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Goodbye Little Darcy
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I just responded in your Walden thread how happy I was to hear that he was doing so good, and I'm also glad you found a new vet that you like! Half the battle is having a vet that will listen to you and take you seriously and value your pet the same way you do. I know I did the right thing with Darcy, but it just hurts so bad. You wouldn't think you could come to love a cat so much in only two months, but we did. We actually loved her at first sight. We got her ashes back today, so I'm crying all over again. I keep repeating myself when I say what a horrible disease FIP is, and kittens should all get the chance to grow up.
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Thank you MnM. I hope Darcy thought I was a good mommy. It's such a helpless feeling seeing your baby get sicker and sicker and you can't do anything to help her.I'm soooooo sorry for your sadness... Darcy was a beautiful girlI'm so happy she had you for a mommy
nods... I know.... I think there's a lil different edge to losing our pets... simply because of the innocence in them... the not being able to "discuss" what they're feeling..what we're feeling... the communication thing.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I had 2 kittens from the same litter go to rainbow bridge with this insidious disease. They had a month of love and happiness and fun at least. I was stunned. Please accept my condolences.
I had 2 kittens from the same litter go to rainbow bridge with this insidious disease. They had a month of love and happiness and fun at least. I was stunned. Please accept my condolences.
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Thank you Stewball. And I'm so sorry to hear about your two babies. It just isn't fair, is it?
I just read about Darcy and I know how hard it is. You mention you only knew her for about two months but that is two months of love and care that you gave her. Just remember, she knew you love her and you have now, in addition to that love, given her peace. You are in my thoughts. Let time do its job in helping you heal.
Misty,
I hope that time is helping you somewhat in easing your pain. I am trying too, and my fur family is doing their very best to help me with much extra love and attention from all of them. Like you, I fell in love with Rascal at first sight, and we had about a month for him to be a lively kitten and enjoy his time with me, my husband, and our cat family. For this I am so very grateful. He gave his love to us in every possible way, right up to the end, with his last gaze at me full of love and the sweetness of his soul. I'm so very grateful that we had that time together, despite the following pain. I am happy that he chose us to be his family in the time he had, and I wouldn't trade that for anything![emoji]128522[/emoji][emoji]128546[/emoji] I so hope that you feel, or will come to feel the same way about your beautiful little girl. I think that they are truly a gift to us from God...our little furry Angels that teach us how to love, and what love truly is. A giving of one's whole self, body and soul.
I sincerely hope this helps and is not making you hurt more. I'm having my ups and downs too. I've been considering another cat who is in need of a family. He was rescued just short of being euthanized, and has spent his time since being a blood donor to save other cats. He looks so much like babies who are gone now, and those eyes hold the same expression. I decided that I at least had to meet him. We'll see how it goes, and if I'm truly ready or not. It's very hard, but he certainly needs someone to take him home and love him.
I don't remember if you have other cats, but I sincerely hope so. They can be such a comfort in times like this. Like you my vet was wonderful, as she is also a good friend. She held Rascal and me as he passed and we cried together. When she took him away, she held him like a baby, cuddled and stroking him softly. I'm not sure she was even aware of it, but that too was a comfort to me. I hope you are being comforted too, and hope that we are all able to offer something for you that will help.
I think I'm talking now because I have to pick up Rascal's ashes tomorrow and am very nervous for some reason. I know I will be crying again and missing him all over again, and it hurts as you said. So I thank you for listening as a kindred soul, suffering the same pain and feelings that I'm having.
Bless you and your little Darcy, and I hope that we all meet at the Rainbow Bridge when the time comes.
Connie
I hope that time is helping you somewhat in easing your pain. I am trying too, and my fur family is doing their very best to help me with much extra love and attention from all of them. Like you, I fell in love with Rascal at first sight, and we had about a month for him to be a lively kitten and enjoy his time with me, my husband, and our cat family. For this I am so very grateful. He gave his love to us in every possible way, right up to the end, with his last gaze at me full of love and the sweetness of his soul. I'm so very grateful that we had that time together, despite the following pain. I am happy that he chose us to be his family in the time he had, and I wouldn't trade that for anything![emoji]128522[/emoji][emoji]128546[/emoji] I so hope that you feel, or will come to feel the same way about your beautiful little girl. I think that they are truly a gift to us from God...our little furry Angels that teach us how to love, and what love truly is. A giving of one's whole self, body and soul.
