I recently rescued a new kitten from the shelter. When I was picking out cats, I went through many places and was very picky because I was looking for one that would be a loving cuddly lap cat while still be a playful companion for my current 4 yr old cat. When I saw Tolkien at the shelter I visited 3 times and each time he was a purr machine, loved being cuddled and gave tons of kisses and massages. I thought we had a connection and adopted him. I paid alot of money and when I went to pick him up he had developed a very contagious virus so I had to keep him in completely separate from my other cat for two weeks.
My older male roomie let me keep him in his room for these two weeks. The roomie was gone all day so I would go in for hours to spend time with Tolkien and play with him. He wanted to play most of the time but would still be a love bug. He would curl up under my chin to sleep and give lots of massage. But after the two weeks ended and I let him have free reign he no longer is interested in me as anything other than a maid and chef. I cannot hold him for more than 1 minute and if he is sleeping in my room he wants to be on the cold floor in the corner rather than cuddle then me or even sleep on the edge of the bed.
I thought maybe this was just his real personality showing but one day I walked by the roomies room and Tolkien was curled up on his chest and giving massage and kisses. Tolkien loves on him all the time. Even though I am the one who saved him and takes care of him and plays with him he doesn't care for me at all and it is very frustrating. I don't know what to do, even a little bit of attention and cuddles would be enough for me. I feed him wet food in the kitchen but there is a bowl of dry food in my room, it is also where he gets treats and toys to play with. He doesn't mind being in my room he just doesnt want to have anything to do with me. I dont know what else to try and am regretting my choice of Tolkien over a few other needy cats I had been considering. I know it sounds a bit silly but who wants to constantly take care of a pet and pay money for a pet that doesn't like them? Maybe in time he will like me more, but this age is when the most bonding should happen. Any thoughts?
My older male roomie let me keep him in his room for these two weeks. The roomie was gone all day so I would go in for hours to spend time with Tolkien and play with him. He wanted to play most of the time but would still be a love bug. He would curl up under my chin to sleep and give lots of massage. But after the two weeks ended and I let him have free reign he no longer is interested in me as anything other than a maid and chef. I cannot hold him for more than 1 minute and if he is sleeping in my room he wants to be on the cold floor in the corner rather than cuddle then me or even sleep on the edge of the bed.
I thought maybe this was just his real personality showing but one day I walked by the roomies room and Tolkien was curled up on his chest and giving massage and kisses. Tolkien loves on him all the time. Even though I am the one who saved him and takes care of him and plays with him he doesn't care for me at all and it is very frustrating. I don't know what to do, even a little bit of attention and cuddles would be enough for me. I feed him wet food in the kitchen but there is a bowl of dry food in my room, it is also where he gets treats and toys to play with. He doesn't mind being in my room he just doesnt want to have anything to do with me. I dont know what else to try and am regretting my choice of Tolkien over a few other needy cats I had been considering. I know it sounds a bit silly but who wants to constantly take care of a pet and pay money for a pet that doesn't like them? Maybe in time he will like me more, but this age is when the most bonding should happen. Any thoughts?
