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I will try to make this as detailed as possible, but not too long. I have had a female cat for a little over seven years, "Warren Girl". She has been with me since she was a kitten and does need to be the dominant one in the household, even over us humans. She has us wrapped around her little claw. She did not get spayed until she was 1-2 years old, but has never had kittens herself. She has sort of peacefully coexisted with another older male cat for a brief time years ago, where she would chase the cat but not aggressively or in a stalking manner. It was more of a "leave me alone" thing from what we could tell. Other than that, she has attacked (no injuries) another female, and when stray cats have come up to our patio when we had an apartment, she would attempt to attack through the glass screen door. She has lived with a very mellow lab mix neutered male dog almost her whole life, and they do great together, peacefully coexist.
We recently bought a home and got another cat... a neutered male about 5 months old. He is very confident in his surroundings, but definitely not dominant. We knew our adult cat, Warren Girl would need to go slow with the intros, so we did. I work at a shelter and followed the intro steps given to me and each step was going great. The adult cat did fine in the kitten's room, not being aggressive and snuggling in the cat carrier "Hunter" slept in when we would switch rooms. She was very comfortable in "his" room. It was probably three weeks, before we even attempted actual introductions, and I put them both on leashes to better control the situation. My cat was showing some aggressive or stalking behaviors with the leashes. So we went out and bought a screen door and put that on the room the kitten was in, and reinforced it with chicken wire. That way during the day, they could visually see each other and become "desensitized" to seeing each other. No cat has attempted to break through the screen which we see as good. When both of us humans are around, we have tried a few times to let them loose and Warren has gotten to him with hisses and swatting, but no actual injuries. We obviously don't want this to become normal, so after seeing that it was not a one time incident we have put Warren on leash, because Hunter sees Warren and does get scared, so even though he is a kitten, he is understanding the signs she is giving, and does not keep trying to go up to her. He is being submissive and pretty much respecting her. At this point, I just want my older cat to ignore the kitten and not keep stalking the kitten.
One night, I held Hunter in my arm's and we let Warren free (as opposed to the normal leash for her) and she decided to come up on my lap and cuddle right next to the kitten, no hissing or aggressive behavior. We thought this was progress, and thought maybe she was just having issues when the kitten was moving around (which we still thought was weird). But once after this, Warren came up to Hunter who I was holding and tried biting his paw. I have since gotten her on Feliway, where I spray a hankerchief that she wears all the time. That does not seem to be helping a lot. I know based off of all the steps that we have done, that my older cat should be fine with the kitten. We just seem stuck at the last step. I want to take it slow, but I don't want things to get worse while we wait, aka the cat learning to be aggressive with kitten just based off of tense body posture, etc. Both cats will eat right next to each other off leashes and be fine. I have bought toys to entertain her, but once she sees the kitten loose, her eyes are fixated on him, If it is through the screen door they are both fine, no hissing, swatting, etc. We are in the process of building some cat shelves, but it doesn't seem like that would be the cure all. And I have heard of Feliway diffusers being better than the spray, but if the spray isn't helping, would the diffusers be that big of a difference?
I really haven't heard of a similar situation to this and am hoping for some guidance on what may be the older cat, Warren's issues...territory, dominance, true aggression? I'll take any advice I can get. Happy Holidays and thank you in advance for the advice! Let me know if there is any confusion or if you need more information on the situation.
I will try to make this as detailed as possible, but not too long. I have had a female cat for a little over seven years, "Warren Girl". She has been with me since she was a kitten and does need to be the dominant one in the household, even over us humans. She has us wrapped around her little claw. She did not get spayed until she was 1-2 years old, but has never had kittens herself. She has sort of peacefully coexisted with another older male cat for a brief time years ago, where she would chase the cat but not aggressively or in a stalking manner. It was more of a "leave me alone" thing from what we could tell. Other than that, she has attacked (no injuries) another female, and when stray cats have come up to our patio when we had an apartment, she would attempt to attack through the glass screen door. She has lived with a very mellow lab mix neutered male dog almost her whole life, and they do great together, peacefully coexist.
We recently bought a home and got another cat... a neutered male about 5 months old. He is very confident in his surroundings, but definitely not dominant. We knew our adult cat, Warren Girl would need to go slow with the intros, so we did. I work at a shelter and followed the intro steps given to me and each step was going great. The adult cat did fine in the kitten's room, not being aggressive and snuggling in the cat carrier "Hunter" slept in when we would switch rooms. She was very comfortable in "his" room. It was probably three weeks, before we even attempted actual introductions, and I put them both on leashes to better control the situation. My cat was showing some aggressive or stalking behaviors with the leashes. So we went out and bought a screen door and put that on the room the kitten was in, and reinforced it with chicken wire. That way during the day, they could visually see each other and become "desensitized" to seeing each other. No cat has attempted to break through the screen which we see as good. When both of us humans are around, we have tried a few times to let them loose and Warren has gotten to him with hisses and swatting, but no actual injuries. We obviously don't want this to become normal, so after seeing that it was not a one time incident we have put Warren on leash, because Hunter sees Warren and does get scared, so even though he is a kitten, he is understanding the signs she is giving, and does not keep trying to go up to her. He is being submissive and pretty much respecting her. At this point, I just want my older cat to ignore the kitten and not keep stalking the kitten.
One night, I held Hunter in my arm's and we let Warren free (as opposed to the normal leash for her) and she decided to come up on my lap and cuddle right next to the kitten, no hissing or aggressive behavior. We thought this was progress, and thought maybe she was just having issues when the kitten was moving around (which we still thought was weird). But once after this, Warren came up to Hunter who I was holding and tried biting his paw. I have since gotten her on Feliway, where I spray a hankerchief that she wears all the time. That does not seem to be helping a lot. I know based off of all the steps that we have done, that my older cat should be fine with the kitten. We just seem stuck at the last step. I want to take it slow, but I don't want things to get worse while we wait, aka the cat learning to be aggressive with kitten just based off of tense body posture, etc. Both cats will eat right next to each other off leashes and be fine. I have bought toys to entertain her, but once she sees the kitten loose, her eyes are fixated on him, If it is through the screen door they are both fine, no hissing, swatting, etc. We are in the process of building some cat shelves, but it doesn't seem like that would be the cure all. And I have heard of Feliway diffusers being better than the spray, but if the spray isn't helping, would the diffusers be that big of a difference?
I really haven't heard of a similar situation to this and am hoping for some guidance on what may be the older cat, Warren's issues...territory, dominance, true aggression? I'll take any advice I can get. Happy Holidays and thank you in advance for the advice! Let me know if there is any confusion or if you need more information on the situation.