I sincerely hope this helps and is not making you hurt more. I'm having my ups and downs too. I've been considering another cat who is in need of a family. He was rescued just short of being euthanized, and has spent his time since being a blood donor to save other cats. He looks so much like babies who are gone now, and those eyes hold the same expression. I decided that I at least had to meet him. We'll see how it goes, and if I'm truly ready or not. It's very hard, but he certainly needs someone to take him home and love him.
I don't remember if you have other cats, but I sincerely hope so. They can be such a comfort in times like this. Like you my vet was wonderful, as she is also a good friend. She held Rascal and me as he passed and we cried together. When she took him away, she held him like a baby, cuddled and stroking him softly. I'm not sure she was even aware of it, but that too was a comfort to me. I hope you are being comforted too, and hope that we are all able to offer something for you that will help.
I think I'm talking now because I have to pick up Rascal's ashes tomorrow and am very nervous for some reason. I know I will be crying again and missing him all over again, and it hurts as you said. So I thank you for listening as a kindred soul, suffering the same pain and feelings that I'm having.
Bless you and your little Darcy, and I hope that we all meet at the Rainbow Bridge when the time comes.
Connie
My sweet Darcy took a turn for the worst last night, and this morning continued to go downhill. It was obvious it was time to let her go, but it's one of the hardest things I've ever done. I've been crying all last night and all day today. She will be cremated and her ashes and paw print will be returned to us. I only knew her for about two months, but I loved her so much, she was so easy to love. She never got to grow up, and only had about two weeks with us to be a kitten. It's just a few days shy of her 9th birthday. I hope that Cindy met her when she passed and will be will her until we are all together again.
I'm so sorry. My Cocoa will show her the ropes up there and play with her. Tuesday will be a year for me. I had to let Cocoa go too. It was excruciating to have him put to sleep. He was a year old. He never got to grow up either. He packed a lot of fun and memories in his short life though.
Was just thinking of my little Rascal too. Poor baby only had perhaps a month to be a kitten, then went downhill very fast. There was nothing we could do....though we tried and tried. When he could do no moe than stagger a few steps and fall over I knew it was time. But I waited through the weekend, just holding him and telling him how much I loved him. I'd like to think of the three of them--Cocoa, Darcy, and Rascal running and happily playing together. Healthy and happy. They deserve that and so much more.
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We did the same thing with Darcy, the morning she couldn't walk but a few steps, and couldn't find a place to lay that was comfortable for her, we knew it was time. I would not have let her go before it was her time, and a lot of people couldn't believe that she lived another month at least after the FIP diagnosis. We did everything we could, but you can't stop that horrible disease.
I really like the thought of Darcy, Rascal, and Cocoa playing and being kittens together. They were taken from us much too soon, and they didn't deserve to go the way they did.
I really like the thought of Darcy, Rascal, and Cocoa playing and being kittens together. They were taken from us much too soon, and they didn't deserve to go the way they did.
It is a horrible disease! And it seems that it always takes the babies, when they should be enjoying themselves being kittens. Rascal also lasted longer than expected, but I think it was more due to Button's loving care and attention, along with a great deal of love and cuddling from me. I'm sure he knew he was loved. We all did our best to make sure he was warm and comfortable. It was all we really could do. I had tried the force feeding, but eventually even that felt cruel. But it's so hard coming to grips with the idea that you have to let go. But I had never lost a baby before, and it was awful!
Someone else said they had lost two they'd adopted from the same litter. I can't even imagine what that was like. For certain, I'll never forget him. He was the sweetest little boy. Huge hole left in his place. And I know you feel that way too. I'm just trying to look forward to all being together again.
Meanwhile I adopted an older kitty today. He was in a facility where they take blood periodically for other cats who need it. I thought it would be good to take a kitty who really needed love and a home. So he came home with us today.
Someone else said they had lost two they'd adopted from the same litter. I can't even imagine what that was like. For certain, I'll never forget him. He was the sweetest little boy. Huge hole left in his place. And I know you feel that way too. I'm just trying to look forward to all being together again.
Meanwhile I adopted an older kitty today. He was in a facility where they take blood periodically for other cats who need it. I thought it would be good to take a kitty who really needed love and a home. So he came home with us today.
One of the hardest things about losing Cocoa is the every day life without him. He was so lively. So playful, this place is lifeless without him, except for his playful and loving spirit.
