here on earth, and although we would love to have them with us forever, realistically it is not to be. You have given her a wonderful life, full of love and devotion and I'm sure she returned it a hundredfold. You are the one that knows her the best, you can't let such a wonderful cat suffer, even for a moment. If she gets to the point of NO interest at all, in food or attention, or if she seems to be in pain, then I would get hold of the home euthanazia and get involved so they could come whenever you call. Just as a precaution. Now, along with me, we will pray for your sweet baby to go peacefully in her sleep, when it is time, as I would pray for all those precious to us. For the present, just give this precious girl what she wants the most, yourself (and that hot pad!) Please accept the support I know you'll get on this site and keep us posted, bless you for loving that sweet girl so much.  

 

 

[StefanZ]

-any suggestions on finding (gulp) home euthanasia vets helpful-northern ohio)

Sorry, I dont  know ont this question. I hope our Forumists from the USA can give you tips.

I, alike you, I think its time now.   I myself do think its better to let them go when they still have some forces left, still have their dignity.  They do depend on us, and its one of the last help we can give them.  Even if it hurts.  Because it does hurts, it does.

And the very last help and repay will be of course a decent and worthy burial, together with some prayers.

Let her memory be with you forever. And continue to find strengh from the memory, from remebering the good moments.

Many warm hugs!

   /Stefan Z.

 

[ondine]

I am praying for you and Phoebe.  She has been a loyal companion and good friend.  Now it is your turn to help her make the transition with the least pain and most dignity.  I do not know of any services but perhaps your vet may know?

Please know we're all with you.  She's a lucky kitty to have humans who love her so much.

 

[Columbine]

I'm so sorry for your situation. Phoebe is a stunning girl, and you've done fantastically with her. This is always the worst part of having and loving our animals. My heart goes out to you both.

With the euthanasia - will your regular vet not make a house call? Our vets do. It's certainly worth asking.

You are both in my thoughts.

 

[kntrygrl256]

Hugs and prayers for you and Phoebe. My heart breaks for your heartache.

 

 

[detmut]

And it's been a year -any suggestions on finding (gulp) home euthanasia vets helpful-northern ohio)

i'm so sorry

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[grogs]

Hi, I feel your pain. It's never an easy decision to make. For me, if she still has a pretty good quality of life, the treatments don't seem to bother her too much, and they're not too hard on you, then I don't think waiting is a problem. I think finding a vet that will come to your house ahead of time is a very responsible thing to do. I have a very good vet that I have come by once a year to do annual physicals on all my cats. She charges extra for the service, but it's well worth it to avoid the hassle of rounding them all up to take to my regular vet. She does end of life care, too, and I decided a long time ago that if I had to put one of my cats to sleep, I'd prefer to do it at home than in a vet's office. Hopefully you won't need that service for a while, but when you do, I hope you can find someone great to make it easier.

 

[shadowsrescue]

I am so very sorry and my heart is just breaking for you.  This is something that is more difficult than one can imagine. 

Definitely try the baby food or anything you might eat.  Warm tuna with warmed broth.  Warmed chicken broth with some bits of chicken or wet food.  Anything she will eat or drink. 

Keep her close and thank her for all of her love.  You will see her again and she will continue to be with you and watch you from above. 

She knows she is loved.  She also knows you are in a good place right now and you have a loving husband who will help you.

We are all here for you.  I am so very sorry.

 

[denice]

I am so sorry, this is so very hard.  No one can tell you when it is time.  I personally take not eating anything as the final sign that it is time but that is my personal 'benchmark' if you will.

 

[mnm]

I think the most difficult but selfless act of love we can give our furbabies is making that wrenching decision to let go... we did it and ours was only 10 and still playing that morning..but knew her rough road ahead so we didn't want her to suffer just to have her longer with us. We did it at home as she hated the car ride and vet as well. It was everything I could have hoped for...very peaceful... I'm so sorry... but am also so thankful you had her for 20 years! to love on!

 

[kittychick]

I can't tell you how much the outpouring of love for me and for Phoebe means....and it's all SO heartfelt. I know bc of my stroke/fibro, sometimes I sound a little gobbledegook, but everyone here sees through it & never makes me feel "less than" (our animals never do, do they?). I did some digging on home euthanasia -everything I'd looked at before has been (subconsciously?) tucked away and forgotten. So today the calling began again. Thanks SO much for those who offered concrete babes and numbers...I called several., but Toledo is just "rural" enough (HEY! WE HAVE AN APPLE STORE DARN IT!) to it fall within their ranges w/o super high surcharges. But I got a line on3 in town (any other Toledo Ohio readers with other suggestions I'm open!!). My very sweet vet, Dr. Martin at Midway. I'm callin him in the am -he said he'd make an exception & drive up and do it (we're 35 minutes away ---we stuck with them when we moved. ) Animal Hospital has been with her since week 6, bitten & growled & snapped at all the way. (He calls her his "ever ready kitty) I know he charges a bit more bc of gas & likes to do it after clinic is closed (understandably). But he knows me & my fibro & how stress takes me down more than normal, and tries so hard to accommodate. In other words, the best I've ever found (and Ive used lots of vets!). Any -going to gather info tomorrow. She is eating some.... A few bites of warmed, freh-cooked chicken w & w/o a bit if gravy( w/a teeny tiny bit if super-mushed white rice), a bit of the 8-year fav Fancy Feast chicken in gravy, a little cheese, a little Gerbers chicken baby food, and just a bit of fancy feast gourmet appetizers. I know , I know, I'm sure someone will take me to task for feeding crap. But she's down to 4 1/2 pounds, so if I can keep her happy (and she does seem happy on that darn heating pad next to me in the bed! Shes not eating much of any of it, but expresses brief interest in most, so we keep trying. We both decided no more syringe feeding, so when she refuses food 100% (I see it coming very soon) it'll be time. I'm guessing we're hopefully talking days, not hours but only she knows. She still lifts her head and trills when I enter the room. I think that's a good sign. When the trilling stops....that's when the yards calls start.

Thank you again -your encouragement keeps me going

 

[kittychick]

*hard calls

 

[Norachan]

Dear Phoebe, such a sweet girl. This past year has been a gift to you both from the Cat Goddess. You were blessed to have a little extra time with her.

I'm very sorry to hear you have to make this decision now, no words can make it any easier on you but please know we're all here for you.

Love and hugs.

 

[denice]

When a kitty is at this point anything they will eat is fine.  All the rules and ideas about what is best to feed go out the window.