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Haven't posted to this site much at all but I am a wreck right now and feel like reaching out to people who really understand over friends who just don't get it completely.
My best friend, of 16 years, Ali, died this morning. A few days ago everything seemed fine. Friday night, he seemed less active but still himself. By Saturday night he was different. Sunday morning he was gone.
My heart is absolutely broken. I know it hasn't even been a day so it's understandable to everyone here. But those around me some are saying "Im sorry, we'll get you another one", or "I'm sorry, don't get another one it will happen again". Those words aren't helping. He wasn't a cat to me, he was a significant part of my life and someone that taught me so much. He taught me unconditional love. True meaning of friendship.
I have a lot of hurt, anger, and guilt building up inside of me. I knew he was getting up there in age and wouldn't last for forever but never thought it would be this soon or this way. Honestly to me he was still just a young one. Some friends that understand say to me that he lived a good life & that I was a good parent to him. I don't feel that I was, so it causes more pain. He got fed everyday, taken care of when sick, and toys and treats here and there but I couldn't always afford the extras, or was too tired to take him outside for a few. Ali loved going outside and just walking in the yard. I would take him out once in a while but not often, I wish I would have. I wish I would have given him one last time out there.
Ali was amazing.. Anytime I was upset or crying he would quickly come over to me and curl up right next to me, or at times, on top of me. Him being around always made things better. He had a great personality & character, everyone who met him agreed. He would go to just about anyone. An incident a few years ago caused him to be scared around new males but if they showed him kindness he would crawl out of his hiding space and venture on.
He was an indoor cat that loved the outside any chance he could get. And he would try. I used to take him on a leash and walk him around, he would do good on it. The place I am at now there is a backyard and a cement path going down it. Noticing he wasn't too fond of the leash I decided to try to take it off of him & hope I could run fast enough after him should he run. He never ran, he rolled around on the cement, investigated various plants, and walked on the path. He would walk with me up and down the path, no leash. He would stop once in awhile to check out things or sounds but calling his name he would continue walking with me. When the path would end, he would stop walking & sit.
He caught a few mice in his times as well. But unlike most cats ( i am guessing) he didn't want to hurt or kill the mouse. Just play with it. Which at times left me frustrated as I didn't want to have to deal with the mouse. But he was a gentle soul. When I owned some hamsters he would never cause harm to them, seemed more interested in them than anything. Any time I owned fish & he was around he would bat at them but never try to hurt or eat them.
He had some health issues in the past and at the time I thought I was going to lose him. To really lose him this time is just a nightmare to me. Still trying to accept he is gone & not here. I feel like I still see him in the corner of my eye but when I look he's not there. This place is not the same, it's empty and I am alone.
I'm sorry I don't think I did a correct post for this place but my heart is just so broken right now. I miss my best friend.
My best friend, of 16 years, Ali, died this morning. A few days ago everything seemed fine. Friday night, he seemed less active but still himself. By Saturday night he was different. Sunday morning he was gone.
My heart is absolutely broken. I know it hasn't even been a day so it's understandable to everyone here. But those around me some are saying "Im sorry, we'll get you another one", or "I'm sorry, don't get another one it will happen again". Those words aren't helping. He wasn't a cat to me, he was a significant part of my life and someone that taught me so much. He taught me unconditional love. True meaning of friendship.
I have a lot of hurt, anger, and guilt building up inside of me. I knew he was getting up there in age and wouldn't last for forever but never thought it would be this soon or this way. Honestly to me he was still just a young one. Some friends that understand say to me that he lived a good life & that I was a good parent to him. I don't feel that I was, so it causes more pain. He got fed everyday, taken care of when sick, and toys and treats here and there but I couldn't always afford the extras, or was too tired to take him outside for a few. Ali loved going outside and just walking in the yard. I would take him out once in a while but not often, I wish I would have. I wish I would have given him one last time out there.
Ali was amazing.. Anytime I was upset or crying he would quickly come over to me and curl up right next to me, or at times, on top of me. Him being around always made things better. He had a great personality & character, everyone who met him agreed. He would go to just about anyone. An incident a few years ago caused him to be scared around new males but if they showed him kindness he would crawl out of his hiding space and venture on.
He was an indoor cat that loved the outside any chance he could get. And he would try. I used to take him on a leash and walk him around, he would do good on it. The place I am at now there is a backyard and a cement path going down it. Noticing he wasn't too fond of the leash I decided to try to take it off of him & hope I could run fast enough after him should he run. He never ran, he rolled around on the cement, investigated various plants, and walked on the path. He would walk with me up and down the path, no leash. He would stop once in awhile to check out things or sounds but calling his name he would continue walking with me. When the path would end, he would stop walking & sit.
He caught a few mice in his times as well. But unlike most cats ( i am guessing) he didn't want to hurt or kill the mouse. Just play with it. Which at times left me frustrated as I didn't want to have to deal with the mouse. But he was a gentle soul. When I owned some hamsters he would never cause harm to them, seemed more interested in them than anything. Any time I owned fish & he was around he would bat at them but never try to hurt or eat them.
He had some health issues in the past and at the time I thought I was going to lose him. To really lose him this time is just a nightmare to me. Still trying to accept he is gone & not here. I feel like I still see him in the corner of my eye but when I look he's not there. This place is not the same, it's empty and I am alone.
I'm sorry I don't think I did a correct post for this place but my heart is just so broken right now. I miss my best friend.