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My mum went and saw him after that as when she got the phone call that his side had spit open she was out. I thank god that he didnt get put to sleep before she did because I didnt want him to have our parting memory as the last in his mind. My mum said that when she called his name at the vet his ears sprung up and he got up and turned around to see my mum while he was in his cage. My mum patted him. When she came home and told me this I wanted to go back and see him again but I thought I didnt want to put anymore of my negativity and fear into him. But now I regret it like crazy. I wasn't there for him. The last time I saw him I left him scared, tense. I wasnt comforting enough. I didnt make it known how much he really meant to me and how much I'd miss him, how much I was scared for him. We got a phone call a while later as the vet was going to do the operation. My cat was being assessed while he was asleep obviously. Our vet advised us that the cancer had spread right through his rib cage as mentioned earlier in this post. It was developing on his legs too. The lumps he had around his body were cancerous although we were advised a long time ago they weren't. He said the fact that my cat was 15.5 years old, the way the cancer was spreading and if it were his cat he would put my boy down while he was asleep and not suffering. That's what we decided to do. I hate myself for it because I told him I wouldnt put him down, I promised him I wouldnt. We went to the vet to go and see him one last time before he did get put down. I was devastated and crying uncontrollably and outside the vet I was shaking and my legs wre having spasms. It hurt seeing him on the operating table. We said our good byes and I went in a second time because I couldnt leave him again without saying a few things. What is also KILLING me is that I was so upset I didnt even think to stay around for his last injection. The vet didnt mention anything to me about sking if I wanted to be present or when he was going to do it. I was so upset I went in the next day and asked why he didnt ask. At the time I was so upset and messed up the thought didnt enter my head, and I wont lie apart of me did think get the hell out of there I can't see him like this. But as mentioned I had it in me to go back and say goodbye a second time. If the vet had asked me the words, I would have been with him until his very last moments. The vet called me last night and said he said to my mum '' do you want to leave it at that '' meaning to you want to stay or go. My mum was so upset those words didnt even register and she wouldnt had even knew what he was meaning by that even if it did nor did she know I wanted to be with my cat in his last moments. I kissed my cat on his head, paws, feet, side, tail and back before I left him and said thank you for making me a stronger, better, wiser person etc. I am devastated though that I wasn't there for him at the very end. I wanted to hold and be with my cat while he got that last injection and he was taking his last breaths and finally cross over. I feel like I failed him, and me, by not holding him and comfoting him to the very end. My mind has been a mess ever since. I cant get it out of my head.
Sorry for the in depth post. Ive posted this before in a thread I made. But no matter how many times I tell this story, all talk to people, I cant get it out of my head that I wasnt there for him in the moments he really needed me to be. I failed him. I failed myself.
I feel like I took him against his will to the vet scared, I didnt comfort him and thank him enough and show him enough compassion and love. I broke 2 promises to him that I wouldnt give up on him and wouldnt put him down. I'd tell him over the years so many times I'd never leave you and always protect you and when it mattered most I did leave him and I didnt protect him. I left him there sacred and I left him there after he let out that grizzly murmuer like he knew it would be the last time was saw each other and he knew he was going to die.I hate myself for not going back to see and comfort and talk and pat him a second time after I had dropped him off and my mum had seen him and at the end I dont forgive myself for not being there and holding him and talking to him when he got his last injection that ended his life.
Yesterday I cried the most and hardest out of all days. I feel I did heal some what and get some of the demons out although they are still there. I cried again this morning like I do every time I wake up. I cried so many times yesterday too. I cried hard for the 3 hours when my family were comforting, consoling and talking to me.
Sorry for the in depth post. Ive posted this before in a thread I made. But no matter how many times I tell this story, all talk to people, I cant get it out of my head that I wasnt there for him in the moments he really needed me to be. I failed him. I failed myself.
I feel like I took him against his will to the vet scared, I didnt comfort him and thank him enough and show him enough compassion and love. I broke 2 promises to him that I wouldnt give up on him and wouldnt put him down. I'd tell him over the years so many times I'd never leave you and always protect you and when it mattered most I did leave him and I didnt protect him. I left him there sacred and I left him there after he let out that grizzly murmuer like he knew it would be the last time was saw each other and he knew he was going to die.I hate myself for not going back to see and comfort and talk and pat him a second time after I had dropped him off and my mum had seen him and at the end I dont forgive myself for not being there and holding him and talking to him when he got his last injection that ended his life.
Yesterday I cried the most and hardest out of all days. I feel I did heal some what and get some of the demons out although they are still there. I cried again this morning like I do every time I wake up. I cried so many times yesterday too. I cried hard for the 3 hours when my family were comforting, consoling and talking to me.
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