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I lost my beloved cat last week on Friday morning. It has been a very, very hard and long way for both of us. I am at the stage where I am blaming myself, I found hundreds of reasons why he died that morning and most of them were my fault.
THE BACK STORY
2005
When he was only 4 he started suddenly attacking me and my partner. We lived in a very small appartement with him, and he would chase us, scream at us, scratch us till we bled and the tantrum lasted for 20-30 minutes. The vets had no clue what it was. One of them didn't even bother to look at him, but just told me that he would have to be put to sleep. I resisted it. I fought it. I cried at the thought of putting him down. I decided to keep him and change my life around his obvious teritorial issues. We moved to a new flat where he had a garden, the attacks were not as common anymore.
2007
Suddenly my cat would stop and start drooling, he would get a very weird look in his eyes. Then after a few minutes he would just meow very loud as if he was crying. I took him immediately to the vet. First reaction was he was having behavioural issues. He put him on some pills that were supposed to calm him down. The issue still arose every few days. Next time I took him the vet was almost certain it must have been a tumor in his brain. I changed vets. I cried.
The new vet put him through a MRI scan and every other possible lab diagnosis, nothing unusual came out. Nothing. Everything seemed to be in order.
2008
He got bitten by a tick.
2009
All of a sudden my cat would start walking very slowly. He had issues with hind legs as they just wouldn't support him. Yet another visit to the doctor where the took another scan which revealed again nothing unusual. The new vet said it must be something with his brain cells.
2010
My cat could hardly walk. He would stumble and fall. Once he fall into the food and he broke his jaw. Immediately we took him to vet and everything got fixed, but from that day on we decided it would be better if we took care of him and we carried him instead of letting him walk.
2011
He started getting some extreme seizures. The vet FINALLY diagnosed epilepsy on my suggestion.
2012
In that year first he was incontinent and he would just urinate without even being put to the toillete, he got a cathether, antibiotics, but by the end of the year he had lost the ability to urinate. So again a new visit to the doctor who put him on some pills that would help his bladder, but that didn't work and I had to learn how to squiz the urine out.
2014
He started drooling occasinally.
2015 Last month
He started drooling more, he had a few more seizures, occasionally he would vomit, but with cats and especially with cats in such condition as he was in, I didn't make a huge fuss.
2015 last day
He was constipated for 7 days and finally he let it go. He refused food. And he kept spitting out the water I tried to give him though seringe. 3 horus later he vommited. No blood, just some food. When I cleaned him he had his mouth locked and he wouldn't let me open his mouth, his jaw was locked. Googling drooling and refusing to eat I got stomatitis, ulcers in mouth and troubles with teeth. I called my partner to urgently come and take us to the vet as I wanted to take him to our vet, which was 105 miles away as I recently moved with cat, but 15 minutes later I decided not to. I told him it would take us 4 hours until he came and we went back etc. I said to him he should come first thing in the morning.
That night I slept with my hand gently on his head, touching his nose and stroking him. Through the whole night. He had very, very weird seizures and after 3 hours I finally made a connection, it must have been epileptic seizures, but unlike I have ever seen. They lasted for 3 seconds every few minutes, after 3 minutes he would suddenly fall asleep, he seemed very calm.. It was after midnight. Now I think I should have taken him right then to the local vet, but I didn't. I gave him an additional half of the epiphen for epilepsy and thought it would stop. It didn't. It lasted till morning.
In the morning I put him on his favorite blanket, he just fell asleep. I was waiting for my partner to come, I was writing email to my vet and ringing them when I heard him making vomiting sounds. I rushed to the room took him and he just vommited water. I put him back on the blanket went to clean the vommit. When I returned to him after 20 seconds I just saw his purple tongue out and I lost it.
It has been 4 days only. How do I stop blaming myself. You need to know that all this time we both took care for him, we both work at home and we were with him like 24 hours a day. If we went on vacation he went with us, wherever he went that was my home. I nurtured him in the last few months alone. I feel like I left him down. I feel like I could have done more, that it was something that I did that day, that it was my fault he died. It is beyond hard for me. Losing him is just painful.
I keep convincing myself that he went on his favorite blanket, with me next to him in privacy of his home, he didn't seem like he was suffering, he seemed like he was sleeping through those seizures. He would look at me and wink at me and then go back to sleep. There were no odd noises, just those 3 second seizures... I blame myself for not taking every sing to the heart, I blame myself for not taking him to vet immediately. I blame the vets for not being able to diagnose him properly, I blame my partner for being so far away and left me without a car... I know I shouldn't. But he was my everything.
