New Kitty

We have a lovely new kitten and 10 weeks old called Cheetah (My 3yr old named her) and shes very confident she's very confident not even been here a day and she very rarely runs to hide when we enter her room now. I made one intro faux pas atm in doing a site swap where Lilly (our resident almost 2yr old) saw Cheetah and hissed. Later on she also growled at the door.

I have since been going in and out petting each and letting them smell one anothers scents. Lillys pupils only dilate no more hissing/growling and Cheetah keeps pawing my hands and licking biting them when they have Lilly's scent.

Any ideas?

Also here's a picture of our new girl

Aww, what a cutie!  How long have you had Cheetah? 

You can try brushing them with the same brush or wiping them down with a small towel and leaving it where Lilly likes to relax.  That should help their scents mingle.  I like the way the introduction steps are laid out in this article: http://www.thecatsite.com/a/introducing-cats-to-cats.

Intros can take time; how long depends on the cats involved.  Patience can be key for some cats; otherwise you end up having to back up and it taking longer.  I would hope since Cheetah is a kitten; it'll go more smoothly.  You just never know; it really does depend on the cat.  

we've had cheetah since Sunday so about 3/4 days now we've read the article been doing the steps but Lilly wont go near towel but will sniff me after I've stroked cheetah

We've had some good break throughs today. Both have been pretty used to each other scent Lilly's never really reacted to Cheetahs scent bar once (when I tried to rub her down with it). But growls on site so I spent some time just now of the floor feeding both treats letting they eyeball each other. Cheetah had a bit explore and lilly mainly followed a few growls and one hiss and a few paw lifts if he got to close or moved to fast but other wise she was really quite calm.

Also is it possible a domestic short hair could be mostly black with lighter brown tabby markings? I habe noticed some stripes and spots in cheetahs fur that are a lot lighter than the rest of his black fur?

I asked how long you've had her because 3-4 days is a very short time for introductions.  You're actually doing well if there are only growls and hisses at this stage.  As @MoochNNoodles  mentioned, introductions can take time.  

I don't know much about cat markings, but we have a section on describing cats where you could ask that question:  http://www.thecatsite.com/f/5809/describing-cats-what-does-my-cat-look-like  and at the top of that forum, there is an article about cat coats and patterns:  http://www.thecatsite.com/a/cat-coat-colors-and-patterns.  

I know they do and i've been really lucky Lil one (Cheetah) has had free reign today and Lilly has stalked him with some chasing (no claws hisses or growls) and lil guys gave as good as he got. Am I rushing or am I right to stick to their reactions and play it out

They didn't really react to badly to scent. Lilly growled a couple times but soon got over I couldn't feed them from opposite sides of door as Lilly won't eat her food unless its in the hall way downstairs. She would just meow and run down to where her food should have been. So we skipped to supervised peeks at each other giving treats this went well so we then went up to supervised time together. All has been fine no hisses unless one or the other frightens but there's a lot of pouncing at each other and batting at each other. No ones been hurt (bitten or clawed). So I'm wondering do I just let the two hash it out or am I right to lock the kitten back up when He and Lilly get to boisterous with each other?

ETA: some photos of the two

I think it's too soon to let them hash it out.  The kitten could easily get hurt.  You are less than a week into intros.  You need to take the process very slowly.  I know you really want them to be friends and have them out and about together, but if you rush the process someone might get hurt.  Please take it slowly and follow the guidelines. 

Watch facial expression, ear position, tail position and general body language of the cats.  I am sure the kitten will just want to play, but your resident cat may not feel that way just yet.

I have been watching all of that bar the pouncing and batting (which they are both doing) the resident cat ( Lilly has been fine normal pupils no bushed up fur no more hissing or growling only swishing her tail when he pounces at her and general body language has been fine) I've been following the guide lines and they seemed to be doing fine but I can't really confine either as the kitten keeps getting into my babies cot and clawing his arms/ head and I can't lock lilly up as she's used to free reign of the house.

ETA: Plus when ever I try to get in the kittens room he's either trying to escape or the resident wants to be in as she's used to sleeping on my bed during the day.

Do you have a carrier that one of them could be confined in? The kitten would be the best, then let your older cat come up and check her out. It wouldn't have to be for long, then keep doing it several times a day until everyone is used to each other. The first time together you should have a hold of your kitten, and let the older cat come up and sniff. This is of course after all those first steps are done and you are ready for the true introduction. Good luck, and keep us posted!

I tried the carrier thing older cat wouldnt come near it cause she hates the thing as to her it means VET VISIT/Moving home and lets just say shes not fond of it like I say they seem fine until kittie decides to rush at lilly and then the batting and pouncing ensues on both sides. during this theres no hissing or growling on either part.

Well my methods have been unorthodox (not using all the guide lines here as fussy cat and space issues) but cats are getting on fine though the kitten keeps pushing his luck (trying to snuggle/groom) so he gets a quick bat for it but neither have been hurt and neither seems stressed. Both still eating and toileting fine. And sharing space fine (kitten even slept in resident cats favorite spot and she didn't bat a paw at it. The guidelines didn't work for us both cats just wanted to be at one another and since both cats HATE the carrier (literally slam into the door trying to escape this was our best course of action and thankfully its working out

ETA: Cheetah is male and still intact (he's still to small for the surgery) and Lilly is female is she likely to be more wary of his as he is still intact.

Every situation is different, for sure.  That's great they're getting along!  

All the females I have had are prone to swatting and diva ways, they definitely want to rule the roost.  TWO male kittens were brought in to play with each other in a all female household and that scenario worked very well. The female still ruled and they kept each other company. Good luck!

they were getting on well lilly was grooming him a lil bit wouldn't let the lil guy snuggle or groom her so some chasing and batting has ensued again i don't think it helps hes still intact atm and very mischevious and full of energy though them are eatting a few feet apart with no issues and I have put some'calming' paste in their food to help them relax.

A little update from us here. Cheetah and Lilly are getting on quite well (still a little bit of fussing when Lilly doesn't wanna play and Cheetah does) But here are some cute and adorable photos.







We're certainly getting to buddy buddy stage (Cheetah gives the biggest purrs when Lilly grooms him)

Awwww, very sweet.  So glad things are moving along well.  

Wow @StephieDoodle  , Lilly has settled with her new kitten companion really well!  I am so impressed.  They look very cute together too.     I reckon Lilly is just what Cheetah needs - a grown up adoptive mamma cat to keep him in his place and show him how to behave like a proper cat.  

shame he doesn't like to listen to her hes very mischievous lol