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I know what you mean about the force feeding. I did it at first for Darcy because usually I would just have to give her a little bit and then she would eat on her own. When she stopped wanting to eat much, I stopped forcing her. For awhile all she would eat were the catnip treats, and she got as much as she wanted. And she would lick some of the gravy, so I got her every gravy food imaginable. She was so cute, when she was done eating she would try to bury the bowl. I didn't have her that long, but like you with Rascal, I'll never forget her. She really only had a couple weeks here to be a playful happy kitten. I have a video of her playing on her cat tree that I bought her. I almost didn't buy it. I looked at it once, then went back again and wasn't sure I could get it in the car. I just said what the heck, and had the guy come help me get it in the car. It almost didn't fit (it was assembled). But, oh she loved it, she climbed it, slept in it, played with the feather toy. I can't watch the video yet, but someday I will. Almost every day I remember something and cry.
Good for you for adopting another cat, and one that sounds like he needs a home and some love. We are adopting a cat who is shy and scared. We already love her, and I think it might be a long time before she found someone to take her in that sea of more outgoing kitties. We are waiting for her to be spayed. It was supposed to be Sunday, but the volunteer screwed up and didn't remove the food and water. So now they have to reschedule it. We visit her every other day, she's warming up to us I think, she purrs and even lets me pet her tummy. I'm also planning on volunteering at that shelter where we got Darcy, and where we'll hopefully get Cricket. I feel like I want to give something back.
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It's kind of like that here too. We still have Swanie, and I love him with all my heart, but he's not one to run and play. He was starting to play again when Darcy is here, which makes the hurt twice as bad. Which is one reason we want to get another cat, so he'll have a friend and hopefully we will see them playing together some day.One of the hardest things about losing Cocoa is the every day life without him. He was so lively. So playful, this place is lifeless without him, except for his playful and loving spirit.
Holly loves to play but she still looks to the hallway when I play with her. Cocoa use to come flying in to play when I was trying to play with Holly. She plays with Mandie (14) sometimes but it's not the same. She misses her playmate. I miss that little guy terribly.
Misty8723
I do ( sadly) know what you mean. It's nearly unbearable to lose such very young one. Not that any of them are easy! God help me, after losing three much loved kitties in a row I really just wanted to curl up and fade away myself. So much pain!
But everyone here on the site has been wonderful and supportive and so many of us have dealt with these same issues. Don't know how I would have survived this without every one of you! I'm still seeing Rascal and Darcy and all the others pouncing and running and playing while they wait for us to join them. It's a much-needed happy thought.
I'm convinced now that my cats got together and led me to my new boy because he needed us. He's somewhere between 4 and 6 and has spent most of his life giving blood to save other kitties. Certainly an honorable job, but he deserves a great deal better. And every one of my cats has accepted him unconditionally--a miracle in itself. He's only been with us one week today, but is adjusting wonderfully after some jitters. Now he asks to be picked up, snuggles and purrs like mad. We are becoming firmly wrapped around his furry paws, and he's such a sweetheart we can't resist. He also gives hugs around your neck. I'm certain that Cricket will be yours very soon. I think like LOKI, some things are just meant to be. ( praying I'm right about this).
So my thoughts and prayers are eith you both for all to work out as you wish![emoji]128522[/emoji][emoji]128062[/emoji]
I do ( sadly) know what you mean. It's nearly unbearable to lose such very young one. Not that any of them are easy! God help me, after losing three much loved kitties in a row I really just wanted to curl up and fade away myself. So much pain!
But everyone here on the site has been wonderful and supportive and so many of us have dealt with these same issues. Don't know how I would have survived this without every one of you! I'm still seeing Rascal and Darcy and all the others pouncing and running and playing while they wait for us to join them. It's a much-needed happy thought.
I'm convinced now that my cats got together and led me to my new boy because he needed us. He's somewhere between 4 and 6 and has spent most of his life giving blood to save other kitties. Certainly an honorable job, but he deserves a great deal better. And every one of my cats has accepted him unconditionally--a miracle in itself. He's only been with us one week today, but is adjusting wonderfully after some jitters. Now he asks to be picked up, snuggles and purrs like mad. We are becoming firmly wrapped around his furry paws, and he's such a sweetheart we can't resist. He also gives hugs around your neck. I'm certain that Cricket will be yours very soon. I think like LOKI, some things are just meant to be. ( praying I'm right about this).
So my thoughts and prayers are eith you both for all to work out as you wish![emoji]128522[/emoji][emoji]128062[/emoji]
