Which sex is more likely to be a cuddler?
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Male or female which are more affectionate?
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Have you had multiples of each?To be honest, I don't think there is a difference between the two.I always found it just depends on each cats own personality
Yep :lol3: At the moment I currently have 6 males and 5 females :bigthumb:
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Wow that's a lot, do you have a rescue?
i agree with @GemsGem , that it depends on the individual personality/cat. but in my experience just with my sister and brother litter mates, mickey (male) was more affectionate than snick (female). however, mickey and i were very closely bonded to each other and since our mickey crossed the bridge snick has become much more affectionate and we have become closer/bonded to each other. so i think the home environment/other resident cats can also effect how affectionate a cat is.
I had only have males my entire life. And they have been very different depending of their personalities.
For example I have a 2 years old boy who is a lovely cuddling cat, he is cute and affectionate, my mother's cat is also a boy, 4 years old and he is less affectionate but still like to sit in our lap. My two baby kittens are also toms they like to cuddle but one more than the other.
So it depends on how you raise the kitten too because if since the cat is a baby it has contact with people and he is petted and treated with love, it's more likely to become a very lovely cat no matter the sex.
In the other hand if you don't spay your cats they're more likely to be more "wild", specially if they're males.
For example I have a 2 years old boy who is a lovely cuddling cat, he is cute and affectionate, my mother's cat is also a boy, 4 years old and he is less affectionate but still like to sit in our lap. My two baby kittens are also toms they like to cuddle but one more than the other.
So it depends on how you raise the kitten too because if since the cat is a baby it has contact with people and he is petted and treated with love, it's more likely to become a very lovely cat no matter the sex.
In the other hand if you don't spay your cats they're more likely to be more "wild", specially if they're males.
I have been honored to have had many cats in my life and I often joke,but it is true, that the more down and out they were when i rescued them, the more affectionate they were after I took them in, male or female[emoji]128515[/emoji]
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when doing research on which gender cat to get when i was getting my first cat, i came across a lot of research saying that male cats are more affectionate, and social.
Fast forward 1 year, and now having 3 cats (2 males and 1 female)...i'm going to have to say that each cat is different, affectionate, and loving in their own way.
Just understand that cats are NOT like dogs, and they will not display affection and love in the same way that dogs do. So the first step is to understand that you're getting a cat. a cat is a cat is a cat. a cat is not like a dog, not like a hamster, or any other pet. its a cat.
step 2, look up the different body languages that cats display to us to communicate with us. that will help you understand how your cat is displaying affection, even if he/she does not like to be touched or pet, and trust me, cats don't like to be pet all the time, and some cats never like being touched.
my first cat Charlie, he's super social, he will come up to you, and headbutt you, and sleep on your head. he does this with anyone. strangers, and me and my BF. He rubs on people and shows affection. But only for a few seconds literally...and then he's on his way to being the solitary cat that he is.
my second cat Jet, who is female, is SUPER skittish. She hates company. She is okay with coexisting with my bf. she doesn't like new people or new things/changes. she will only come to me for pets, but when she does, she is THE MOST affectionate of my 3 cats. she'll trill, and roll, and rub, and want me to rub her belly, and she'll want me to pick her up and carry her like a baby. she will sleep next to me close to my body. but again, only when she wants. She's the only cat that seeks me out. she will also come close to my sister, but that's because we sound alike...so i feel like she gets confused and wonders who this other person is that sounds like me, but looks nothing like me, and doesn't smell like me! When i'm not petting her, or when she's not close to me, whenever we see each other, she slow blinks me always. she doesn't slow blink anyone else...other then my BF when its feeding time. She's slow blink the whole world if they gave her food. lol
my third cat, Gunther, He's the loner type. he's halfway skittish i would say (he is a former stray cat that i found and took in off of the streets). he always runs when you approach him. and he rarely comes to us willingly for pets. He isn't afraid of strangers, but will initially hide...but he's solitary mostly. He is glued to Jet however. He doesn't really sleep with us...but sometimes if i'm the only one on the bed, he will sleep with me.
all cats are different! Good luck choosing a friend that is best suited for you.
Fast forward 1 year, and now having 3 cats (2 males and 1 female)...i'm going to have to say that each cat is different, affectionate, and loving in their own way.
Just understand that cats are NOT like dogs, and they will not display affection and love in the same way that dogs do. So the first step is to understand that you're getting a cat. a cat is a cat is a cat. a cat is not like a dog, not like a hamster, or any other pet. its a cat.
step 2, look up the different body languages that cats display to us to communicate with us. that will help you understand how your cat is displaying affection, even if he/she does not like to be touched or pet, and trust me, cats don't like to be pet all the time, and some cats never like being touched.
my first cat Charlie, he's super social, he will come up to you, and headbutt you, and sleep on your head. he does this with anyone. strangers, and me and my BF. He rubs on people and shows affection. But only for a few seconds literally...and then he's on his way to being the solitary cat that he is.
