I've been fostering two adults cats at my house for a while, and I really, really need to get them adopted.
One is a very friendly gray male, Russian-blue looking. The other is a dilute tortie I've worked with to try to socialize, but I haven't been able to make that much progress with her. She doesn't like to be petted or handled, which is a problem. She likes to play with people and likes being around them, but I just haven't been able to break through the no-touch thing. I've been thinking that I might have to return her to the TNR colony she came from, but I would only have done that before the weather turned cold so she could acclimate.
A woman answered an ad of mine in September and came to visit them. She actually hit it off with the semi-socialized female better than I ever have, so she told me she'd like to adopt them both. Then the delays began. She was getting married and moving in with her new husband, so it was, "I'll pick them up next week." On and on. She kept assuring me that she was going to follow through. Then her husband only wanted her to take one cat, so she was just going to take the female. She just called tonight, and she seems to have changed her mind again. Now she's thinking about the male, which would leave me with one cat that will be very hard to adopt out.
I told her way back in this saga that if she said she was going to take them and didn't, she would put me in a very difficult situation, and that's exactly what she's done even though I held them for her and stopped advertising. I may be moving in the next few months, and I need to get this settled before then. I also need the space for my business, and I'm losing money every month I have to keep them here.
She talked to me tonight about it, and I told her I'd tell her tomorrow what I would be willing to do. My gut feeling is that she's trying to juggle way too many things and that I'm going to end up in a "boomerang" situation. She wants a "buddy" for her cat, but I can't assure her that two cats that have never met each other will get along. She knows she needs to keep a new cat indoors to imprint on its new location, but she doesn't want to have to make it so her cat can't use the cat door--now that it's cold outside.
I feel like I just need to tell her the deal's off and start advertising again. Any thoughts?
One is a very friendly gray male, Russian-blue looking. The other is a dilute tortie I've worked with to try to socialize, but I haven't been able to make that much progress with her. She doesn't like to be petted or handled, which is a problem. She likes to play with people and likes being around them, but I just haven't been able to break through the no-touch thing. I've been thinking that I might have to return her to the TNR colony she came from, but I would only have done that before the weather turned cold so she could acclimate.
A woman answered an ad of mine in September and came to visit them. She actually hit it off with the semi-socialized female better than I ever have, so she told me she'd like to adopt them both. Then the delays began. She was getting married and moving in with her new husband, so it was, "I'll pick them up next week." On and on. She kept assuring me that she was going to follow through. Then her husband only wanted her to take one cat, so she was just going to take the female. She just called tonight, and she seems to have changed her mind again. Now she's thinking about the male, which would leave me with one cat that will be very hard to adopt out.
I told her way back in this saga that if she said she was going to take them and didn't, she would put me in a very difficult situation, and that's exactly what she's done even though I held them for her and stopped advertising. I may be moving in the next few months, and I need to get this settled before then. I also need the space for my business, and I'm losing money every month I have to keep them here.
She talked to me tonight about it, and I told her I'd tell her tomorrow what I would be willing to do. My gut feeling is that she's trying to juggle way too many things and that I'm going to end up in a "boomerang" situation. She wants a "buddy" for her cat, but I can't assure her that two cats that have never met each other will get along. She knows she needs to keep a new cat indoors to imprint on its new location, but she doesn't want to have to make it so her cat can't use the cat door--now that it's cold outside.
I feel like I just need to tell her the deal's off and start advertising again. Any thoughts?
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