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post #1 of 31
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I just wanted to get this off my chest since my family is so far away and I do not have anyone to talk with. Last weekend my sister called me and told me that I should get home right away that my mother wasn't doing well. I flew in on Monday night and got to see my mother in the hospital Monday night and all day Tuesday. On Wednesday morning she passed away. We buried her on Saturday and I flew back home on Sunday night. It has been very difficult for me since we were close, I still can't believe that she is gone. She was only 67. I wish I was home with my father, brothers and sisters. Please keep me and my family in your prayers.

post #2 of 31
Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father a couple of years ago and I know how devastating it is to lose someone so dear to you. Please be extra gentle with yourself and know that she's always going to be with you in spirit and memory. I know that doesn't help much now, but it will help a bit down the road.
Take Care.
post #3 of 31

I cannot even imagine the loss you must feel right now. Losing a parent is a life-changing event, and I know you are thankful you were able to see her right before she passed, and shattered at the loss. I am so sorry that this is before you now and I wish you healing, and strength. You have a family here of sorts, and many will listen anytime you wish to talk.
post #4 of 31
Joan, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. No matter how old we are or where we go in life, we're still our parents' child. I lost my dad when I was 20, my mom is still alive at 67 but she doesn't take care of her health at all, which saddens me beyond words.

Sending you a cyber-hug! We are here for you!!!!
post #5 of 31
I am so sorry of your loss . I know it is hard not beeing with your family . All my family is in germany . I was raised by my grandmother and so she was like a mom to me .When I got a phone call over 5 years ago that my gradnmothere has died 2 days ago and will be burried the next day I was crushed and devastated (sp) . My grany lived in a nursing home 2 years befor she passed away . She also was in a hospital for 10 days and the nons there who take care of that nursing home did not notify any body from the family and let her die all allone by herself in that hospital . Only 2 days later the called my neffiew who live's close by . It took me over 2 years to finaly forgive the nons there not letting us know that my grandmother was in bad shape and in the hospital . I know that is no comfort to you . But what I can say is that . Your mom will always live in your heart and nobody will ever take that away from you . The last moments you had with her is great to have . Tresure those moments in your heart . Since you were both close to each other I know that she wanted for you to be happy in your life . I know that loss of your mom will hurt for a very long time and you always will miss her just like I miss my grandmother . But in time the hurt will go away and you will find oeace in your heart just like I did . My heart is going out to you ((((((HUGS)))))) and I also will keep you in my prayers for peace and comfort
post #6 of 31
Joan! I'm so sorry for your loss!

post #7 of 31
Thread Starter 
I would like to thank each one of you for your support. It is so consoling to read these posts, especially with being so far from home. You are all friends.
post #8 of 31
I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. I know how painful it is to lose a parent. Is there any way you could take some time off to go stay with your family for a while, so you can all heal together? It is so hard to go thru things like this alone.
post #9 of 31
I am so sorry for your loss. I have not lost any of my parents, so I don't know what you are quite going through, but we are all here for you if you need a shoulder to cry on. You are in my prayers.
post #10 of 31

I was so sorry to read about your mother's passing. I know a little of what you are going through, as I lost my Mom when I was 21. Take time to grieve. I suppressed my grief and I went through a lot of health problems. When you feel like crying - cry and you will feel so much better. Continue to talk to your Mom in your heart - I still do and it has been 23 years since she died. You just need to take one day at a time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

post #11 of 31
I am so sorry about your mum. My thoughts are with you and your family at this tough time. Hugs
post #12 of 31
Joan im so sorry hon...lots hugs and prayers

post #13 of 31

I'm very sorry for your loss. I know what it's like to have the loss of a parent and live far away from one's family. I have found some comfort in feeling like my father no longer needs a telephone to hear me, and I talk to him in my heart.

post #14 of 31
Oh my goodness! I am so very sorry for your loss. It must be so hard to be away from your father and siblings. You are in my thoughts. (((((((hugs)))))))
post #15 of 31
I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you, especially being so far away from your family. I will add you and your family to my prayers.

post #16 of 31
Good thoughts are headed your way.
post #17 of 31
I am so sorry hear about the loss of your Mother. It will be 2 years in February when my Mother passed away. Be kind to yourself, stay in frequent contact with your family via phone or e-mail, and cry if you need to. I found confront in talking about my Mother not so much her death, but her life. Time does make it better, but many days I still cry because I miss her, but not as much as in the beginning. If you need a shoulder, feel free to PM me.
post #18 of 31

I guess whatever that I wish to say to comfort you has been said by the rest. please just know that all of us are here to lend you a shoulder to cry on and be your support when you need us.
post #19 of 31
Joan, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. (((((HUGS))))) from me and Luna. I know nothing I say can ease the pain, but she is in heaven somewhere, watching over you. Maybe you can get some more time away to be with your family? If not, talk to them on the phone often, and lean on your friends. We at TCS are always hear, too. You're in my prayers during this most difficult time.
post #20 of 31
Joan, I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand your devastation, I lost my mother almost 4 years ago. She was my best friend, and I miss her dearly. I'm glad I got to tell her that before she passed. It takes time, no one can tell you how much time you need. Only you know. Don't let anyone tell you that you should move on - it isn't something you can just DO. Nora is right - whatever you need to do to greive is OK. Cry, scream, wail. And know that we have some pretty big collective shoulders for you to lean on if you need them.

post #21 of 31
I am sorry about the loss of your mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless!
post #22 of 31

I can feel your pain. I lost my Dad a little over a month ago. There is not a day that goes by that I wish I could hug and talk to my Dad just one more time. It has been hard to accept this but there is nothing that I can do to bring him back. Know that you are not alone with your feelings. We are all here for you, if it is any consulation I know exactly how you feel. I am so sorry for your loss. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}
post #23 of 31
I am so sorry, and wish I had something useful to say. My mother died over 12 years ago and I miss her still so much...I hope the happy memories you have of her help heal your pain and sorrow.
post #24 of 31
Oh Joan, I'm so sorry about your mother. And she was still young. I'll be thinking about you and just know we are here for you.
post #25 of 31
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and as Tammie said, she was so young. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts to help you through this grief. **HUG**
post #26 of 31
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother.


I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Take care....
post #27 of 31
I wish this had been on the board when I left home yesterday! I was in the Dahlonegah-Gainesville area attending the funeral of my best friends dad! It wouldn't have taken long for me and the hubby to have come by Lawrenceville (If memory serves me correctly) and talked with you some! But since I didn't, I'll just offer my condolences and send cyber hugs your way.
post #28 of 31
Dear Joan,

I lost my mother two years ago. She was 67. It is very hard. I still have dreams of her. I am lucky in that I live in the town where she is buried. I have planted bulbs for her. She loved daffodils and iris. Watching the flowers grow makes me feel that I am honoring her and that she is happy.

post #29 of 31
Oh Joan....please know that my heart is with you. I lost my mother 5 years ago and my father 3 years ago....not a day goes by that I don't think of them, but I know they are both in heaven waiting for me and someday I will see them both again....they are up there taking care of my dear Merlin for me until I get there. If you need to talk, please PM me, I would love to talk to you. *HUGS*
post #30 of 31
So sorry for your loss. Please take some time and pamper yourself right now. It is a tough time. I lost my father a year ago this Christmas.
My thoughts are with you.
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