Hi! I am so impressed by the cat knowledge in these forums and I'm really hoping someone can give me some advice.
About 8 years ago, we took in a beautiful family of cats that had been living under a friend's deck. We believe they are a mother and 2 of her kittens. After their initial vet visit, we brought them home. We had no other pets.They had a room to themselves for a little over a week. I spent plenty to time with them. At their most terrified, they never did more than hiss a bit. They are very gentle-natured, but they have never become friendly toward us. They will come into the room where we are sitting and snooze in the doorway, or curl up on the opposite couch from where we are sitting. They will sleep on a cushion near the table when we are eating, and they sleep under our bed, directly under my pillow. They seem to like to be near us. But, we can NOT touch them. We can't extend a finger to them to sniff without them taking off. You can walk next to them as long as they don't see you looking at them and if you don't move too quickly. If you enter their favorite room (the guest room), they will hop off the bed and dart underneath. A vet said they were too old when we got them for them to ever warm up to people.
I had hoped after so many years of love and care they would be more "pet-like", but I was generally OK with letting them set the tone for how they want to live, since they are healthy and thriving and safe. But, now I am wondering about the possibility of adding another cat. We make regular food donations to our animal shelter and on one visit I fell absolutely in love with another cat, Mr. Small. He is close in age to my cats, has lived with other cats, and his overall personality seems compatible with our cats. And he is the lovey-est thing I've ever seen!
Would trying to adopt another cat be the worst idea ever? I have an idea that Mr. Small might help our cats learn about interacting with us, or at least the cats could all live happily because they are all older, generally mellower, gentle cats, and I would have at least one cat I could pet and love on. My husband thinks I'm wrong.
As a note, we do have the room to give the new guy his own room for awhile and I understand giving everybody a nice slow introduction.
After 8 years of standoffish-ness, is there anything I can do for my formerly-feral babies, whether or not we get another cat? And, is it possible to introduce a new cat or will that just be too much for my furry oddballs? Our first duty is to the cats we already have, but I would love to take Mr. Small.
Thank you all so much for your help!
-Comtoc
About 8 years ago, we took in a beautiful family of cats that had been living under a friend's deck. We believe they are a mother and 2 of her kittens. After their initial vet visit, we brought them home. We had no other pets.They had a room to themselves for a little over a week. I spent plenty to time with them. At their most terrified, they never did more than hiss a bit. They are very gentle-natured, but they have never become friendly toward us. They will come into the room where we are sitting and snooze in the doorway, or curl up on the opposite couch from where we are sitting. They will sleep on a cushion near the table when we are eating, and they sleep under our bed, directly under my pillow. They seem to like to be near us. But, we can NOT touch them. We can't extend a finger to them to sniff without them taking off. You can walk next to them as long as they don't see you looking at them and if you don't move too quickly. If you enter their favorite room (the guest room), they will hop off the bed and dart underneath. A vet said they were too old when we got them for them to ever warm up to people.
I had hoped after so many years of love and care they would be more "pet-like", but I was generally OK with letting them set the tone for how they want to live, since they are healthy and thriving and safe. But, now I am wondering about the possibility of adding another cat. We make regular food donations to our animal shelter and on one visit I fell absolutely in love with another cat, Mr. Small. He is close in age to my cats, has lived with other cats, and his overall personality seems compatible with our cats. And he is the lovey-est thing I've ever seen!
Would trying to adopt another cat be the worst idea ever? I have an idea that Mr. Small might help our cats learn about interacting with us, or at least the cats could all live happily because they are all older, generally mellower, gentle cats, and I would have at least one cat I could pet and love on. My husband thinks I'm wrong.
As a note, we do have the room to give the new guy his own room for awhile and I understand giving everybody a nice slow introduction.
After 8 years of standoffish-ness, is there anything I can do for my formerly-feral babies, whether or not we get another cat? And, is it possible to introduce a new cat or will that just be too much for my furry oddballs? Our first duty is to the cats we already have, but I would love to take Mr. Small.
Thank you all so much for your help!
-Comtoc