He lived with me or 14 years.
All this time he was still unable to walk.
To make things clear
THE BACK STORY
2005
When he was only 4 he started suddenly attacking me and my partner. We lived in a very small appartement with him, and he would chase us, scream at us, scratch us till we bled and the tantrum lasted for 20-30 minutes. The vets had no clue what it was. One of them didn't even bother to look at him, but just told me that he would have to be put to sleep. I resisted it. I fought it. I cried at the thought of putting him down. I decided to keep him and change my life around his obvious teritorial issues. We moved to a new flat where he had a garden, the attacks were not as common anymore.
2007
Suddenly my cat would stop and start drooling, he would get a very weird look in his eyes. Then after a few minutes he would just meow very loud as if he was crying. I took him immediately to the vet. First reaction was he was having behavioural issues. He put him on some pills that were supposed to calm him down. The issue still arose every few days. Next time I took him the vet was almost certain it must have been a tumor in his brain. I changed vets. I cried.
The new vet put him through a MRI scan and every other possible lab diagnosis, nothing unusual came out. Nothing. Everything seemed to be in order.
2008
He got bitten by a tick.
2009
All of a sudden my cat would start walking very slowly. He had issues with hind legs as they just wouldn't support him. Yet another visit to the doctor where the took another scan which revealed again nothing unusual. The new vet said it must be something with his brain cells.
2010
My cat could hardly walk. He would stumble and fall. Once he fall into the food and he broke his jaw. Immediately we took him to vet and everything got fixed, but from that day on we decided it would be better if we took care of him and we carried him instead of letting him walk.
2011
He started getting some extreme seizures. The vet FINALLY diagnosed epilepsy on my suggestion.
2012
In that year first he was incontinent and he would just urinate without even being put to the toillete, he got a cathether, antibiotics, but by the end of the year he had lost the ability to urinate. So again a new visit to the doctor who put him on some pills that would help his bladder, but that didn't work and I had to learn how to squiz the urine out.
2014
He started drooling occasinally.
2015 Last month
He started drooling more, he had a few more seizures, occasionally he would vomit, but with cats and especially with cats in such condition as he was in, I didn't make a huge fuss.
2015 last day
He was constipated for 7 days and finally he let it go. He refused food. And he kept spitting out the water I tried to give him though seringe. 3 horus later he vommited. No blood, just some food. When I cleaned him he had his mouth locked and he wouldn't let me open his mouth, his jaw was locked. Googling drooling and refusing to eat I got stomatitis, ulcers in mouth and troubles with teeth. I called my partner to urgently come and take us to the vet as I wanted to take him to our vet, which was 105 miles away as I recently moved with cat, but 15 minutes later I decided not to. I told him it would take us 4 hours until he came and we went back etc. I said to him he should come first thing in the morning.
That night I slept with my hand gently on his head, touching his nose and stroking him. Through the whole night. He had very, very weird seizures and after 3 hours I finally made a connection, it must have been epileptic seizures, but unlike I have ever seen. They lasted for 3 seconds every few minutes, after 3 minutes he would suddenly fall asleep, he seemed very calm.. It was after midnight. Now I think I should have taken him right then to the local vet, but I didn't. I gave him an additional half of the epiphen for epilepsy and thought it would stop. It didn't. It lasted till morning.
In the morning I put him on his favorite blanket, he just fell asleep. I was waiting for my partner to come, I was writing email to my vet and ringing them when I heard him making vomiting sounds. I rushed to the room took him and he just vommited water. I put him back on the blanket went to clean the vommit. When I returned to him after 20 seconds I just saw his purple tongue out and I lost it.
It has been 4 days only. How do I stop blaming myself. You need to know that all this time we both took care for him, we both work at home and we were with him like 24 hours a day. If we went on vacation he went with us, wherever he went that was my home. I nurtured him in the last few months alone. I feel like I left him down. I feel like I could have done more, that it was something that I did that day, that it was my fault he died. It is beyond hard for me. Losing him is just painful.
I keep convincing myself that he went on his favorite blanket, with me next to him in privacy of his home, he didn't seem like he was suffering, he seemed like he was sleeping through those seizures. He would look at me and wink at me and then go back to sleep. There were no odd noises, just those 3 second seizures... I blame myself for not taking every sing to the heart, I blame myself for not taking him to vet immediately. I blame the vets for not being able to diagnose him properly, I blame my partner for being so far away and left me without a car... I know I shouldn't. But he was my everything.
He lived with me or 14 years.
All this time he was still unable to walk.
To make things clear