To fully understand what is going on, there will need to be a backstory. I apologize in advance if this is long.
Early October, my roommate adopted a cat. She didn't consult me first other than the off-handed topics of the fact we'd both like to get our own pets someday now that we are renting in a place that allows animals. We talked about cats because they're a bit less clingy than dogs and require less care (like walking them outside/fences/etc.) I was under the impression we're talk about when we were ready and go look at kittens together. She had told me her friend's cat had kittens and I said I'd like to know because I'd like to visit them and check them out. This girl adopted out all but one, apparently, and my roommate never told me as she picked the remaining kitten up. I came home from a long day to find my roommate and a cute little bundle of kitten.
I wasn't upset, really, but I was surprised. I didn't spend too much time with the cat- only one day I sat with her because my roommate had to work and she didn't want to leave her alone, so I sat in her room and petted on the kitten, played with her, fed her, etc. Things were okay, but my roommate wanted the kitten to bond with her so whenever she was home, she'd come get her from my room (where I was letting her stay, I'm home much more than my roommate) and take her to her room.
This said, the kitten was fairly calm and loving when my roommate got her. I warned her many times about how hands were toys, not to let her chew on things, etc (she even let her play with headphones! D: ) My roommate wouldn't listen to me and just laughed it off saying it was cute. The kitten got bigger and playing was hurting. I stopped spending time with the kitten because I couldn't re-correct her training when her owner would come home and play roughly with her. When my roommate decided to give her run of the house (at 10 weeks old, mind you- she adopted the kitten at 8 weeks), her cat would come crying to my room and has torn up the door. We rent this house. I am not happy. I refused to let her in and my roommate finally realized she'd have to keep her own door closed to prevent that. The kitten still yowled, though, but finally would go to sleep.
Then I brought home Felix. They became best kitten-friends and pal around together. It's adorable. They keep each other company and wear each other out. However, Felix is a docile little thing. He doesn't make a sound. He plays well by himself and with her (and me!), I don't play with him with my hands, I took care of him while he was sick, and I LOVE falling to sleep with him curled up next to my arm which is his favorite place, too! I keep my door closed to keep her cat out and Felix in- well, that and I just don't like having my door open. It makes me uneasy, and always has.
Well, her cat has gotten progressively worse and the "shiny new kitten" feeling is wearing off now that her cat is starting to look like well... a cat. I even see her petting Felix more than her own kitten. She yowls when we leave the house if no one is at home with her and you can hear her from outside, too. It's crazy. If Felix is with her, she won't. Last night seems to have been the final straw. My roommate asked me if I'd consider keeping my door cracked open, and when I explained to her I was uneasy about it, she told me that she'd do it for me if it was Felix being noisy. The problem? I would have already realized Felix wasn't a good fit for me if he acted like my roommate's cat and would have sought him a multi-cat household where there is constant companionship.
I put the cat out of my room as I was going to sleep last night and laid down. As I was falling asleep I heard her yowling. I guess I've gotten used to it because I just tuned it out. My roommate however, jumped up and yelled at the cat and stomped around, slammed the door, etc. I understand she was exhausted and under stress and was probably half-asleep and desperate to go back to sleep before having to wake up at an ungodly hour, but my heart broke for that poor cat.
I don't want her in here because she destroys my things, keeps me & Felix awake, and climbs my curtains. But if I don't let her in here, my roommate is going to hate me. I don't feel it's fair to ask me to compromise to keep my door open because her cat is keeping her awake. Is there ANY solutions anyone can think of that we haven't tried? I haven't told her that I think she should find another home for the cat if she can't put the effort into it. My heart just aches because I don't want her in here unsupervised (seriously, if she wouldn't terrorize my room I would have no issue letting her in here, but she's peed on my bed twice and outside the litterbox once. My roommate still hasn't taken her to get her checked up except to get her shots when I said it could all be medically related), and I don't feel my roommate- her owner- wants her either.
Early October, my roommate adopted a cat. She didn't consult me first other than the off-handed topics of the fact we'd both like to get our own pets someday now that we are renting in a place that allows animals. We talked about cats because they're a bit less clingy than dogs and require less care (like walking them outside/fences/etc.) I was under the impression we're talk about when we were ready and go look at kittens together. She had told me her friend's cat had kittens and I said I'd like to know because I'd like to visit them and check them out. This girl adopted out all but one, apparently, and my roommate never told me as she picked the remaining kitten up. I came home from a long day to find my roommate and a cute little bundle of kitten.
I wasn't upset, really, but I was surprised. I didn't spend too much time with the cat- only one day I sat with her because my roommate had to work and she didn't want to leave her alone, so I sat in her room and petted on the kitten, played with her, fed her, etc. Things were okay, but my roommate wanted the kitten to bond with her so whenever she was home, she'd come get her from my room (where I was letting her stay, I'm home much more than my roommate) and take her to her room.
This said, the kitten was fairly calm and loving when my roommate got her. I warned her many times about how hands were toys, not to let her chew on things, etc (she even let her play with headphones! D: ) My roommate wouldn't listen to me and just laughed it off saying it was cute. The kitten got bigger and playing was hurting. I stopped spending time with the kitten because I couldn't re-correct her training when her owner would come home and play roughly with her. When my roommate decided to give her run of the house (at 10 weeks old, mind you- she adopted the kitten at 8 weeks), her cat would come crying to my room and has torn up the door. We rent this house. I am not happy. I refused to let her in and my roommate finally realized she'd have to keep her own door closed to prevent that. The kitten still yowled, though, but finally would go to sleep.
Then I brought home Felix. They became best kitten-friends and pal around together. It's adorable. They keep each other company and wear each other out. However, Felix is a docile little thing. He doesn't make a sound. He plays well by himself and with her (and me!), I don't play with him with my hands, I took care of him while he was sick, and I LOVE falling to sleep with him curled up next to my arm which is his favorite place, too! I keep my door closed to keep her cat out and Felix in- well, that and I just don't like having my door open. It makes me uneasy, and always has.
Well, her cat has gotten progressively worse and the "shiny new kitten" feeling is wearing off now that her cat is starting to look like well... a cat. I even see her petting Felix more than her own kitten. She yowls when we leave the house if no one is at home with her and you can hear her from outside, too. It's crazy. If Felix is with her, she won't. Last night seems to have been the final straw. My roommate asked me if I'd consider keeping my door cracked open, and when I explained to her I was uneasy about it, she told me that she'd do it for me if it was Felix being noisy. The problem? I would have already realized Felix wasn't a good fit for me if he acted like my roommate's cat and would have sought him a multi-cat household where there is constant companionship.
I put the cat out of my room as I was going to sleep last night and laid down. As I was falling asleep I heard her yowling. I guess I've gotten used to it because I just tuned it out. My roommate however, jumped up and yelled at the cat and stomped around, slammed the door, etc. I understand she was exhausted and under stress and was probably half-asleep and desperate to go back to sleep before having to wake up at an ungodly hour, but my heart broke for that poor cat.
I don't want her in here because she destroys my things, keeps me & Felix awake, and climbs my curtains. But if I don't let her in here, my roommate is going to hate me. I don't feel it's fair to ask me to compromise to keep my door open because her cat is keeping her awake. Is there ANY solutions anyone can think of that we haven't tried? I haven't told her that I think she should find another home for the cat if she can't put the effort into it. My heart just aches because I don't want her in here unsupervised (seriously, if she wouldn't terrorize my room I would have no issue letting her in here, but she's peed on my bed twice and outside the litterbox once. My roommate still hasn't taken her to get her checked up except to get her shots when I said it could all be medically related), and I don't feel my roommate- her owner- wants her either.