I've seen some posts directed at husbands. It's not just on here; I post on other boards, too, and it seems that some wives have nothing better to do than ridicule their husbands. They're lazy, they're useless, they don't lift a hand, they do nothing around the house. Well, you know what? That's not true. And I get exasperated when I read posts that automatically assume that men (husbands) do nothing. Nothing could be farther from the truth. While I admit that some men are probably lazy (and I think some wives are, too), not all men are like that. And it frustrates me that some women seem to think it's OK to talk about them like that.
While I am the one who daily scoops the boxes, every Wednesday night, Rick is the one who cleans and scours the litter boxes, outside in the cold even during the winter, using the pressure washer. Then we both dry them out and fill them with fresh litter.
We both work full time and, yeah, I probably do more of the housework than he does. But he was the one outside, working on the digging and the stoning for the shed back in October, not me. By pick ax and shovel, I might add. And he was the one outside doing the fall clipping and leaf-mulching, more so than me. And while I clipped off the cannas and the other flowering bulbs and tubers, he was the one who had to actually dig them out and store them in the basement. So in the long run, I think responsibility for chores evens out around here.
I may do most of the laundry, but if he's watching tv and sees me come up the steps with a load of laundry in my arms, he'll come out to the kitchen table and help me fold it and get it put away (unless there's an Eagles game on tv, that is, but even I understand that it's an Eagles game!
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After dinner, he'll help me clear the table and he'll dry whatever dishes I have to wash. He usually gets them put away in their proper places, too. (That seems to be a big issue with many wives who insist their husbands are useless....they don't know where to put dishes and such.)
When we were doing the Christmas decorating, Rick was the one who put the tree up and put the lights on it, then we decorated it together. He put the Tacky White Tree up last night, not because he likes it (he actually hates the thing and complains because it really is a pain to put together), but because he knows how much I love it. I asked him yesterday, "Dear, would you please....?" And that was as far as I got. He knew. He gave a long, drawn-out sigh and shook his head. But the tree is in the kitchen.
And it goes on and on. He probably does a better vacuuming than I do. He's not afraid to pick up a dusting cloth. He's not above making dinner some nights, when I have a meeting or am busy with something else.
The men who I grew up around were always very hard workers who supported their families. My father was the hardest working man I've ever known in my life. My brother also worked hard; he's on disability now because of two really bad knees (despite knee replacements). But he was always a very hard worker and after he worked at his job all day, he'd go to my parents' house to mow their lawn, shovel snow, etc. for them when Dad became too sick to handle those chores. And while it may take Dear Richard a while to get started on something, once he starts, he's pretty good. He may not always get it done as soon as I think he should, but he gets it done. He's a good man and he's a hard worker.
So stop. Just stop. Not all men are lazy, worthless people. Not any more than some women are!
And that's my rant for Monday!
While I am the one who daily scoops the boxes, every Wednesday night, Rick is the one who cleans and scours the litter boxes, outside in the cold even during the winter, using the pressure washer. Then we both dry them out and fill them with fresh litter.
We both work full time and, yeah, I probably do more of the housework than he does. But he was the one outside, working on the digging and the stoning for the shed back in October, not me. By pick ax and shovel, I might add. And he was the one outside doing the fall clipping and leaf-mulching, more so than me. And while I clipped off the cannas and the other flowering bulbs and tubers, he was the one who had to actually dig them out and store them in the basement. So in the long run, I think responsibility for chores evens out around here.
I may do most of the laundry, but if he's watching tv and sees me come up the steps with a load of laundry in my arms, he'll come out to the kitchen table and help me fold it and get it put away (unless there's an Eagles game on tv, that is, but even I understand that it's an Eagles game!
After dinner, he'll help me clear the table and he'll dry whatever dishes I have to wash. He usually gets them put away in their proper places, too. (That seems to be a big issue with many wives who insist their husbands are useless....they don't know where to put dishes and such.)
When we were doing the Christmas decorating, Rick was the one who put the tree up and put the lights on it, then we decorated it together. He put the Tacky White Tree up last night, not because he likes it (he actually hates the thing and complains because it really is a pain to put together), but because he knows how much I love it. I asked him yesterday, "Dear, would you please....?" And that was as far as I got. He knew. He gave a long, drawn-out sigh and shook his head. But the tree is in the kitchen.
And it goes on and on. He probably does a better vacuuming than I do. He's not afraid to pick up a dusting cloth. He's not above making dinner some nights, when I have a meeting or am busy with something else.
The men who I grew up around were always very hard workers who supported their families. My father was the hardest working man I've ever known in my life. My brother also worked hard; he's on disability now because of two really bad knees (despite knee replacements). But he was always a very hard worker and after he worked at his job all day, he'd go to my parents' house to mow their lawn, shovel snow, etc. for them when Dad became too sick to handle those chores. And while it may take Dear Richard a while to get started on something, once he starts, he's pretty good. He may not always get it done as soon as I think he should, but he gets it done. He's a good man and he's a hard worker.
So stop. Just stop. Not all men are lazy, worthless people. Not any more than some women are!
And that's my rant for Monday!
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