Help! Kitten Care Questions

Please be patient I'm new.

My little Torti got out one night and we couldn't catch her. She actually pushed out of a window screen while we were sleeping. There was an appointment to get her spayed but before we could go she got out and got pregnant. Well she did good during pregnancy, light spotting but nothing major. There were two babies, one passed away yesterday we think that because it was so small and it was a runt that unfortunately couldn't make it even though the queen was taking care of both of them. After kitten passed the queen started to act odd. She moved the other baby (we will call it No Tail for now). The queen, Oddball stopped letting No Tail nurse and would put "him" in the middle of the floor and just walk away. Now she will lick him but if he tries to nurse she gets up and leaves. So after trying to get her to nurse him and getting nothing I decided to bottle feed. BUT No Tail doesn't like the bottle or the little dropper I got. I don't really blame him but I know he needs to eat. Any ideas for helping me help him? I love my kitties and I can't stand the thought of losing this little baby. I was there when they were born, Oddball wouldn't let me leave while she was in labor. 

RE the mom.  I suspect she either is sore in her teats - mastitis??   or by any other reason doesnt have milk, and nursing becomes hurting to her.

So, be observant here, and prepared to visit vet with her.

Is she still washing and stimulating the kitten?

Re the kitten.  Its prob an emergency now.   You must  be forceful, he is probably going down.

You have right, next tries use the dropper.  Its a  easier with a weak one.    On tummy, head up.

Be sure he is warm enough before you try.  Warm him up, massage too.

  If necessary, perk in some energy     @Georgia72189  

into him by smearing a little glucose sugar on his gum (market name may be Dextrose or Dextropur).  If you dont have it at hand,  you can use white caro syrup, or honey.  

He is probably dehydrated by now.  Begin with giving him water with the dropper.  You can have some of this glucose and a little salt = ie a sort of home made pedialyte - the ratio on a liter is 15-18 grammes  glucose and 3 grammes kitchen salt.   Or  almost 3 soup spoons and one big tea spoon.

Such a pedialyte is useful for both cats and humans.

After he got some  water, proceed with the kmr or goat milk, whatever you do have...   Often, at least every 2 hours till he is stabilized. 

You can give some drops of water inbetween, when you arent sleeping - dehydration is a major danger.

If mom doesnt help stimulate him, you must do it.   

Do you know how big were the kittens at birth? in grammes?  if he survives, weigh him every day...

Good luck!

Im lending a post which our new forumist wrote the other day in a somewhat similiar situation:

Our knowleable forumist and rescuer ECMyers writes:

I'm sorry to hear that the mother won't feed the babies. At this age, they must eat every 2-3 hours. If you can take her inside and get her to care for them, it certainly would be best for all, but, if that can't happen, it's good of you to take them in. It also means that you can sooner have her spayed, so that this doesn't come up again. If she is not tame enough to handle, get in touch with your local TNR group for help catching her.
If they are only a day old, it's unusual for the babies to have pooped on their own. Normally, the mother has to stimulate the hindquarters to get the bowels working. In her place, you must do this, gently, with a dab of mineral oil on a cotton ball or cosmetic round. Keep an eye on this and if they don't "go" after several days, you can try a drop of olive oil in the milk. Also remember to burp them after feeding.
As to the fussiness...I have recently had to foster some infant kittens and I have discovered that they find fleece to be VERY comforting. Just coming in contact with a plush blanket immediately calmed them down and they began to purr.
If you want some truly expert advice, you could probably look around this board for another, established thread which addresses caring for newborns. Also, check out this list of tips from Alley Cat Allies (alleycat.org--THE clearinghouse for info on outdoor cats).

Top Ten Reasons Your Kitten May Not Nurse Well
1. Cold or dehydrated (Do not feed until stable – warm and hydrated!)
2. Not hungry, especially with new intakes of healthy kittens older than 2 weeks
3. Formula/bottle/nipple to cold or hot
4. Formula bad (taste)
5. Need to urinate/defecate
6. Not fully “awake"
7. Nipple opening too small
8. Physical deformity, i.e., cleft palate (should be picked up during intake exam)
9. Illness, i.e., URI, panleukopenia…RED FLAG
10. Old enough to eat solid food

Top Fifteen Bottle Feeding Hints

1. Formula should be fresh; < 24 hours old, preferably <12 hours
2. Formula should be correct temperature; warm (nipple also)
3. Nipple opening should be large enough (use scissors), appropriate size for age; formula should 
drip out slowly when held upside down
4. Loosen bottle cap slightly
5. Place fingers lightly on “cheeks” and chin
6. Feed in prone position, do not force
7. Assure that kittens are alert…very small kittens are more likely to nurse when “asleep”, but 
kittens > 2 weeks old need to be “awake”
8. Burp kittens after feeding
9. If medicating, give after feeding unless otherwise indicated (easier on stomach)
10. Use toilet paper for stimulation
11. Use warm, damp washcloth to simulate mother’s licking to clean several times a day, especially 
around mouth and anal areas
12. Keep accurate records; particularly, weight, food intake, elimination
13. Keep ALL supplies and environment scrupulously clean
14. Formula can be used as vehicle for supplements, i.e., Nutri-Cal, L-lysine, BeneBac, FortiFlora
15. Patience, observation and determination

She is cleaning and stimulating the kitten. I was able to get him to eat some, still doesn't like the bottle but took some out of the dropper with a little fighting. After he ate she took him and started to lick and clean him. Thank you for responding to my post I am praying that this little one pulls through.