my second cat Jet, who is female, is SUPER skittish. She hates company. She is okay with coexisting with my bf. she doesn't like new people or new things/changes. she will only come to me for pets, but when she does, she is THE MOST affectionate of my 3 cats. she'll trill, and roll, and rub, and want me to rub her belly, and she'll want me to pick her up and carry her like a baby. she will sleep next to me close to my body. but again, only when she wants. She's the only cat that seeks me out. she will also come close to my sister, but that's because we sound alike...so i feel like she gets confused and wonders who this other person is that sounds like me, but looks nothing like me, and doesn't smell like me! When i'm not petting her, or when she's not close to me, whenever we see each other, she slow blinks me always. she doesn't slow blink anyone else...other then my BF when its feeding time. She's slow blink the whole world if they gave her food. lol
my third cat, Gunther, He's the loner type. he's halfway skittish i would say (he is a former stray cat that i found and took in off of the streets). he always runs when you approach him. and he rarely comes to us willingly for pets. He isn't afraid of strangers, but will initially hide...but he's solitary mostly. He is glued to Jet however. He doesn't really sleep with us...but sometimes if i'm the only one on the bed, he will sleep with me.
all cats are different! Good luck choosing a friend that is best suited for you.
OMG i have to agree with you on this.
My girl Jet was so sick, and a former stray when i got her from the shelter at 8 weeks. Even at that age she needed to be syringe fed, and she was on so many meds. she is THE MOST affectionate cat (towards me anyways)
so glad that you worked with your boy and for him, and didn't give up on him!
I strongly agree with you on learning your cats body language, and understanding him/her. That's THE MOST important way you can communicate with your cat, and bond with your cat.
I had 3 cat's 1 boy 2 girls up until August last year when my boy Monty crossed the bridge.
Monty was very independent (he used to roam before we built our enclosure) but he was a mummys boy. He was never a lap cat but he would always be close and would follow me everywhere. If I was in the kitchen making dinner he used to sit right behind me and so I learned never to step back (hence the wording under my username). He wasn't bothered by anything, noise, strangers, the vet. Nothing at all.
Amber is a love bug but not a lap cat. She will come into bed with me in the morning when I wake up for a snuggle and a love to say good morning (the best way to wake up!) and she is the one who comes running to me when I get home from work.
Sasha is very reserved, she likes everything to stay the same. She doesn't like strangers much and it takes her a long time to warm to people. Sasha was never a lap cat but she was so in love with Monty and was devastated when he went. I think she turned to me for comfort as now she is ALWAYS on my lap as soon as I sit down. She will groom me and have belly rubs and gaze lovingly into my eyes.
Monty was very independent (he used to roam before we built our enclosure) but he was a mummys boy. He was never a lap cat but he would always be close and would follow me everywhere. If I was in the kitchen making dinner he used to sit right behind me and so I learned never to step back (hence the wording under my username). He wasn't bothered by anything, noise, strangers, the vet. Nothing at all.
Amber is a love bug but not a lap cat. She will come into bed with me in the morning when I wake up for a snuggle and a love to say good morning (the best way to wake up!) and she is the one who comes running to me when I get home from work.
Sasha is very reserved, she likes everything to stay the same. She doesn't like strangers much and it takes her a long time to warm to people. Sasha was never a lap cat but she was so in love with Monty and was devastated when he went. I think she turned to me for comfort as now she is ALWAYS on my lap as soon as I sit down. She will groom me and have belly rubs and gaze lovingly into my eyes.
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I have heard many times that boys are more affectionate, but I haven't found that to be true.
However, Siamese are known for their affection, so it might not be fair.
I think it depends a lot on the mother of the kitten and the exposure the kitten had to others after leaving the mother. I know the variables are hard to know with rescues, though. One of my rescued girls is very affectionate but remains hand shy from poor socialization when she was young. On the other hand, the kittens we sheltered in our home while their mother, a stray, cared for them were very affectionate and I was told years later that at least one was still a snuggle bug. The mother was a house cat abandoned due to a move, and she was comfortable with us, and we held those kittens day and night. I learned to do a lot of things with one hand cradling a kitten!
Also, some cats will have a person they "prefer". Ross enjoys sitting on my husband's lap, sleeping next to him, etc. He will only sit in my lap if my husband is away and even then only for a short time. Sophie (handshy rescue) has only recently started approaching my husband to be pet. She will not come to him when he calls or let him instigate the affection. And she certainly won't let him pick her up or sit on his lap. Ane definitely prefers me, but any human will do. Including a passing stranger if she can get to them...
However, Siamese are known for their affection, so it might not be fair.
I think it depends a lot on the mother of the kitten and the exposure the kitten had to others after leaving the mother. I know the variables are hard to know with rescues, though. One of my rescued girls is very affectionate but remains hand shy from poor socialization when she was young. On the other hand, the kittens we sheltered in our home while their mother, a stray, cared for them were very affectionate and I was told years later that at least one was still a snuggle bug. The mother was a house cat abandoned due to a move, and she was comfortable with us, and we held those kittens day and night. I learned to do a lot of things with one hand cradling a kitten!
Also, some cats will have a person they "prefer". Ross enjoys sitting on my husband's lap, sleeping next to him, etc. He will only sit in my lap if my husband is away and even then only for a short time. Sophie (handshy rescue) has only recently started approaching my husband to be pet. She will not come to him when he calls or let him instigate the affection. And she certainly won't let him pick her up or sit on his lap. Ane definitely prefers me, but any human will do. Including a passing stranger if she can get to them...
